Children with Parents in bathroom

[princesspeach]

I only have one piece of advice. When your little boys start going into the mens room by themselves don't forget that they are running into the mens room, and not the womens. I almost chased my 5 year old son into the mens room at Blizzard Beach. The only thing that stopped was a big man walking out just as I was about to walk in. Boy would I have gotten an eye full.

 

[GinnyEmma]

Lol, probably not. Been there. Guys aren't standing around waving their bits for all the world to admire. They pretty much peek them through, and get out asap!

 

[spacemountainmom]

I am pleased to report that in 8 days at Disney, I did not see one older boy in any women's restrooms. Actually, I saw very few little boys in the bathrooms either.

My restroom annoyance for this trip was the Grandma's who needed to block the entire entrance to the restroom. I have a pea sized bladder so I visit the facilities often. Most every time I would encounter a mom using the changing table while grandma would stand with the stroller and block the entire entrance to the stalls. I just didn't get it. I guess it's because I was capable of entering a restroom with my child and changing a diaper without any assistance. Why bring the stroller in??? Why must grandma supervise???Really???

ok rant over....

 

[sparklynails23]

Just wondering if that matters if it is yoir kid assaulted? I've known a few young perps and they broke my heart and I tried to help. No way in hell I'd ever have them near my kids.

I would not want them alone with my child, but I would not force them to move either child from the classroom, because five year olds are not predators, pervs, or perps.

 

[iheartdisney]

back on topic...
When my son went for 6 hours without relieving himself one fine Disney Day, because he wouldn't enter the girl's bathroom, I decided it was time to loosen the reigns a little, and let him go to the men's room.
i think as many bad people as there are in the world, (and the restrooms) there are more good people, who i hope would say something if they saw someone touching or grabbing a young boy in a bathroom.
i could be wrong. i've never been into the men's room at Disney world, for all i know they could look like the Neverlan Ranch swingers club.

 

[MSSANDRA]

Did not have time to go back and read all the replies so I will just answer the question!

1st time DS went alone at WDW he was 8. I was not really comfortable with it but we were alone and I had to go as well and he really did not want to go in the women's. I asked a gentlemen coming out if there were any other exits ( a big concern at WDW) and he ended up walking in with another young boy that was with his mom. I hurried, beat the boys out and we waited for his mom to come out. After that if DH was not around at WDW he went alone and was ok.

Some places (our local cafe, small library etc) he went a little earlier. Some places, (wal-mart, fast food places when traveling etc) a little later. The last time I think he was about 11 when we were traveling without DH and we HAD to stop late in the day at a rest stop I felt VERY uncomfortable with. My sister and her younger son were along. What we did was wait till the women's restroom was clear, had the boys go in while we stood in the doorway and told the couple women that came up that our boys were in there and they could choose to go on in or wait.We got smiles and they went on in.


Every child/parent and setting is different. Have to make the choice that is best for your family!

 

[Gitts2008]

My dd is 9 yo and I would say that it all depends of the situation and place. I have seen both children too young to be in the women's room and boys too old to be in the woman's room, but it is not my place to judge.

What I have not seen (mostly because there are too many posts to read) is why no one posted about how THEY would help a lil' one unaccompanied if needed. I have assisted lil' ones with getting the soap or a towel.

What terrifies me is seeing a lil one trying to open a heavy restroom door alone and having their fingers on the door jam.

If my dh was with dd and she went to the restroom by herself and could not reach the soap or towel or open the door to leave...I would want another parents to help her. :

 

[Leajess99]

I would not want them alone with my child, but I would not force them to move either child from the classroom, because five year olds are not predators, pervs, or perps.

Seriously, you would expect your child who was victimized to remain in the same classroom as the child that abused them?? I just don't get that and a 5/6 year old who has sexually abused another child is in need of more supervision. It is not fair to the victim to be forced to go to class daily with their abuser nor is it fair to the teacher to have to find a way to keep the abuser from doing it again. The abuser requires more supervision than there is a regular classroom.

Also, I'm curious as to what is going to happen with the current situation in Oakland - http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/01/22/oral-sex-in-oakland-class_n_812573.html.

 

[Leajess99]

My dd is 9 yo and I would say that it all depends of the situation and place. I have seen both children too young to be in the women's room and boys too old to be in the woman's room, but it is not my place to judge.

What I have not seen (mostly because there are too many posts to read) is why no one posted about how THEY would help a lil' one unaccompanied if needed. I have assisted lil' ones with getting the soap or a towel.

What terrifies me is seeing a lil one trying to open a heavy restroom door alone and having their fingers on the door jam.

If my dh was with dd and she went to the restroom by herself and could not reach the soap or towel or open the door to leave...I would want another parents to help her. :

I have done this before. We were at Kings Island one time and a little girl was with her dad and went in the girls' bathroom. I made sure she was able to get the soap and paper towels and let her dad know as we walked out that she would be out in a minute she was finishing with her hands.

 

[fakereadhed]

I don't really have time on vacation to notice who's in the bathroom, nor do I care.

I do care if anyone of any sex or age is acting innappropriately and peeking or crawling under stalls, playing in the sink, or throwing paper towels in the floor.

As long as people supervise their children in the restroom I don't judge.

 

[mamaLori05]

My dd is 9 yo and I would say that it all depends of the situation and place. I have seen both children too young to be in the women's room and boys too old to be in the woman's room, but it is not my place to judge.

What I have not seen (mostly because there are too many posts to read) is why no one posted about how THEY would help a lil' one unaccompanied if needed. I have assisted lil' ones with getting the soap or a towel.

What terrifies me is seeing a lil one trying to open a heavy restroom door alone and having their fingers on the door jam.

If my dh was with dd and she went to the restroom by herself and could not reach the soap or towel or open the door to leave...I would want another parents to help her. :

I too have done this several times. If I see a child struggling to reach something, I help them out. In fact, I don't think I've ever been in a restroom where a child that was struggling to reach something was ignored. I think most people would help them out.
I've also had strangers help one of my kids while I was busy helping the other (If I am busy helping ds wash his hands, I've had strangers help dd get a paper towel, etc...)