Consulting job that requires constant travel

[angwill]

totally agree with this. When DH comes home it totally throws the schedule off.
Plus I find myself after a few days snapping at him because he lets something sit out, dishes on the counter, doesn't hit the laundry basket, etc.

DH doesn't have a set schedule. he may work ora week or 2-3 weeks and then have off a month or more or it could just be a few days off. 2 summers ago he had the entire summer off.
He left for Vegas this past saturday and will not be home until the night of the 22nd. will be home 2 days and then head to Boston MA. then home for a few days, we then go on vacation, 2 day after he is flying back to Vegas.

OP, how independent are you?
can you handle taking care of all everything around the house?

I do everything around the house including yard work and minor maintenance. This allows DH to come home and not spend the little time he does have home doing things here.

I agree with both of these statements. My DH is gone except for a couple hours every week and home one week a month. You have to be able to switch schedules when DH is home and when he is not. The kids have to adjust as well. For our DS he is always angry the day DH leaves again but soon goes back to the regular schedule.

Basically, if you are a strong woman who can be a single mother while he is gone and take care of things as they go wrong while doing everything yourself you will be fine.

 

[Disney-Kim]

I didn't read all the responses but the ones I did were positive.

I will be completely honest....I HATE that my DH travels for work. He hates it too.
He says some of his co-workers like getting away from the family/wife...he DOESN"T...he likes being at home, the routine, the comfort.

We both hate when he travels and I still cry when he leaves on the long international trips (7-10 days).

We have been together for 24 yrs and the travel has been for the last 5 or so. It disrupts our routines. We don't have kids, so I am lonely when he is gone...that is really the biggest thing. I MISS HIM. Yes I have family to hang with but its the lonely quiet house I come to each night. and weekends suck too. There are many reasons...these are just a few. Its hard to explain all of it.....we are very close to each other after all these years and we don't like being apart. HE doesn't like it at all and that is really the main reason he wouldn't take a job with LOTS more travel than he does now. A stressful job is enough without being away from home all the time.

Plus...DH hates the travel part too, at first it seems glamorous but then he gets tired of the hotels, airports, food, etc. He goes to China to rural factories and stuff....its not like he gets to sight see or anything. Yes he gets some miles and points but its not really a benefit so far for us. He stays at different hotels and airlines a lot....so hard to earn lots on just one.

so basically for US....he would turn the job down....We know we are lucky to work and he knows that the travel he does now could be worse.....but...more travel would be horrible. Neither of us would like that much travel.
I hope my point of view helps.

It is really hard on a marriage....imho...

 

[bumbershoot]

I still cry when he leaves on the long international trips (7-10 days).




Yes I have family to hang with but its the lonely quiet house I come to each night. and weekends suck too.

Maybe it's *because* you have family that there's an even bigger difference, than if you didn't have them. I'm away from all family and most friends don't live nearby...during the day it's just me and DS anyway (we homeschool), so it's just nighttimes and weekends that there's a difference, and DS and I find things to do. Of course, being married and in one pattern for so long makes a big difference as well! DH and I are only in our 8th year of marriage and he started this job almost 2 years ago...

He stays at different hotels and airlines a lot....so hard to earn lots on just one.

I've been booking DH's hotels through hotels.com. He does still sometimes get perks from having a membership to each hotel's group (like free drink vouchers, or free breakfast, or whatever), but he doesn't earn their points...rather, he earns Welcome Rewards through hotels.com. They take the average of each 10 nights you stay (not 10 stays, but 10 nights) and then you get one night worth that average amount. you do pay taxes, but we've found that palatable. We were saving them up for our September trip but then I was needed back home for a funeral and my brother being in the ICU, and we just booked my hotel through HIS account (totally allowable) and stayed 2/3 nights in a VERY nice hotel for under $40 for those two nights. So if his hotels are bouncing around like that, it might be worth looking into, IF he can book his own hotels.

Be sure to look into all the different codeshares that airlines have. DH travels all over, but gets miles on mainly Alaska and United. Delta is partnered with United, I think, so if he flies them he earns United. Asiana is under Alaska, I believe, so again, Alaska miles. etc etc. Be sure he's taking advantage of those shares that airlines have!