Christmas Decorating Help!!!

[sewer]

We own a small house and my wife God bless her has excessively decorated it for Christmas again. It looks as if she purchased one of everything from Kmart and placed mounds of these items everywhere, how do I tactfully suggest to her some sort of moderate theme would be nice?

 

[Hannathy]

If you want a "Happy New Year" I wouldn't!

Seriously if it brings her joy who cares, let her enjoy it. Maybe you do something she doesn't like but she goes along with it cause you like it a lot?

 

[AmongMadPeople]

Hmmm...my husband usually waits until I bring something up (Does this look stupid here?) before he agrees with me. I think he knows better than to give unsolicited advice.

If any time is the right time, it isn't now. Maybe next year you can participate in the decorating, and give your opinions in a way that seems constructive and appropriate to the situation. (i.e. Wouldn't it be nice to have a little more space open on the dining room table? Maybe we should leave this clear so we can reach the curtains?)

 

[Wishing on a star]

We need pictures!!!!!

Is this something recent???
Or, is this a lot of christmas stuff that she has collected over a number of years????

Especially if it is things that may now have sentimental value, you are treading on thin ice!!!!!

If she is making a big new foray into 'doing Christmas' and might welcome some positive/creative help... maybe a few VERY carefully chosen words? (do you have a feminine/gay home decorator streak????) No offense!!!! Just being funny and pointing out that many men are not going to be the better at this kind of decorating thing. PS: if you do, then come on over to my house and help me out!!!! Maybe you could find a small area that you feel like needs some work... Like around the TV where you watch your games... and ask her if she would mind of you try your hand at decorating right there. If you end up doing a nicer job, you might find that you have just been enlisted to a lot of the decorating work next year!!!!

Some folks are just real Christmas fanatics....
If this is the case... like others said... if this overload is her idea of Christmas Joy... just let her have it!

 

[sewer]

If you want a "Happy New Year" I wouldn't!

Seriously if it brings her joy who cares, let her enjoy it. Maybe you do something she doesn't like but she goes along with it cause you like it a lot?

Hmmm...my husband usually waits until I bring something up (Does this look stupid here?) before he agrees with me. I think he knows better than to give unsolicited advice.

If any time is the right time, it isn't now. Maybe next year you can participate in the decorating, and give your opinions in a way that seems constructive and appropriate to the situation. (i.e. Wouldn't it be nice to have a little more space open on the dining room table? Maybe we should leave this clear so we can reach the curtains?)

We need pictures!!!!!

Is this something recent???
Or, is this a lot of christmas stuff that she has collected over a number of years????

Especially if it is things that may now have sentimental value, you are treading on thin ice!!!!!

If she is making a big new foray into 'doing Christmas' and might welcome some positive/creative help... maybe a few VERY carefully chosen words? (do you have a feminine/gay home decorator streak????) No offense!!!! Just being funny and pointing out that many men are not going to be the better at this kind of decorating thing. PS: if you do, then come on over to my house and help me out!!!! Maybe you could find a small area that you feel like needs some work... Like around the TV where you watch your games... and ask her if she would mind of you try your hand at decorating right there. If you end up doing a nicer job, you might find that you have just been enlisted to a lot of the decorating work next year!!!!

Some folks are just real Christmas fanatics....
If this is the case... like others said... if this overload is her idea of Christmas Joy... just let her have it!

All very good replies, it didn't occur to me I could create a situation where the dog house could become a permanent residence, I will take your collective advise!

 

[SC Minnie]

OP-- if you want to have a merry Christmas keep your mouth shut. If she asks you how things look tell her you think its beautiful and she's done a great job. The rewards will surely outweigh any frustration you have with the excess. If it makes her happy let her do it.

 

[NVDisMom]

All very good replies, it didn't occur to me I could create a situation where the dog house could become a permanent residence, I will take your collective advise!

Smart man!

 

[lovetoscrap]

Are you my husband???



It sounds like she has the same decorating theme that I do-- Christmas Tacky! If it is Christmasy I want it and am putting it out! However my dh did stop me in my tracks by beginning the long awaited wallpaper removal in our Kitchen/Dining room. So all decor had to be put aside. I think I just figured out why, after 6 years, he decided it was time to do it!

All very good replies, it didn't occur to me I could create a situation where the dog house could become a permanent residence, I will take your collective advise!

On the bright side, you could end up in the most decorated dog house since Snoopy!

 

[Angelhalo]

If you want a "Happy New Year" I wouldn't!

Seriously if it brings her joy who cares, let her enjoy it. Maybe you do something she doesn't like but she goes along with it cause you like it a lot?

I completely agree. It makes her happy, so just enjoy her happiness and move on with life.

 

[natenapril]

On the bright side, you could end up in the most decorated dog house since Snoopy!

 

[snowywhite89]

Happy wife; Happy life.

Tell her how nice it looks and thank her for how hard she worked. This may even get you an early Christmas present.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

I am of a different opinion, though I would hold my comments until she was packing all that stuff away after the holidays. Honesty is important in a marriage. When she is packing it up, explain to her that you really appreciate all of her efforts to decorate your home for the holidays, but the holidays would be just as nice, and the two of you would have more time to spend together, if she did a little less decorating next year.

I would stop short of criticizing her "cluttered" deco, but I would let my wife know that sometimes less can be more. Christmas isn't about the decorations, it is about sharing with the people that we love. Every minute that she spends decorating or cleaning up after is a moment that she could be spending with loved ones.

 

[jen0610]

Now see, my DH wants to put out more sutff on the tables, but I am the one that says what we have is enough. We would have to go buy stuff. What he keeps forgetting, is that as soon as my mom stops decorating, I will be getting her 150+ piece collection of snowman stuff. We will have plenty to put out then.

Now if he would like to pound a few dozen more nails in the walls for the season, I have another couple of boxes of stuff I could hang up.

 

[PollyannaMom]

Don't tell her! She'll realize it herself when she takes it all down in January and feels such relief. Next year will be better. (Trust me, I've been her.)

 

[moon]

Oh, come on, just let her be. I'd much rather have someone with "too much" spirit than none at all. Nothing sadder than to be around apathetic, indifferent people at Christmas time.

Enjoy her joy and spirit, and hope she never loses it.