Convincing husband.

[eliza61]

I think you are making the point in favor of him going back to Disney; because, you agree it's not the same as it was 10 years. He might be in a time warp about it. Also, sometimes, you may not appreciate a place as a child, but as an adult it may be wonderful. For example, as a child you might not like roller coasters, but as an adult you do. I think getting the Disney vacation planning video might help to decide whether he may want to go or not.

The destination really doesn't matter; it's what you make of your vacation. I'm a senior now and we've been to Disney too many times to mention. We have experienced Disney with my 90 year old mother and 87 year old mother-in-law. We've done Disney with grand kids when they were very young. I don't do Disney in the same way with my mom as I do with the grand kids. When we go ourselves it's different, too.

My husband has had his share of Disney, but he goes with me because he knows how much I enjoy it. I love having him there with me. I enjoy Disney best with him. In return we take a trip he can pick.

Disney is not just a place to do rides. Sometimes, we can get tunnel vision about this at Disney. There's more to Disney World then just rides. There are so many places for romantic dinners. So many other activities that can be romantic, too.

then you totally missed the point of my post.

Disney is just a place. No more romantic or special than tons of other places. The magic is what you bring to it.

So you're saying you have to go to Disney to have a romantic dinner with your spouse? really?

If you need Disney to have a romantic anniversary than sorry imo the marriage has problems deeper than where to take the vacation.

Now her dh has said he does not want to go. That's important. How romantic is forcing some one to do some thing they don't want to? He's given a pretty good reason also.


Sorry I'm just not one to believe the only place on the planet to have family vacations is Disney. the only place on the planet with romance is Disney, the only place on the planet to do special things is Disney.

Yes I agree it's not the same, but that's not an argument to force some one to do some thing they don't want to do. because no place is the same as 10 years ago so why not pick one they can both agree on especially since it's an anniversary.

Not to be condescending, this is a absolutely serious question, you really believe the only place to have a romantic anniversary is Disney? It's not even in the top 10

 

[navywifetill2002]

When my DH was deploying we did our 2 week leave visiting places he wanted to go (Myrtle Beach), places we both wanted to go (Savannah GA), and someplace I wanted to go (WDW). We stayed off property and did other things as well so he wasn't overwhelmed. When he got back I wanted a cruise and he wasn't into that as he had just spent 180 days at sea but he decided since I had the stress if dealing with everything at home we'd try a cruise. We both loved it and now crushing is our favorite vacation. If Disney isn't his thing this year maybe he'll want to go when you start a family. My DH went last year for DD but isn't interested in going again so we're doing a 3 generation trip this year. Good luck whatever you decide to do!

 

[Bete]

then you totally missed the point of my post.

Disney is just a place. No more romantic or special than tons of other places. The magic is what you bring to it.

So you're saying you have to go to Disney to have a romantic dinner with your spouse? really?

If you need Disney to have a romantic anniversary than sorry imo the marriage has problems deeper than where to take the vacation.

Now her dh has said he does not want to go. That's important. How romantic is forcing some one to do some thing they don't want to? He's given a pretty good reason also.

Sorry I'm just not one to believe the only place on the planet to have family vacations is Disney. the only place on the planet with romance is Disney, the only place on the planet to do special things is Disney.

Yes I agree it's not the same, but that's not an argument to force some one to do some thing they don't want to do. because no place is the same as 10 years ago so why not pick one they can both agree on especially since it's an anniversary.

Not to be condescending, this is a absolutely serious question, you really believe the only place to have a romantic anniversary is Disney? It's not even in the top 10

I never said Disney is the only place for romance or an anniversary celebration. I do feel there is such a variety of restaurants to appeal to everyone that it makes for an easy vacation for food choices. I do like going to Narcossee's for a meal and watching the fireworks at MK from a distance. I do feel that is romantic for me.

My draw to Disney is all the choices you have within one complex to do an assortment of activities. It's so convenient to do so much there.

You and I will have to agree to disagree on this topic.

Heck, I've had great vacations right at home and romance, too. It's all what is in the heart that makes the difference. The couple will figure it out and hopefully will have a great time wherever.

 

[swebb0310]

Ultimately, it has to be a conversation between the two people involved... The key I think is that just as much as some have said he shouldn't have to go to Disney just because she wants to, she shouldn't have to completely give up the idea of going with her husband just because he isn't thrilled about the idea.
Compromise is the key. Is there anything in Orlando he would want to do or see when you go to Disney? Or could you plan a couple of days at Disney and the go for a couple of days to the beach, or the keys. There are a lot of ways to get things you both want to do.
I feel like if it means that much to her, he should be willing to at least consider it. Likewise, she has to consider what he wants to do.
I'm not married, but that is a non-negotiable expectation I have in relationships.
I don't think anyone was saying Disney is the only romantic getaway....

 

[Bete]

Ultimately, it has to be a conversation between the two people involved... The key I think is that just as much as some have said he shouldn't have to go to Disney just because she wants to, she shouldn't have to completely give up the idea of going with her husband just because he isn't thrilled about the idea.
Compromise is the key. Is there anything in Orlando he would want to do or see when you go to Disney? Or could you plan a couple of days at Disney and the go for a couple of days to the beach, or the keys. There are a lot of ways to get things you both want to do.
I feel like if it means that much to her, he should be willing to at least consider it. Likewise, she has to consider what he wants to do.
I'm not married, but that is a non-negotiable expectation I have in relationships.
I don't think anyone was saying Disney is the only romantic getaway....

Depending on time constraints you certainly can mix it up in Orlando and near by to see more than Disney.

I, too feel compromise is important in a marriage.

We can all give our opinions to the original poster and ultimately it's their choice what they will do. A vacation is a vacation and it doesn't have to be Disney, but then again it could be Disney.

 

[mommyburns]

I lived in Tampa for over 6 years (grade school thru middle school) and then made numerous trips while in high school and college. I REALLY fell in love with Disney when I had kids. Tell him it is a research trip for when you do have kids maybe he'll go for it. Good luck