Clingy mothers.....

[DisneyJules]

I understand that my mom loves me but she has become a "smother" instead of a mother. I need my space. I'm nearly 21 and she has gotten extremely clingy, I guess she realizes that my sister and I are getting older and we don't want to hang out the way we did when we were younger. She just left on a canoe trip with my stepdad for only a week which seems unlike them, since they usually go for two or three weeks. I just found out from my sister in law that my mom said she couldn't leave us for more than a week. This is starting to freak me out! I'm planning on doing the Disney international program which would mean leaving for a year. I think she'd lose her mind. Any advice would be greatly appreciated

 

[Robinrs]

Clingy or concerned?

LOL, I remember thinking my Mom was too "in my business" but as she always told me, little children, little problems, BIG children BIG problems!

In a few years you'll understand, I know I did.

God bless,

Robinrs

 

[danacara]

Did you go away to school? Did she cope well with that?

 

[DisneyJules]

No definitely not just concerned. My dad is a concerned parent but he gives me plenty of space, which I really appreciate. And because of that I find I'm closer to him and I want to spend time with him.

 

[Tiggeroo]

try establishing an adult relationship. Go out to lunch your treat. Take your mom to the movies, maybe even plan a mini-vacation with your mom and sis. These things will help your mom to see that things aren't ending just changing even for the better.

 

[onecoolmama]

Hang in there. I think this I was 17-22 before my mom and I got along again. I think Jr High is really tough with friends, but the just becoming an adult stage is sooo hard with moms (and girls).

I am older now, and my mom and I get along much better now. But, believe me when I tell you, a lot of parents (moms in particular) have a tough time with this age.

 

[DisneyJules]

Tigeroo, you're so right. It just clicked, we still have a "child/adult" relationship and I want an adult/adult relationship. Good advice, thank-you

 

[mtblujeans]

From one clingy mom to a frustrated young adult: Enjoy your upcoming year in the Disney program. It might be the best year of your life. Your mom will get a life eventually. I have kids younger and older than you but they are in the same position you are in. I never understood what "empty nest syndrome" meant until my daughter moved away with my grandson and my oldest son got his driver's license, all in the same month! We have already proven we can roll with the punches or we would not be as old as we are. Love your Mom and patiently move on. It will work out.

 

[Mad4Mickey]

As a clingy Mom I say HUG HER NOW !!! LOL

Sorry I couldnt help myself my son calls me his "Smother"

When you have kids you will understand .
I bought my son his 1st car this week and I am having problems now with missing him . It is hard to let go we just love you guys so much that we almost cant let go !