Could I have some prayers please....UPDATE PG1

[tiggereyore]

We found out yesterday that DH's great aunt was not good. Started a week ago yesterday when she didn't get dressed for church. That was really the first clue that she is ready. Yesterday when M&FIL went to visit she wasn't eating hadn't eaten on sat either. They called the family in this am and have turned up the morphine. She has kidney failure and old age has finally caught up with her she's almost 99. She has lived a wonderful life and at 89 did an RV trip to Alaska. But it's very had for us to let go.
On top of this our DS's are quite close to her they are almost 6 and 3 and I'm trying to figure out how to let them know that it's time for Auntie to go live with God now. I'm not real sure about them coming to the calling hours and furneral. I realize that I can't shelter them forever from it and I'd rather do it niw (I think) than when their Great Grandfather goes he's very much a part of their daily lives.
So if you could say a quick prayer for her and if you have any advise for how to handle this with the boys I'd greatly appreciate it.
update
Vera passed away yesterday afternoon. exactly 2 months shy of her 99 b-day. We did tell the almost 6 yr old that she has left to live with god he cried for a minute then went back to playing. Now to get through the services. Thank you all for your prayers.

 

[Serena]

Your family has my prayers. I'm really sorry.

 

[Cindy'sCastle]

Sorry to hear this. Will say a prayer for her and the family.

Cindy

 

[TammyNC]

You all will be in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[helenabear]

Christy, I will keep her and you all in my prayers

 

[Dan Murphy]

You and your family are all in my prayers, Christy. Wishing you good thoughts.

As for the boys, children are pretty perceptive, I think they will do well, explaining as you have, time to go live with God now.

Dan

 

[mommytotwo]

Our prayers go out to her, you and your family .

 

[Pembo]

Lots of prayers for all of you.

When I was 6 my grandmother died. I did not go to any of the calling hours or the funeral. My parents felt it is was best for me. That was a lot of years ago and children didn't go. However I'm glad I didn't go. I remember my grandma as she was in life. As a parent, I don't think I'd bring my kids.

Do what feels best for you, this is just my opinion.

 

[minniecarousel]

Just a {{{{{HUG}}}}}

 

[ebaynut31]

Prayers and hugs are on the way.

 

[dizneenut]

I'm sorry. Prayers on the way.

 

[tiggereyore]

for you prayers and hugs. It's been a long day and I'm going to try to get some sleep. so far she's still hanging on. FIL didn't expect her to make it this far. As for what I'll tell the boys I really don't know yet.... The oldest asked why mommy was sad and I just told him that sometimes mommies get that way. that didn't cut it with him (I knew it wouldn't) So as we said bedtime prayers we asked God to watch over auntie Vera and take care of her for us and he looked at me and asked if she was going to live with God. I said that yes she would be very soon and that's why mommy is upset. He said hewanted her to stay and be here more. I simply told him what came to mind. That her body was tired because she's old and that her soul would go to live with god. (We'd done the whole deal of what a cemetary is because he passes on going to school each day). he seemed okay after that resaid his prayer and laid down. and went off to sleep oh to be young.
So thank you all again the family needs these prayers. My Dh will need them to as he has been asked to be one of the pallbearers.
Good night and thank you again

 

[Jillpie]

I'm sorry Christy. You are a wonderful Mom. You said the perfect thing. As far as the future wake, I probably would not have them go. They are very young for that, and like someone said, let them have the great memories of her as she was to them. My prayers are with you in the coming days.

 

[Serena]

 

[GreenEyes0205]

Blessings for you and your family.

 

[dvcfamily41801]

Thinking of you and your family Christy.

 

[4nana]

Christy

Very sad...bless her heart at almost 99!
So touching how you explained this sad situation to your son.

Last yr we lost my dear Dad at 86. Our GGchildren had watch his illness for some time. We explained how GGD was very sick, tired and it was his time to go live with God in heaven, but he would always live in our heart. They seemed contented with this explanation, this was their first time to lose someone close.

After much consideration they were allowed to go to prayers for a 'brief' period to say final good-byes. The younger ones were 4, 6 and 8. Altho some tears, it went better than expected and we felt we'd made the correct choice in briefly exposing them to this sad part of life. Sadly, now their other grandmother is very ill and they will have to go through losing someone else they are even closer too.

For Dad's BD we visited the cemetary, planted a tree, sang and released balloons. It all seems to help in some small way.

Good luck in your decision, it is a tough call and only you know what is best for your children. Thoughts and prayers with all your family.

God Bless ^i^
~ Sandie

 

[ead79]

Christy, I am so sorry to hear about the situation your family is in. It is always difficult to lose a loved one, whether they are old or young. My prayers are with your entire family. {{{HUGS}}}

 

[nativetxn]

I have your family and your great aunt in my prayers. Bless her.

 

[tiggereyore]

After speaking breifly with MIL this am
They will be pulling the oxygen any time know just waiting for the dr to come in. MIL has been with her all night and her actual birth family never came back yesterday. I'm praying this is going to be easy she has so much money, I'm just afraid that the neices and nephews are going to start a fight they did when her brother died.