Daughter attending bday party for twins

[amy-momofthree]

My dd7 was invited to a bday party for twin girls in her class. Other than them being in her class, she doesn't know them well. She wants to go to the party but what's the protocol on gift giving? Do I get the girls their own gift? Or one big gift for them to share?

Any ideas? I don't want to spend more than $15-20 total. I know that is not a lot for a gift but if I spend more it's not worth her going. If it were one of her good friends, I would feel differently. But she's only known these girls for one month and never mentions them. She just wants to go to the party.

Thanks!!

 

[Patience]

I would take two gifts, one for each girl. I have twin cousins and they hated being treated as a unit instead of as individuals.

 

[mickeymaker2003]

How about a movie pass and a box of theater candy for each girl?

 

[riley2008]

My boys have no problems with joint gifts. They'd much prefer a $20 Lego set to share rather than two $10 sets. (They are never treated as a unit, and not thought of that way. Now they are best of friends though and will hopefully be that way lifelong.)

Now, if they do receive joint gifts, I do let them do joint thank you notes.

Our friends with twins - girls almost 8, and boys almost 12 also appreciate joint gifts too and long as it's really a "gift for two". Don't do one doll and expect both to share it. Games, legos, ect, things that can easily be shared and worked on together are fine.

 

[disneymomoftwins]

I have twins and they would be happy with $10.00 each and a card!

 

[piglet33]

My dd7 was invited to a bday party for twin girls in her class. Other than them being in her class, she doesn't know them well. She wants to go to the party but what's the protocol on gift giving? Do I get the girls their own gift? Or one big gift for them to share?

Any ideas? I don't want to spend more than $15-20 total. I know that is not a lot for a gift but if I spend more it's not worth her going. If it were one of her good friends, I would feel differently. But she's only known these girls for one month and never mentions them. She just wants to go to the party.

Thanks!!

I would get each child their own gift. Why do you say that spending more than $20 is not worth your daughter going? If you feel this way, then maybe your daughter shouldn't go to the party. Parties are meant to be fun and for the kids to spend time together. That is what makes them worth it.

 

[amy-momofthree]

How about a movie pass and a box of theater candy for each girl?

That is a GREAT idea! Thanks!!

 

[bookgirl]

I have twin nephews.

Some people only brought one gift for the twin who invited them.
They are in different classes and some of their friends are specific to one of the twins.

Some people brought a shared gift (games, outdoor toys, etc), Some brought two small gifts.

These two options are mostly from their teammates and kids friends with both of the twins.

Any of these are acceptable.

My personal feeling is two kids two gifts.

 

[AndreaDM]

My 8 year old daughter's best friend is a twin and so of course she gets invited to their parties. We always send 2 gifts that are similar but not the same thing. For example, 2 different LPS or Polly Pocket sets. I think they like having their own gifts to open.

 

[ancestry]

As a parent of twins, please don't get them a gift to share. That will be a nightmare for all involved. I, personally, would rather a child not bring a gift than bring a gift that my kids have to share.

I usually have this problem in reverse. My twins get invited to another child's party and I end up having to buy two gifts, one from each one of my children.

 

[lost*in*cyberspace]

As a parent of twins, please don't get them a gift to share. That will be a nightmare for all involved. I, personally, would rather a child not bring a gift than bring a gift that my kids have to share.

I am a twin myself and I agree. I used to hate joint gifts when I was a child.

Ideally, the parents should throw a party for each child. For a joint party, bring a gift for the girl who invited your daughter. If they both invited her, bring a small gift for each.

I thought they tried to put twins in different classes - they did for me and my twin.

 

[ancestry]

I thought they tried to put twins in different classes - they did for me and my twin.

Our school district has left it up to the parents. The parents decide if they want the kids in the same class or in separate ones. I choose the separate route because of the dynamic that occurs between my twins (one tends to dominate the other). However it isn't the easiest route as it means double parent teacher conferences, keeping up with different homework, etc. Having two kids in the same grade really opens ones eyes to the differences between teachers and the great difference in the curriculum.

 

[amy-momofthree]

Thanks everyone! I will get two gifts.

 

[Isi]

My twins would prefer their own gift, even if its just a $5 Mcdonalds card..

 

[lizabu]

Definitely 2 gifts. I have good friends that are twins and even though they look almost exactly alike they are 2 very different people

 

[puffkin]

I am a twin and I would HATE a joint gift. I mean, something like the movie tickets is fine, but I would have preferred something small but my own when I was a kid rather than big joint gift.

I know everyone is differet, but I HATE HATE HATE sharing a birthday with my twin. To make it even worse, our Dad's is 3 days later so we all get mashed together. And now my DS birthday is a week before mine so we are all in party fatigue by the time we get through his stuff. Sore subject for me

 

[Candlz]

Thank you for asking this question. As a new(ish) mom of twins, I am curious what the dynamic will be going forward.

Their first party was a join party and many people brought 1 gift - which was more than fine by them - they had no idea why all these people were there and why they were wearing funny hats. As they get older, we are going to try to make their birthdays family trips. Fingers crossed on that...

To the OP - for my 8th birthday I invited my entire class, including people I really didn't know. That was the year I met my best friend - I don't know if we'd have talked much if it wasn't for that party. Value comes in many forms.

 

[Mom_Rides]

My DD has friends who are twins and she is invited to their birthday party every year. We do alike gifts for each of them. One year we did baby dolls that were the same but had different color clothing on them. One year we did Barbies that were the same but in different color clothes. One year we did bath towel sets that were different with different kinds of fun bubble bath. This year the twins got their ears pierced so my DD said she wanted to get them each earrings. I try to guide my DD in what she picks out so that there's no "C got a better gift from A then I did" type of thing going on.

 

[bookgirl]

The twins are 12 now and there has been talk of no more parties (summer birthdays so big backyard pool parties with entertainment and all thier school/teams/neiborhood buddies sometimes up to 50-60 people). Instead each boy will get to invite his friend along for a fun activity. Road Trip/Movie/amusment park type of thing. Completley solves the gift problem and is way less expensive.

This year we had just returned from a road trip for thier BasketBall team and there was no party at all. We all ate pizza and threw money at them they actually seemed just fine with that.

 

[mjkacmom]

I have twins, and think 2 gifts. At this age, most invite the whole class. Also, some implied that the gifts should be "small" because you have to buy 2 of them. Please realize that when twins are invited to parties, their parents have to buy 2 gifts, as well. I'm glad mine are in separate classes, because when they were together in kindergarten (just one class available), parties cost me a fortune (now parties are usually single sex, and girls have a lot more parties than boys).