Could I vent please re: kid birthday party

[SundaeAfternoon]

OMG! What jerks! Who *says* that kind of crap to their kid?! What a great example they're setting.

Kudos to your son for handling it so maturely.

THIS

 

[Dancemom03]

I'd do it the week before too and invite the other boy. It sounds like the boys will be friends either way. Plus, it isn't his fault his parents are jerks - and who knows, maybe after attending your son's party the mom will call with an invite.

Kuddos to you for raising such a mature young man. I wish I could say the same about the other parents but geez, they (the parents most likely, not the kid) only lasted a year in cub scouts and then criticize your kid who has the discipline to work for his badges, maintain good grades, and remain a faithful friend despite being in different classes. They're presenting a real mature example there all right...

 

[Disneyrsh]

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[LuvOrlando]

Thanks so the kind support. I was thinking of uping the cool factor for the boys maybe a paintball party (no one has had one yet). Or something that would inspire envy. Is that wrong????

Nope, not at all wrong imho. Also, I would totally invite the kid who left your son out so his Mom has to deal with his dirty looks and hostility if she says no and contend with his being upset all day of the party. If Mom does have the nerve to say yes I would totally let her twist on the line when I pointedly asked her, "So how was your son's party?" What is it they say about payback

 

[buckler]

Can you be 100% sure that the parents actually said all of those negative things? Perhaps the mother limited the boy to only inviting a certain number of kids and she wanted him to invite the boys that she knew. "X" might have embellished the story about what happened.

What about calling the mother and inviting "X" over for a play date and see how she reacts?

 

[Nancyg56]

We've had the same problem. Our 10 year old is in a tight group of 5 and he was the only one who was excluded. And addtional problem is the Mom is constantly calling me asking me to do things for her. Plus whenever we see each other she is always making comments about me stying home with the kids. I'm just done with her.

That would be a big fat NO! I would not do a thing and being the nasty woman I am I would tell her why.

Hmmm....The movie opens 3/19. If a mom was that bad a witch to my kid, I'd be tempted to out-witch her and have my kid's birthday party BEFORE her kids's........Invite the same boys and a few extras from the class to see the movie a week before she gets the chance. Heck, invite her kid too. Let her scramble to make alternate plans and think to herself, "If only I would have invited that retarded boy to my son's party, none of this would have happened."

Is that nice? No. Is it mature? No. Is it the kneejerk reaction of a mother whose child has been treated like crap? Ummm......yeah. At any rate, I'd make certain MY child had one heck of a party, even if it cost more than I'd initially intended.

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I would do this! And I would spwnd whatever I needed to spend to have a great party. And I know it is not mature, I know it is not nice. I would do it anyway!

Have an even better party and invite all the boys except HER son!..see how they like it.

Not a good exampke to give her own child. The boy has no control over his parents and should not be punished because his mom is nasty

Thanks so the kind support. I was thinking of uping the cool factor for the boys maybe a paintball party (no one has had one yet). Or something that would inspire envy. Is that wrong????

Nope!

I don't know......the real lesson here may be that no one had better try to ever screw over my DD in too cruel a fashion.

Get busy with those invitations.

This is the kind of Mom I was adn the kind of Nana I am. So far my Kady is pretty popukar because she is a genuinely nice kid. Her Pa and I host her annual halloween party and if I say so myself....it is wicked cool! We invite a few more children each year as she gets older and we try to make sure that the kids have a great time. It is a little thing but the kids better be nice or no invitation!

 

[waltsgirl]

Do you really know that the mother said these things about your son. I am not saying that "X" lied but maybe he misunderstood his parents. I could see "X" saying I want to ask XXXXX to my party and the mom saying something like "that's retarded he hasn't been in your class since first grade, how close are you" So now X is saying my mom says you are retarded.

Just a thought....

 

[scottishduffy]

Congrats to your son for being so mature!

I would say to let this pass. Most people I know had the parents of at least one friend who didnt like them. I know I had friends of parents who did not like me for one reason or another (not christain enough, didn't like a blue sparkly t-shirt i owned).

Throw a b-day party for your son. I would be tempted to make it a very cool party. Do invite the other boy, it is not his fault his parents are idiots. If the boys remain friends this may eventually blow over. I had a parent who didn't like me at first but i later on became her favorite friend of her daughter. Things change with time.

Also, if your son's b-day is in 2 weeks then this other mom may extend a reciprocal invite to your son. If not, no biggie! Your son will be no worse off and will have learned a valuable lesson on being the bigger person.