Crying At Work A BIG No-No... But, WWYD? Was I Disrespected?

[kilee]

I think the fact that other coworkers can read the log is really odd. However, I'm assuming you knew this was the case???

Anyhow, take this whatever way you want...but I'd probably not rock the boat any further. I'd get a doctors note and deal w/ anything further that was brought to my attention.

From the sound of your post, you went a bit overboard. When they said you'd have to have a meeting....I guess I'm the type of person who'd of left it there. By the sounds of it you wanted them to bend the rules. Now, it sounds like you're upset because when they wouldn't bend the rules you let your emotions get the best of you and now you're embarassed by the end result (which is others seeing a log you knew they'd see).

Last time I cried on the job over something work related, I quit a week later because I knew I lost a lot of respect. I was then seen as being an emotional basketcase. I couldn't stand the aftermath so I gave my notice and found something new.

 

[dicar123]

I don't have much experience with being sick at work, but I did once have a crying jag when I had strep throat.

I was a freshman, living in a dorm and had walked all the way to the health center, just as sick as I could be. I was seen at the center, treated dismissively because it was "just a cold", although they did agree to do a throat swab.

I walked all the way back to the dorm, got to my room and found a message from the health center. You have strep, you need to come back for meds. I went out to the front desk to see if ANYONE would drive me because I just wanted to die, and told my tale of woe to the cute Resident Assistant. I got two words out and then just started to sob. It was so humiliating!

But he did give me a ride AND arranged to have dinner delivered to my room! I spent the rest of the semester avoiding him and then got over it.

You aren't alone!

 

[JerseyJanice]

I had strep throat this week too, and it's no joke. Untreated strep can lead to heart disease and if you have certain heart conditions to begin with, it can be very dangerous. It bothers me that your airline would even want you at work.

That said, you were not disrespected. You wanted the call center person to cut you a break and she didn't. That's called following the rules, not disrespect.

 

[merryweather20]

Wow! You fly in close quarters with the customers and presumeably handle food? I can't beleive how they handled that.

My brother works in a kitchen and he would have been written up for coming into work sick in the frst place (although it is an easy mistake to make).

They are wrong on every count. Writing those things down for anyone except an on-site supervisor was wrong, and the content was wrong in any event. How is she going to diagnose you from the phone? If they need a Dr's note they should ask for one

 

[mrsklamc]

Ever seen on TV when they say 'I object, speaks to motive!" She should only have commented on your BEHAVIOR --'she cried'--rather than your mental state- 'she's just trying to get out of work'- since I assume this person is not psychic nor paid to be.

 

[rie'smom]

I know how you feel. I was an F/A for Delta. You can put something in writing with a doctors note to have in your file, I would do that and then just drop it. With Delta we were nonunion and the rules were very straight forward. I had to do what you did once, sort of. I was on a 2 day and then they needed me to come off that and deadhead and work a turn around. I couldn't I was sick as a dog, they let me off but I got marked as calling in sick even though I completed the 2 day. That put me on doctors notes, ugh. I ended up changing careers. Put something in writing in your file with the doctors note you will be ok. They really just have so many people they are dealing with, they just are not very nice sometimes, scheduling.

This is what I would suggest. That way if anyone checks your file, they can see that you were sick.

 

[a1tinkfans]

OP: I hope you are feeling better!

Get a doctors note, call them back and have THAT indicated in your file.
Seems like an insensitive almost INVASION of privacy way that they handles you but I do not know your work rules................

more importantly, feel better.........this too ....(situation) shall pass........

 

[manning]

This is a smart aleck remark so don't take it seriously.

I would get a note from the doctor, go into the meeting, give them a big kiss, then hand them the note, look them in the eye and tell them to have a nice day. Then turn around and leave.

 

[AKL_Megs]

Just wanted to thank everyone for their comments and suggestions!

Just to update...

I went to have a talk with my manager, but she was out and our snarky assistant manager was in, so I told them I would set up an appointment. I've talked to some other flight attendants who have been having a hard time lately with these people too, and so obviously someone needs to stand up for us, and I guess that person will be me!

 

[DWGal210]

I'm sorry you're having these issues; and from your last post, it looks like you have solidarity with other employees so that's a good thing!

It just boggles my mind that an airline would want you to come in while you were sick. If I had a flight attendant taht was clearly sick while in flight, I would certainly be saying something to the airlines when I got off the plane!

Businesses have absence / sick policies in place so that they can punish those people that abuse it - - but I don't think that's the case with you. They should understand that you are trying not only to get yourself better so you can be at work sooner - you also don't want to get passengers sick!!

I hope you feel better. Keep us updated and let us know how it goes!

 

[ols386]

I think it's wrong that anyone you work with can go into the records and see the comments posted by your supervisor(s). That information should be private and confidential.

I'm sure under normal circumstances, you pobably wouldn't have cried. You were ill, and felt real bad, and I know that I would be more emotional in a situation like that. I wouldn't worry about the crying, at this point in time. It's done and over, but as stated earlier, don't think it's right that anyone can go into your record and read about it. That's just wrong.

I am concerned about the fact that the airline wanted you to go ahead and work, knowing that you were ill, and had strep throat, and probably not over it yet, and very possibly still contagious. I don't like it that they were willing to let you fly, and maybe infect passengers. That really sucks! I wish I knew what airline it was.....I wouldn't use it in the future. Of course, any passenger can still pick-up germs/bacteria on ANY flight from ANY passenger, but to place an attendant on a flight knowing they may be contagious, says something about the airline.

I hope you are feeling better now!!

 

[ckay87]

This is a smart aleck remark so don't take it seriously.

I would get a note from the doctor, go into the meeting, give them a big kiss, then hand them the note, look them in the eye and tell them to have a nice day. Then turn around and leave.

Lick the note, while you're at it.

 

[Shelly F - Ohio]

OMG are you working for Hitler or what. I can't believe they would expect you to fly in a confined space with other people as sick as you are.

I really feel that you are very worn down and tired from being sick and that is what caused you to come unglued. If I were you I probably would have cried too.

When you are sick you just want some compasion not someone who treats you like a dog. I would get a note from your doctor and bring it to the meeting. Hold your chin up high and enter the meeting prepared to plead your case. Explain to them that by comeing to work sick and so tired it could have put the passengers in danger had there been an emergency on board and you were not attentive enough due to your overall well being not being 100%.

Praying for you and hoping all goes well.

 

[sbell111]

Ever seen on TV when they say 'I object, speaks to motive!" She should only have commented on your BEHAVIOR --'she cried'--rather than your mental state- 'she's just trying to get out of work'- since I assume this person is not psychic nor paid to be.

You see, the judge is going to deny that motion. Go with "Objection. Assuming facts not in evidence." ("Speaks to motive" would be a defense to an objective)

I agree with your point, however. The truth is, the only thing that I had a problem with is their entering their assumption into the record. The rest was unfortunate, but it is what it is.