Creepy Old Men...

[Cool-Beans]

I never would have noticed he was staring in the first place. If I *did* notice, I'd ignore it. Chances are it meant nothing and, well...other people's kids are their problem, not mine. If they don't want to supervise them, I'm not going to spend my vacation doing it.

Sounds mean, but Good Lord, if I can't take a vacation without worrying about other people, then there is no point to taking it.

But that's just me. Everyone has to do what works for them! And you sure didn't hurt anyone by hanging out in the hot tub.

 

[FroggyinArk]

I wouldn't have even got into the hottub myself with a creep old man there! Icky! I don't do public hottubs for any reason. Didn't it make you feel all dirty to be bathing with some old man? LMAO!

you know, some people say i am creepy looking, and by some peoples definition i qualify as old,,

and i do get into the hot tubs at hotels, especialy if my legs are hurting and i dont feel good. and with my facial disfigurement some people do find me really strange looking and its hard for most to say who or what i am actually looking at because i turn my eye not my head,

if i give people a bad feeling by my presence, i can ussually tell if they are uncomfortable and will leave, in this case, i think the op did exactly what should have been done, and should be commended for hanging around while the creepy old man was there.


and as for "bathing with some old man" do you swim in the hotel pools?

do you go to water parks?

geuss what,, there are several hundred other people that have been in those too...

 

[MushyMushy]

I think you were right to trust your instincts and your response was great. You didn't put him on the spot just in case you were wrong, but you also did what you could to protect those girls.



We need more people like you in this world. (this is coming from a former 12 year old who sure could have used a protector)

 

[Am_I_There_Yet]

I agree with about 99.5% of the posters on this thread.

You did the right thing and I applaud you for it. As the mother of three girls, it's nice to know that there are those out there who will take the initiative to do the right thing.

I would have done the exact same thing, the exact same way. Thanks for being there!

 

[misslissa]

I'm interested to know how you knew this person was "leering" at the girls.
Aren't most hot tubs circular? Maybe they were just in his line of vision, and he was relaxing after a long day at the parks, blankly staring at nothing, really, and thinking about what he was going to have for dinner. Did you feel it was innapropriate just because he was an "old man", which means what?
I see by your signature that you are 22, what is old to you? 40? 50? 60?
Maybe he was there first, just trying to relax, and was wishing the silly girls would just go and leave him in peace.

Wow... you know... this post has stirred up a lot of mixed feelings with me.

The reason I posted is just because I just thought of it while I was reading on here and thought I'd mention something. It is an odd situation, and I was wondering what others would do since I did feel a really ODD sense that something was WRONG (and AM NOT a parent). Part of the reason I knew since someone has asked is that he was starring (almost uncontrolably at their "bathing suit" areas)... I don't find that appropriate.

I would find it equally inappropriate if it was a 22 year old, I would estimate he was around 70 (to most people, this is considered somewhat senior). It is too bad that this poster didn't get that I understand the difference between right and wrong, even though I am 22.

And, anyone who has stayed at OKW knows that the hot tub actually isn't circle shaped. Sorry.

 

[misslissa]

I agree with about 99.5% of the posters on this thread.

You did the right thing and I applaud you for it. As the mother of three girls, it's nice to know that there are those out there who will take the initiative to do the right thing.

I would have done the exact same thing, the exact same way. Thanks for being there!

Thanks for that. I wasn't posting this for any applaud whatsoever. It took no time, 10 minutes max... and DF understood too... we weren't going anywhere.

 

[krcit]

As a mom of 3(one of which is an 11 yo dd) I appreciate what you did. I would've done the same thing. IMO, you can tell mindless staring from creepy leering and I think staying there until he left was the right thing.I'm with my kids in the playground every day after school and while it annoys me when there is a child there who is unsupervised, I could never just ignore a dangerous situation b/s it's "not my problem or responsiblity" I would hope that most people would feel the same way but unfortunately that doesn't seem to be the case

 

[Shutterbug]

Guess what I get in hot tubs, does this mean I have to close my eyes or always make sure to always twist my head so I dont get accused of "leering at them" ?

 

[Stacerita]

There are a lot of chesters out there so always let your gut instincts be your guide in situations like this. Maybe it was nothing, or it could have been something. Will never know. But you felt the need to stay and so you did the right thing. I was wondering where the parents were? I thought most hot tubs had posted signs that kids under like 14 or 16 were not to be in there at any time. Thats what I usually see. Those girls probably shouldn't have been in there in the first place and their parents should have been supervising them as well. Still doesn't give the guy the right to stare/leer.

 

[lulugirl]

Maybe the guy was completely innocent and harmless but then again he could have been a filthy creep. I think the Op did the right thing, if your "creep radar" goes off, I don't see the harm in trusting it.....

 

[DaisyD]

This is a very uncouth response.

Why? Because I don't care to bath with creepy old men that leer at young girsl? Give it a break.

 

[KathyTX]

Okay, everybody take a deep breath and remember to be respectful toward each other.

 

[meloneyb21]

Guess what I get in hot tubs, does this mean I have to close my eyes or always make sure to always twist my head so I dont get accused of "leering at them" ?

I know that you KNOW what she meant. There was a certain way that the man was looking at the girls. People can tell the difference between "leering" and unintentional staring. The OP knew it was "leering" so she decided to stick around. What's the harm in that? It seems like you're just trying to start a meaningless debate about something you know she didn't mean...

 

[meloneyb21]

DaisyD, I think that Froggyswife meant that your response had nothing to do with the issue at hand. You were more worried about misslissa being in the hottub with a "dirty old man" as opposed to the reason she stayed there in the first place, the fact that he looked threatening to those young girls...Let's not turn this into a war of the words...

 

[Froggyswife]

DaisyD, I think that Froggyswife meant that your response had nothing to do with the issue at hand. You were more worried about misslissa being in the hottub with a "dirty old man" as opposed to the reason she stayed there in the first place, the fact that he looked threatening to those young girls...Let's not turn this into a war of the words...

Actually that is what I was thinking meloneyb21.
If I misunderstood your post DaisyD I appologise.

 

[misslissa]

Guess what I get in hot tubs, does this mean I have to close my eyes or always make sure to always twist my head so I dont get accused of "leering at them" ?

I get in hot tubs all of the time. I live in a 35 floor condo actually that has a hot tub, pool, etc. (Lots of people share it) Always see lots of guys, girls, young and old in there... usually we chat it up... and never had a bad experience there!

I apologize who to anyone who may consider themselves old or creepy. I didn't mean to offend anyone or put anyone in that catagory. You can be old and not creepy, or creepy and not old... neither has to do with the other. And, I meant no harm to you if you fall in any of the afore mentioned catagories.

 

[Missy Mouse]

I believe she was joking

 

[FroggyinArk]

I get in hot tubs all of the time. I live in a 35 floor condo actually that has a hot tub, pool, etc. (Lots of people share it) Always see lots of guys, girls, young and old in there... usually we chat it up... and never had a bad experience there!

I apologize who to anyone who may consider themselves old or creepy. I didn't mean to offend anyone or put anyone in that catagory. You can be old and not creepy, or creepy and not old... neither has to do with the other. And, I meant no harm to you if you fall in any of the afore mentioned catagories.

i was not offended in any way, i am a little creepy looking..lol.. i lost half of my face to a drunk driver,, its partially rebuilt, so to a lot of folks i look stranger than normal, and at 39 dd remibnds me constatantly that i am old...

 

[Missy Mouse]

Off topic question for ya. In your siggy you have fiancee 25 y/o big kid...aren't you the fiancee and he the fiance?

 

[ynottony99]

As a parent, let me say I appreciate your watchful eye. I think most of us can pickup on vibes that are inappropriate. Depending on how obvious he was being, I think you did all you could do. I guess you could have tried talking to him. Ask him about himself, who he was there with, where he's from, etc. Might have relieved your anxious concern, or scared him off when he noticed that others were noticing him.