Daycare Problems (Long Post)

[dreamcometrue]

I am sorry if this is not the answer you'd like to hear, but after reading your first and then your 2nd post, what I would do is pull her out and look for another daycare center/preschool! I know this one is convenient and any others you'd probably have to pay during the summer, but sometimes you just have to take the good with the bad! It doesn't sound like they are taking care of these little ones properly! 4 bites since September is way too much and truthfully, if one kid is the daycare's teachers, and the other the principals' teacher, I can't see them do very much. Biting is serious, esp. if the bite breaks skin! All kinds of diseases can be transferred!

Good luck with whatever you decide!

 

[Disney Doll]

Four bites is alot, but as other daycare providers have attested to, it can happen so fast that sometimes you just can't stop it. They don't have 1 to 1 supervision, so child A can be biting child B while teacher is dealing with child C. The thing that concerns me more is that it seems to be the teacher's son who is doing most of the biting and the proper follow-up isn't being done (reports etc.)...is that because it is the teacher's son? Does she not want the school administrators to know her child may be the problem? I would focus more on that aspect of it...seems dishonest to me.

As far as a 2 year old going to a bathroom down the hall by herself...that is unacceptable. What if someone is wandering the hall and kidnaps her? What if she falls into the toilet. She wet herself 5 times in one day. Didn't the daycare teacher realize that she obviously wasn't going to the bathroom even though she may have been in the bathroom. This would be more of a reason for me to change daycares.

 

[mickeyboat]

My DD was a biter. I felt soooooo terrible about it, and did what I could at home to address the issue. But what really needed to happen is that the day care provider keep her under closer supervision, so that when situations arose when she might be likely to bite, they were addressed before someone got bitten. (shadowing like kat3668 mentioned). That many bites in such a short period of time is a valid concern, and I would definitely be talking the the director of the program about it. There shouls be a written biting policy in place.

And your daughter is way too young to be leaving the room to go to the bathroom. Heck, even in K the kids weren't allowed to go down the hall to use the bathroom until much later in the school year. In our public Pre-K program, a teacher went to the bathroom every time with every student.

Good luck.

Denae

 

[iloveboardwalk]

The biter. I have been on both sides of this. It stinks. When the parent is not in the classroom, you can't stop your child from biting and when your child is the one being bitten, it makes your heart ache.

In YOUR case, I think they are not being supervised properly. What is the child to teacher ratio in the classroom? If I were you, I would pull her out, but not necessarily because of the number of bites, per se. I would do it because of the lack of supervision and proper reporting. The potty issue is concerning.

My son was bitten 5 times over a period of 3 weeks. But I was well aware of the steps being taken to stop it from happening, and they did get it under control. The solution was NOT to kick the biters out, but to teach them better ways to communicate. Kicking the biters out only serves to pass the problem off to another daycare. A good pre-school teacher can address this problem in the classroom successfully with the proper support from the center and the parents without shunning the biter.

I eventually moved him out of that daycare for other reasons, but at his NEW daycare, he was the biter. It took us a few weeks to get it under control, and a lot of work, but he hasn't bitten in well over a month now. I did get a few very nasty phone calls from one mother who is apparently the perfect mother parenting the perfect child.