Convincing husband.

[xtoriax]

My husband and I will be married for a year in August, but he is overseas and will be for a few months after our anniversary. I have never been to WDW and always wanted to go. He has been numerous times because he grew up near it. I'd like to go for our late anniversary trip. How can I convince him to go when all he says is that hes sick of going there.
Help?

 

[jagfanjosh3252]

My husband and I will be married for a year in August, but he is overseas and will be for a few months after our anniversary. I have never been to WDW and always wanted to go. He has been numerous times because he grew up near it. I'd like to go for our late anniversary trip. How can I convince him to go when all he says is that hes sick of going there.
Help?

There is always something new to enjoy. If you can go between late September until mid November. You can enjoy Food and Wine festival at Epcot. Which is fantastic.

What are some of his likes?

 

[MICKEY88]

remind him that he has never been there with his wife before.

 

[pryncess527]

Were most of his other trips as a kid? With others? I'd try to help h,see how this trip could be something those others were not. Touring the park at a leisurely pace. Having the time for great dining. Perhaps sell him on something he hasn't done before - an animal kingdom safari or evening at the tequila bar in Epcot.

 

[PeterPanic]

remind him that he has never been there with his wife before.

Much more diplomatic response then I was going to offer. It seems like a small thing to ask for a couple that has only been married a year.

 

[nurse.darcy]

I am with Mickey88 and PeterPanic. Just simply tell him he has never been with his wife before and ask him to indulge you just this once. Then plan an awesome trip for him that is not centered around kid stuff. Romantic dinners, fireworks cruises, World showcase entertainment, etc. Just play to his interests. There is something for everyone at WDW. Just don't make it about Disney. . .he will get the idea.

 

[shells4]

I would let him read this thread for starters. Your probably being much nicer than I would be Anyway, it is a very different experience going as a couple. It can be very relaxing and romantic if you want it to be. I've been to WDW 15+ times, our last trip we went with family who had never been there and it was SO FUN to be with them on their first trip. We always had magical trips but it was even more magical to see them experience it for their first time. I am betting he would have a great time watching you experience it for the first time. If he still doesn't want to go, I would go with a friend or solo. Just because he is sick of it doesn't mean you shouldn't go and enjoy yourself.

 

[glaserjm]

DH and I both went multiple times as kids, and while we both liked it our obsession didn't start until we went together. I think he will find its a whole other experience with just your spouse.

I can honestly say that having traveled together extensively both domestically and internationally, Disney can actually be one of the most romantic places for a couple. Strolling with a drink through the WS at dusk, watching Wishes from the beach at the Poly, riding the boat from OKW or POR/FQ to DTD trolling through the quiet canals... there are so many ways to enjoy WDW as an adult!

 

[Sunnywho]

Is it the cost? Disney is expensive. Maybe go with a friend instead of your husband. That would halve the expenses especially if he's been there, done that.

 

[spiceycat]

lots of local (which it sounded like he was) don't enjoy WDW.

yes think they are crazy.... that say everyone has different taste.

 

[cobright]

Bring it up casually and if he responds with anything less than enthusiasm, drop it.

Then a few days later mention, cool as you please, that a 'friend' you used to spend time with has offered to take you. He's going through a rough divorce and already had the vacation planned and paid for so it won't cost you anything.

Sure you'll be sharing a room but it's a suite at the top of the Contemporary so you'll have your own room. Shoot, you'll have your own bathroom; this guy is loaded. Besides, Steffohn (he's Icelandic) is practically a brother, or at least a first cousin once removed.

He's just a really good friend.

Adjust the story to match your circumstance as needed and your husband will have WDW on the phone within the hour.

 

[Sadie22]

Bring it up casually and if he responds with anything less than enthusiasm, drop it.

Then a few days later mention, cool as you please, that a 'friend' you used to spend time with has offered to take you. He's going through a rough divorce and already had the vacation planned and paid for so it won't cost you anything.

Sure you'll be sharing a room but it's a suite at the top of the Contemporary so you'll have your own room. Shoot, you'll have your own bathroom; this guy is loaded. Besides, Steffohn (he's Icelandic) is practically a brother, or at least a first cousin once removed.

He's just a really good friend.

Adjust the story to match your circumstance as needed and your husband will have WDW on the phone within the hour.

This is intended as a joke, right?

 

[eliza61]

My husband and I will be married for a year in August, but he is overseas and will be for a few months after our anniversary. I have never been to WDW and always wanted to go. He has been numerous times because he grew up near it. I'd like to go for our late anniversary trip. How can I convince him to go when all he says is that hes sick of going there.
Help?

Let me say my dh and I had a number of things one person liked but the other did not. We did not see the need to force some one to like some thing or some place simply because you got married. My getting married did not mean I automatically liked the stuff he did. I hate loathe and despise camping, did it once never doing it again. My dh did not like Paris, every trip I went to Paris I went with my girlfriends or heck I took my mil once.

First of all, he's told you flat out he's sick of it. Sorry guys I don't care how many new things there are or who the people are, if you are tired of a place it's old.
My dh tried this on me with DC. He loves it, I'm sick to death of it because I've been 50 gazillon times. IMO there is nothing worse than being dragged some place you don't want to go. Now normally, I would say he can compromise and go but this is your anniversary.

How would you like it if he tried to drag you some place on your anniversary you really wasn't feeling? humm, i'm betting all heck would break out.

I love disney, I was married for 27 years before losing my love I don't get this obsession us disneyphile have on forcing, convincing, tricking, threatening (and I've heard all of it here on these boards) people to go.

Yes disney can be romantic IF you want to be there in the first place.

Now what happens if he agrees to go and basically just has an ok time. How are you going to feel? Will you be upset because he's not sharing in the magic like you?

My dh did have a good time whenever he went but after a while I recognized that he did not share the same passion I do for the world. and you know some thing, that is perfectly ok.

There is a big wide world that you can discover as a couple, get his input where he would like to go and come up with a destination that you both would enjoy.
Then you can do disney with girlfriends (so much fun), solo, when you guys start a family, or simply in a year or two.

that's just my opinion. I really would not be ok, with spending my anniversary some where I did not want to go. Like I said, I don't like camping and no I would not be ok spending my anniversary doing it. no matter how fantastic the campgrounds where or how "romantic" you try to sell it.

 

[DakotaRose]

Friend with a suite atop the Contemporary?? Hilarious!!

Edited to add: Since it's your first anniversary -- and his, too -- I'd suggest choosing something that appeals to both of you. Try WDW another, less important, time if he's "been there, done that".

 

[swebb0310]

I was going to offer the idea of compromise. See where he would love to go, and maybe try both.

 

[eliza61]

Friend with a suite atop the Contemporary?? Hilarious!!

Edited to add: Since it's your first anniversary -- and his, too -- I'd suggest choosing something that appeals to both of you. Try WDW another, less important, time if he's "been there, done that".

I was going to offer the idea of compromise. See where he would love to go, and maybe try both.

whew, I thought I was the only one who thought this way.

 

[Nancyg56]

whew, I thought I was the only one who thought this way.

No, I agree with you. I don't understand why guilting someone into a vacation destination is okay if it is WDW, but would people say it was okay if the destination was anywhere else? I understand why the OP wants to go, I would as well, but there is no way I would want my DH to share our anniversary accommodating me. Plenty of time for that later

 

[Bete]

I think it depends on what he's tired of at Disney from what he remembers. I never get tired of Disney, but everyone is not like me in this regard.

First, Disney is a very different place now from say 10 years ago. If he hasn't been there in a while then concentrate on the attractions and shows that he hasn't done yet.

Second, if money is no object you can make Disney special with spa treatments, water activities like a private, romantic fireworks cruise, tours, lunch with an Imagineer, and so forth.

Third, going during a special time like Food and Wine Festival or Christmas time with all the special shows and decorations makes it more fun.

Staying at a better resort may make it more interesting, too. The Animal Kingdom Lodge with all the animals around is a favorite place for us.

Let him choose the next vacation if he agrees to go to Disney for your belated anniversary.

 

[eliza61]

I think it depends on what he's tired of at Disney from what he remembers. I never get tired of Disney, but everyone is not like me in this regard.

First, Disney is a very different place now from say 10 years ago. If he hasn't been there in a while then concentrate on the attractions and shows that he hasn't done yet.

Second, if money is no object you can make Disney special with spa treatments, water activities like a private, romantic fireworks cruise, tours, lunch with an Imagineer, and so forth.

Third, going during a special time like Food and Wine Festival or Christmas time with all the special shows and decorations makes it more fun.

Staying at a better resort may make it more interesting, too. The Animal Kingdom Lodge with all the animals around is a favorite place for us.

Let him choose the next vacation if he agrees to go to Disney for your belated anniversary.

but you can make that same argument for ANY place.

Vegas is not the same as it was 10 years ago. New casinos, fabulous shows, outstanding restaurants (sorry blows Disney food out the water). Miami is a totally different destination than it was 10 years ago. Heck, the cruise industry has exploded with new ships in 10 years.
get my drift.

Now if he's flat out saying that he doesn't want to do it, I would think he knows all of this (and op is saying he doesn't want to go). OP states that he's tired of doing it. that doesn't sound like some one who hasn't been in 10 years.

For example, every body is talking about the new fantasy land but my kids are grown so really there is nothing new at the world because the new fantasy land does not appeal to me. We went in April during my youngest sons spring break and we pretty much walked through fantasy land and thought it was just so-so.

We use to go to Disney every year and believe me my family with me being the exception is definitely not anxious to go back.

which is why I'm now on the solo board because when I go back it will either be with girlfriends or my upcoming trip in September is looking like it's going to be solo.

1000's of dollars to go some where you have no interest in going?
just not understanding.

 

[Bete]

but you can make that same argument for ANY place.

Vegas is not the same as it was 10 years ago. New casinos, fabulous shows, outstanding restaurants (sorry blows Disney food out the water). Miami is a totally different destination than it was 10 years ago. Heck, the cruise industry has exploded with new ships in 10 years.
get my drift.

Now if he's flat out saying that he doesn't want to do it, I would think he knows all of this (and op is saying he doesn't want to go). OP states that he's tired of doing it. that doesn't sound like some one who hasn't been in 10 years.

For example, every body is talking about the new fantasy land but my kids are grown so really there is nothing new at the world because the new fantasy land does not appeal to me. We went in April during my youngest sons spring break and we pretty much walked through fantasy land and thought it was just so-so.

We use to go to Disney every year and believe me my family with me being the exception is definitely not anxious to go back.

which is why I'm now on the solo board because when I go back it will either be with girlfriends or my upcoming trip in September is looking like it's going to be solo.

1000's of dollars to go some where you have no interest in going?
just not understanding.

I think you are making the point in favor of him going back to Disney; because, you agree it's not the same as it was 10 years. He might be in a time warp about it. Also, sometimes, you may not appreciate a place as a child, but as an adult it may be wonderful. For example, as a child you might not like roller coasters, but as an adult you do. I think getting the Disney vacation planning video might help to decide whether he may want to go or not.

The destination really doesn't matter; it's what you make of your vacation. I'm a senior now and we've been to Disney too many times to mention. We have experienced Disney with my 90 year old mother and 87 year old mother-in-law. We've done Disney with grand kids when they were very young. I don't do Disney in the same way with my mom as I do with the grand kids. When we go ourselves it's different, too.

My husband has had his share of Disney, but he goes with me because he knows how much I enjoy it. I love having him there with me. I enjoy Disney best with him. In return we take a trip he can pick.

Disney is not just a place to do rides. Sometimes, we can get tunnel vision about this at Disney. There's more to Disney World then just rides. There are so many places for romantic dinners. So many other activities that can be romantic, too.