clingy VMK'ers

[ash410]

Has anyone here experienced some VMK people that are very... needy and clingy. I meet this girl one day in my first few weeks of VMK who was giving free stuff cus she was 'leaving VMK' I asked her why and she said because someone stole her crown and dress. I told her I knew the feeling, because being a newbie myself, I aquired one, then lost it to someone the same way. (live and learn ) I told her that if I happen to come across another one i'd be happy to give it to her. Well the next couple days after that, she kept following me and asking if I had found one yet. I said no, but I was keeping my eye out. Then she says well are you trying. I told her yes, but not all the time because I am there for myself too. Now about once every few days she finds me, asks to trade over and over (because i click cancel when i'm talking with people, or doing something else) and when I accept she asks if I have anything for her, and if she can have something, etc. When I had some extra purple doors, I gave her a pair, being the nice person I am, and she said thank you, i'm the best, ect. Then today, she finds me, and asks to trade, I ask why, she says because. then the whole "plz plz" over and over. So I did being the nice person I am again, and when she asked if I could give something, I told her I didnt have anything on me, which was the truth. Then I got this big huff and puff from her about how I dont want to help anymore, and I dont care, etc because she saw me with the gold ears miakoda was kind enough to give me and the crown I was able to get before I met her.
I was just wondering if anyone else and run into people like this, or witnessed it in conversations I appologize for the LONG story, but its the only way to explain the kind of people I mean. I am thinking of deleting her as a friend, but I would almost feel bad because I said I would help her if i could. However, at times, I almost think she is trying to pull one over my head, cus I see her at the "rare" rooms a lot. I know she has a couple gold items, which I told her might be able to get her a dress or crown, but i'm new so i'm not sure if its a fair trade. From what I see no luck yet. Any advice on what I should do with this one?
Any advice would be helpful even if it is to just stop my whinning

EDIT: while i'm asking questions, lol, what does the whole DD, DS etc stand for lable me the newbie

 

[Chedstro]

My advice would be to take her off your list. I know it sounds harsh: but she is obviously a user who thinks shIe has found an easy mark. I have only run into a few of these since Beta. But trust me, they will drain you dry

 

[DementedRiku]

Yea I had a friend a little like that. She was my friend for a while and suddenly she finds me and begs to trade her costumes. She was collecting them but SO WAS I! lol I told her i didn't have any for trade. It was during halloween so i told her to save up credits to buy some. She gave SO many excuses why she absolutely couldn't buy anything. She would ask occasionally and finally i deleted her off my friends list. Because I no that you have the right to delete people. And luckily it's not like toontown where your notified when someone deletes you as a friend.

Some advice to you would be that harrassment is against VMK Values and you owe her NOTHING! Heck, purple doors are WAY rarer then crowns. You were awfully nice and shouldn't feel like you have to get her something everytime you do. She will just keep asking for more!

 

[Just_Me_06]

I no the feeling too ! Every time this girl comes to my save for l8er room (which is not open to the public) she asks can i have a chair can i have some stuff ! Never just a hello

 

[ash410]

Well, I gave her Pink doors that I got a code for from the disney site, so I wasn't that crasy But yes, I have to agree with you guys, I may have to delete her tomorrow (or the next day) I'm a very snoopy person when it comes to people like this. I kind of sit back, relax, and watch what they have to say. "People Watching" some call it. The kind you do at the mall, or in large crowds But... I don't think she can stick around for long on my list. oh well... too bad for her.. i'm such a nice and friendly person

 

[mizmouse]

There is someone on my list that has the potential to evolve into where you are at with your clingy person...it happened today and I helped him out to give him some ideas on how to save up for his own items, he wanted me to give him a 2,000 credit item, which I didn't have, so basically buy it for him. He said he was poor, wanted to give me Kellogg's stuff for the item (ha!).

I told him to save up and buy it since you still can...got lots of excuses, "I'm not good at games", "I forget to visit NPCs", "I'm too lazy to save up". The last excuse took me over the edge. I didn't delete him tonight, but after reading your story I'm pretty sure I will do so in the morning.

Thanks for posting your story!
~b

 

[DanMedix]

the only ones I get that are clingy are the little bitty girls that can't understand why I don't want to "be their boi?"

 

[Loves Disney]

I have a few "clingy" friends on my list. One "friend" is exactly like what you had discribed, the others claim to just want to "hang out" and follow me EVERYWHERE! lol

 

[lovethattink]

I've got a few clingy friends. And definately a couple who are exactly like that girl. It is annoying. In fact, yesterday someone wanted me to give them some of my gold for free. I said no, so that person said best I can do is this and offered me Monster Inc pink doors. I said no thanks, and the person said they were upset. Of course this is the same person who greets me almost every time with a trade window instead of a hello. There's even a few of our own DIS kids on my list that like to greet me by begging or trade windows. (KrazyLuke, I am not talking about you. I know you do it to tease me since it's in my signature. I know you genuinely appreciate all the free stuff I've given you.)

Op--ds means dear son, dd is dear daughter and dh is dear husband.

 

[Carrieberry]

Yes, she needs to be taken off your list. At first I fet bad about doing this, but not anymore. The friends list is for your FRIENDS not for people that just want stuff from you. Has she ever given you anything? Speaking of which I need to clean house myself today! Have a few that are really starting to annoy....

 

[disvaclub92]

Yes I have had my share too. I have now actually put in my signature. "You beg, I delete Have a Nice Day." It really got to be such a pain, now I am free of it. The delete button is great.

 

[Maleficent2]

Welcome to the DIS....

I think you will find a few of these give me types in VMK....it is really up to you if you remove her or not.

I would tell her she should really try and get her own dress back or wait until it is re-released.


Good Luck with what ever you decide.

Mal

 

[BriarRosie]

Oh, delete her. She's a user, and you don't need "friends" like that.

Those types of players are up there with those who beg for "donations"
to their rooms, even after you tell them they can earn their own credits
playing the Haunted Mansion game.

I have no use for those types of beggar stalkers.

 

[tigressjewel]

I think its possible to still be nice but be very direct. I was asked to give my inferno to someone the day after I won it and I simply said that I didn't think it was very nice of them to ask that of me and it made me feel sad that they would. When they said why I told them that most of my friends were happy for me and would never think of asking me to just give it away like that. I haven't really had much problem since then and I didn't have to delete the person from my friend list. Now, they may now think I'm not very nice (I don't know), but if being nice and being a friend means you must gift a person every time you see them, are they really being a friend? It makes me feel sad that some people might be missing out on forming some very good friendships because for them the game has become about acquiring virtual prizes. The real prize of making a friend is not virtual and I promise it will outlast vmk!

 

[Tinkerbelle739]

Welcome to the DIS!!!

DD = Dear Daughter

DS = Dear Son

DH = Dear Husband

DBIL = Dear Brother in Law

DSIL = Dear Sister in Law

DFIL and DMIL = Dear Father and Mother in Law

And this completes DIS language 101!

 

[tolkien7]

LOL! All this time I thought DH stood for Disney Husband, DS for Disney Son, etc. Duh me!

 

[Tinkerbelle739]

LOL! All this time I thought DH stood for Disney Husband, DS for Disney Son, etc. Duh me!

Well I suppose depending on the husband, it could stand for that!

 

[ash410]

ok, so I entered VMK today. and there is this message for me from this girl i mention. it says "you are so mean. you say your poor but your not" so, i sent a message back saying i was sorry she felt that way. i told her i have had friend that help me and that i have worked hard for my stuff. if she didnt like that i felt bad and that she didnt have to be my friend. i told her if she kept this up i may not be her friend anymore. and stated again that i felt bad she thinks this way. so, my plan is if she says something like this again (the fact i lie saying i'm poor when she thinks otherwise, or begging for stuff again) then i will delete her. until then she gets one more chance, being the kind person i am

 

[ThinkTink510]

I have 3 people who are very clingy. Two boys and a girl. They dont ask for anything, they just seem to follow me everywhere i go.

 

[lab_girl]

LOL! All this time I thought DH stood for Disney Husband, DS for Disney Son, etc. Duh me!

Me too! LOL