Curfew for a 15y old?

[pearlieq]

No curfew, everything handled on a case-by-case basis.

 

[disykat]

I have a 14 year old and, although I haven't had the need to set a curfew, I said 11. At his age I think he's too young for me to just go to bed with him not even home yet. Heck, the church youth group was going midnight bowling and I didn't let him go. There's plenty of time for that when he's 16, driving himself, and I can just go to bed!

 

[MichelleVW]

My 16 year old doesn't really have a curfew, it just depends on what/where she is going.....but 11 sounds good...

 

[CourtasanSatine]

During HS my curfew was as follows

9th-10th: 11
11th: 11:30
12: Since I turned 18 at the start of the school year it was dumped, it became be home after the movie or school event(allowing for things like away games and the like)

 

[Aisling]

My almost 15 year old son has no curfew. He only goes out on weekends, to his friends homes, and since there's no school the next day, he can stay at his friend's house until 2 am if he wants to, and once it was 3 am when they were doing a marathon Monopoly session. The parents are always home, and the same group of kids rotate houses every weekend. Usually parents take turns picking up the kids, and dropping them all off to their own homes. This all takes place in a neighborhood of maybe 6 or 7 blocks. It works out fine for everyone involved, and the kids have never given the host parents any trouble. The same kids have been doing this for years together.

 

[Nala2007]

I didn't vote because I am all for case by case basis, what the reason is, the maturity of the child in question, etc.. That's what my parents did for us...oddly enough I think it was that reverse psychology because every now and then my mother would say 1AM, but I would be way freaked out by that and come home before midnight!!

 

[poohandwendy]

Depends on what they are doing and what day of the week it is.

My 17 yo has a junior license, so 11 o'clock is pretty much it for him and most of his friends because they can't drive any later. During the week, I expect him home earlier because of homework. It's pretty much a case-by-case basis with us.

 

[disneydude91]

Well, I don't really have a curfew because I'm a turtle! But if I did go out of my shell every once in a while I'd probably say 11 is a good curfew.

 

[shortbun]

I really take it on a event by event basis.

Unsupervised party, 10:30.
Movies/amusement park/etc... with friends we know and us providing transportation, can be as late as midnight.

Lol, you ALLOW your 15 yo to GO to an unsupervised party? The curfew for that around here would be, "NO!" But, I do agree that a pat curfew would be too rigid. Timing should be on an event by event basis. Group of girls? Mixed gender group? Couple date? School dance? All of those would be done separately by me.

 

[golfgal]

Is your 15 year old in 9th or 10th grade. For me that would make a difference. We don't have set curfews yet and probably won't but we will expect the kids to let us know when they plan on being home and that will be when they are expected home, within reason.

Some friends of ours would set an alarm clock for when their kids were supposed to be home and the last one home was to shut it off. If the alarm clock went off and woke mom/dad, you were in trouble unless you had a good reason for being late. We will probably do something similar--and no, they won't be able to sneak in, turn it off and sneak out, DH is much too light of a sleeper for that.

Another great tip I got about curfews is to never announce a curfew while their friends or DATE is there. That give the kids an easy excuse to leave if need be.

 

[MushyMushy]

When my DS isn't in trouble, his weekday curfew is 8:00 and the weekend curfew is 11:00.

He doesn't like it too much because all of his friends have no curfews, but he doesn't fight it and he doesn't break it. The few times he's ever late, he calls, and then it's only a matter of a few minutes.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I use the legal curfew as a rule.
Of course at home I would not let her out until 11pm during M-Thur, I would ask she is home earlier like around 8pm.
Find out your laws for your area.

Children under the age of 17 cannot be out between 11 p.m. and 6 a.m. from Sunday to Thursday and between midnight and 6 a.m. on Friday and Saturday. There is an exception if the child is going to or returning from a job without taking a detour and if the child is supervised by a parent or guardian

 

[meandtheguys2]

There isn't any good reason for a 15 year old to be out wandering after 11:00, in general. Of course, there are exceptions to every rule. Very little in my home, is engraved in stone!

 

[powellrj]

I use the legal curfew as a rule.
Of course at home I would not let her out until 11pm during M-Thur, I would ask she is home earlier like around 8pm.
Find out your laws for your area.

Do you know what the Juvenile Curfew law is?

Our schools web site has it and I copied and pasted it from there. We have never had a curfew, we always went on a case by case policy. I was kind of surprised about the weekend curfew for younger teens.


What stand-up use to do the act that included his mom telling him that nothing good ever happens after 2am and he said you have that wrong that nothing good ever starts until after 2am




A child 15, 16, or 17 years of age should be home:

By 11:00 P.M. on Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday nights



By 1:00 A.M. on Friday and Saturday nights.



A child less than 15 years of age should be home:

By 11:00 P.M. every night of the week.



A child in violation of the curfew law will be taken into custody by a Law Enforcement Officer unless the child is:



1) accompanied by the child’s parent, guardian, or custodian; or

2) accompanied by an adult specified by the child’s parent, guardian, or custodian; or

3) Participating in, going to, or returning from lawful employment, a school sanctioned activity, or a religious event.

 

[barkley]

i did'nt have a curfew at that age largly because my parents did'nt grant me allot of freedom on school nights (they had work in the morning and were asleep well before 11 and did'nt need to be up worrying about me)-and activities on the weekend were on a case by case basis.

i'de check to see what the local ordinances are before i'de commit to one for my child-around here some cities are lowering the times. one area city recently changed theirs. used to be 11 pm unless the minor could prove they were returning from a school event, organized group activity (church or other) or leaving a movie. now the movie exception has been removed, and teens without a 'valid adult' (not another teen whose simply turned 18) can't be in restaurants or cafes after 11 either. this of course does'nt apply to situations where kids are at each others homes and a parent drives them back to their home, but honestly i have to wonder-who are these kind, night owl parents that stay up to 11 or later and then ferry the kids home?

 

[slo]

My DD is only 8, and I may change my mind 100 times before she is 15, but I definitly say before 10.

Question:
What is your 15 year old doing, that she needs to come home so late?


When I was 15, the only place that I went was to a friends house, or somewhere with my parents. I realize things have changed, but 15 seems a little young to have that type of freedom. I know I probably sound old fashion, and I'm sure I will have heated battles with my girls at this age too. But I just don't know what a 15 year could be doing that requires a curfew - it's not like they can drive anywhere. Wow....I sound so old!!!!!!

 

[golfgal]

My DD is only 8, and I may change my mind 100 times before she is 15, but I definitly say before 10.

Question:
What is your 15 year old doing, that she needs to come home so late?


When I was 15, the only place that I went was to a friends house, or somewhere with my parents. I realize things have changed, but 15 seems a little young to have that type of freedom. I know I probably sound old fashion, and I'm sure I will have heated battles with my girls at this age too. But I just don't know what a 15 year could be doing that requires a curfew - it's not like they can drive anywhere. Wow....I sound so old!!!!!!

Speaking from my own personal experience when I was a teenager, if you went to a move that started say around 7:30, ended around 9:30 then went and got something to eat after, it is at least 10:30 before you are done. Then, factor in getting everyone home (either parents driving the gang home or a 16 year old driving everyone home) that is at least 11 or so. I had an 11:30 curfew when I wasn't driving and 12:00 if I was driving to allow extra time to get everyone home. Most of my friends had midnight curfews as well.

 

[MUFFYCAT]

Weekends 11:00.

she doesn't go out during the week. plays lacrosse everyday and gets home at 6:30.