Could you do this?

[6_Time_Momma]

Just wondering. We had a friend commit suicide a few months back by taking an overdose of pills. She was in her van at the time and wasn't found for about two days.

Her husband still drives the van. He is finanially able to buy another vehicle if he so chose. I just don't think I could drive that van around considering the circumstances. Please note that I am not criticizing his choice at all, merely stating it is not something I think I could do. Do you think you could?

 

[chell]

Nope, I couldn't do it.

 

[Aurora63]

No, I couldn't either, but if finances forced me to, I guess I would.

 

[rasnlms]

I could not - gives me the creeps thinking about it.

 

[Sandy V.]

No way could I drive that van around.

Unfortunately, there's a family in our community whose son committed suicide in their home. They're selling the house because they can't deal with thoughts of his last moments there. I think I would feel and do the same thing.

 

[Cruisin]

I don't think I could do it.
It would give me the creeps just thinking about what had happened in that van, and picturing it.
I think no matter what my financial status I would find a way to replace it.

 

[C.Ann]

Originally posted by 6_Time_Momma
Just wondering. We had a friend commit suicide a few months back by taking an overdose of pills. She was in her van at the time and wasn't found for about two days.

Her husband still drives the van. He is finanially able to buy another vehicle if he so chose. I just don't think I could drive that van around considering the circumstances. Please note that I am not criticizing his choice at all, merely stating it is not something I think I could do. Do you think you could?

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I'm not sure, but you know what? As far-off-the-wall as this may sound, maybe he feels "closer" to her there?

What a shame.. Did they have children?

 

[amid chaos]

I agree...he may feel some peace knowing that was the last place she was alive.

Until you are in those shoes, you just don't know where you will find peace.

 

[Feralpeg]

People look at things differently. I had a friend who was killed in a car crash along with their two children. Her husband was in the crash also, but was not badly injured. Six months later, we went by their house to see how he was doing. The kids toys were still lying in the middle of the living room floor as if they'd just gotten up and left them. It really upset me. Since then, I've heard of several other similar situations. A person on television actually said that this sort of thing is good. It helps the people involved deal with their loss. It seems it is much harder on them if everything related to the individual is taken away. Still seems odd.

 

[mommytotwo]

Nope, I wouldn't be able to even see that vehicle.

 

[6_Time_Momma]

Did they have children?

She had four from a previous marriage and they had one together. The little one is in kindergarten. It makes me sad when I see his older sister picking up from school when it used to be his mom.

 

[aprilgail2]

A friend of mine shot himself in the head in his SUV and the wife drove it for many months after he died...I would hate to have been the place she brought that to be cleaned..YUK.

 

[Serena]

I don't think I could do that.

 

[tiggersmom2]

I get so upset when someone dies that I can't even go to the funeral (I'm not kidding). So, NO - There is absolutely no way I could even look at that van.

 

[nsyncraider17]

As far-off-the-wall as this may sound, maybe he feels "closer" to her there?

I was thinking the same thing. And maybe he doesn't want to get rid of it, because that would be like getting rid of the last place where she was alive...does that make any sense? I would think that continuing to drive her van might provide some sense of closure.

 

[Pop Daddy]

I think he did it

 

[Melora]

No I could not do that. As some of you know, my mom just died at home and the first week after it happened we considered selling the house because it was so traumatic. Its been 2 weeks now and things are little calmer. A large part of the decision for staying though was that we would lose a lot of money by selling it since we have not lived here 2 years. But it was really weird those first few days.

On a similiar note my daughter had a friend whose little sister drowned in the family pool. Not only did the family not move but they had pool parties there for their kids the following year. My daughter said her family felt like they wanted to be close to the little one and could not move. (Though they did finally move recently I heard). But I felt really creeped out when Emily said she was going there for a pool party.

 

[Stepharoonie!]

Uh, no. I couldn't.