Childfree (by choice) Disney Lovers!

[kerbear613]

Sounds like a great trip! I love the laid back approach to Disney. Sleep in if you want. Have ice cream for lunch if you want. Doing what you want, when you want to do it is the best part of vacation! Enjoy

 

[IowaTater]

DH and I are sort of CF by choice. We would like to have kids but they're just not in the cards right now so we'll just enjoy life to the fullest until then!

We are going in 56 days to celebrate DH's birthday, our 9th dating anniversary and our 3rd wedding anniversary. I can't wait to see all of the fall decorations, chow down at F&W, attend MNSSHP (who says you have to be a kid on Halloween??), and go to Universal for the first time.

 

[mrsclark]

My husband and I are newlyweds too (Dec 2012). Congratulations We are taking our honeymoon to WDW this fall. We're going to try to reserve the Wishes Dessert Party at Tomorrowland Terrace. This will be our 3rd trip there together and we like to do something different every time. Splitsville looks fun. I don't know if you're doing Universal at all, but we're planning on checking out the new mini golf courses at Citywalk.

New mini golf at Citywalk? I haven't heard anything about it and I LOVE mini golf - anybody been already and have a review?

 

[mrsclark]

Just wondering if anyone on this thread has read the following thread or the Time article about choosing to be child free and have any thoughts on it?

Time magazine notices some people are happy without kids

 

[mrsclark]

DH and I are sort of CF by choice. We would like to have kids but they're just not in the cards right now so we'll just enjoy life to the fullest until then!

We are going in 56 days to celebrate DH's birthday, our 9th dating anniversary and our 3rd wedding anniversary. I can't wait to see all of the fall decorations, chow down at F&W, attend MNSSHP (who says you have to be a kid on Halloween??), and go to Universal for the first time.

This is turning into a St. Louis people thread! I noticed your location is St. Louis. DH and I live in St. Louis County and glaserjm is from St. Louis too!

 

[zima-cheryl]

Sounds like a great trip! I love the laid back approach to Disney. Sleep in if you want. Have ice cream for lunch if you want. Doing what you want, when you want to do it is the best part of vacation! Enjoy

Does the Fountainview in Epcot still do ice cream, or have they changed their menu again?

That is a great spot for ice cream. Grab a spot on the patio & you have a great view of the water show @ the fountain.

 

[geek+nerd]

Does the Fountainview in Epcot still do ice cream, or have they changed their menu again?

That is a great spot for ice cream. Grab a spot on the patio & you have a great view of the water show @ the fountain.

It doesn't exist! This is going to be the Starbucks location in EPCOT.

 

[IowaTater]

This is turning into a St. Louis people thread! I noticed your location is St. Louis. DH and I live in St. Louis County and glaserjm is from St. Louis too!

Cool! It's always nice to see some fellow St. Louisians. We are actually in Jefferson County now but used to live in West County.

P.S. I love that you named your puppies after Harry Potter characters!

 

[glaserjm]

Just wondering if anyone on this thread has read the following thread or the Time article about choosing to be child free and have any thoughts on it?

Time magazine notices some people are happy without kids

We got this magazine at our office and I glanced through it yesterday but haven't had time to read the article in depth yet. I did notice that it quotes a study that I read about that equates higher IQs with being childless in women. I don't know the details about the study, but my main thing is that I want this to stop being an us vs. them conversation.

Just as much as I don't want to be questioned or judged about not having children, I don't want others to feel that I'm judging or questioning the fact that they do have kids. It's a debate that once again pits women against women (just like the working mom/stay-at-home mom debate) when it really shouldn't be that way. As long as everyone is making choices about their lives in a responsible and healthy manner, there really shouldn't be a debate.

I am happy though that this was put out there to show that parenting is a choice and that there are people that are making the choice not to do it. I know for a fact that there are parents out there who became parents solely because it was the believed "next step" and are not happy in their lives which seems bound to affect their children. Showing that there is indeed a viable choice is helpful.

 

[lynnirene]

Hi everyone! I'm Lynn and I am new to these boards. This thread drew me in right away. DH and I are childfree by choice (at least for now, I am not sure what the future will bring) and are planning our first WDW trip together for January 2014.

We are both college professors, so we do get a longer winter break, and I am hoping that the post-New Year's crowds aren't as big (once the kids go back to school) as they would be closer to the holidays.

I have been trying to convince DH to go with me for years, and he finally gave in when a few other childfree couple friends of ours told him how great it is

I went in May 2012 with my family, including my niece (5 at the time) and nephew (4 at the time) and it was great fun, but I am looking forward to this adults-only trip. My biggest annoyance with taking kids to the parks? Trying to navigate the crowds with strollers! (And then having to locate yours later in the sea of strollers...). We did have a lot of fun though, we actually rented a house and had our own private pool, which worked perfectly for our size group.

I am hoping to stay on-site this time, but I have to decide where. From everything I have read, I have heard good things about Port Orleans (either of them). Or, if we decide to spend a bit more, I really, really love the look of Fort Wilderness...would it be good for a childfree couple, or are there lots of little ones running around?

Anyways, I have enjoyed reading this thread. As I get older (I'm 30) I find myself having fewer and fewer childfree friends, so it is nice to have some like-minded company here!

 

[zima-cheryl]

We got this magazine at our office and I glanced through it yesterday but haven't had time to read the article in depth yet. I did notice that it quotes a study that I read about that equates higher IQs with being childless in women. I don't know the details about the study, but my main thing is that I want this to stop being an us vs. them conversation.

Just as much as I don't want to be questioned or judged about not having children, I don't want others to feel that I'm judging or questioning the fact that they do have kids. It's a debate that once again pits women against women (just like the working mom/stay-at-home mom debate) when it really shouldn't be that way. As long as everyone is making choices about their lives in a responsible and healthy manner, there really shouldn't be a debate.

I am happy though that this was put out there to show that parenting is a choice and that there are people that are making the choice not to do it. I know for a fact that there are parents out there who became parents solely because it was the believed "next step" and are not happy in their lives which seems bound to affect their children. Showing that there is indeed a viable choice is helpful.

You are soooo right, there really shouldn't be a debate.

One thought I had though, about the higher IQ. I wonder if it is that? Or if it is an economic issue that shows itself that way? I mean if someone is in a family that can afford good schools & college, they probably can also afford good healtcare & birth control. Perhaps the $$ is what gives those girls access to both? I'm not a social scientest, but that was one of the first things I thought when I read that.

Anyways, I have enjoyed reading this thread. As I get older (I'm 30) I find myself having fewer and fewer childfree friends, so it is nice to have some like-minded company here!

We had that issue too. It gets better as your friends kids get older so hang in there. Also, checkout meetup.com for any CF groups in your area. Another one is No Kidding - it is a national CF organizatin, maybe they have a franchise in your area.

 

[zanzibar138]

We got this magazine at our office and I glanced through it yesterday but haven't had time to read the article in depth yet. I did notice that it quotes a study that I read about that equates higher IQs with being childless in women. I don't know the details about the study, but my main thing is that I want this to stop being an us vs. them conversation.

Just as much as I don't want to be questioned or judged about not having children, I don't want others to feel that I'm judging or questioning the fact that they do have kids. It's a debate that once again pits women against women (just like the working mom/stay-at-home mom debate) when it really shouldn't be that way. As long as everyone is making choices about their lives in a responsible and healthy manner, there really shouldn't be a debate.

I am happy though that this was put out there to show that parenting is a choice and that there are people that are making the choice not to do it. I know for a fact that there are parents out there who became parents solely because it was the believed "next step" and are not happy in their lives which seems bound to affect their children. Showing that there is indeed a viable choice is helpful.

Couldn't agree more! If everyone just respected that people are different and therefore want different things in life, the world would be a happier place I am happy to accept that some people want kids, and don't try to convince them not to. Why do I constantly have to explain myself over my decision?

I was actually tempted to get on this thread the other day when two radio hosts were having a conversation about couples who choose not to have children. Apparently one of the hosts had been talking to someone who had stated that she simply didn't really like children as her reason for not wanting to have any. This caused great outrage on the radio show, with both hosts agreeing that it was such a 'wrong' thing to say, and that she may as well have said she hated humanity!

It was actually quite offensive to me because I don't really like children either. Never before have I considered that this might be offensive to society, or that it would make me a bad person! It doesn't mean that I want to do terrible things to them or that I don't think they should exist. It just means that I don't really want to spend lots of time with them. But a well-behaved child doing/saying something cute will make me smile.

I really love animals, and I don't really understand how anyone could not love them. But I don't go getting offended if someone says they don't dogs. Again, we're all different. Some people like Coke, some like Pepsi. As long as our personal choices are not hurting anyone, I don't see what the problem is

 

[jdanjou]

Couldn't agree more! If everyone just respected that people are different and therefore want different things in life, the world would be a happier place I am happy to accept that some people want kids, and don't try to convince them not to. Why do I constantly have to explain myself over my decision?

I was actually tempted to get on this thread the other day when two radio hosts were having a conversation about couples who choose not to have children. Apparently one of the hosts had been talking to someone who had stated that she simply didn't really like children as her reason for not wanting to have any. This caused great outrage on the radio show, with both hosts agreeing that it was such a 'wrong' thing to say, and that she may as well have said she hated humanity!

It was actually quite offensive to me because I don't really like children either. Never before have I considered that this might be offensive to society, or that it would make me a bad person! It doesn't mean that I want to do terrible things to them or that I don't think they should exist. It just means that I don't really want to spend lots of time with them. But a well-behaved child doing/saying something cute will make me smile.

I really love animals, and I don't really understand how anyone could not love them. But I don't go getting offended if someone says they don't dogs. Again, we're all different. Some people like Coke, some like Pepsi. As long as our personal choices are not hurting anyone, I don't see what the problem is

I agree with you. My husband and I decided that we didn't want any children and we used to tell people that it was because neither one of us liked kids. The glares and responses we received were beyond ridiculous. But in reality we do like kids, but as long as we can send them back to their parents at the end of the night. Now I tell people that I don't want to be responsible for the way a child turns out (as in raising them) and its like a lightbulb moment for them and they don't seem so judgmental. Or I tell them I don't want to raise a teenage me . Anyone who knows anything about my life from 16-24 understands completely and that's the end of the conversation.

I would never begrudge someone for becoming a patent so don't begrudge me for not having kids. I value my time and independence more than I wanted a child, and that's ok (but not according to my mother who has finally resigned herself to the fact that her grandchildren are the 4-legged kind. Lol)

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[CynBeth]

It's been pretty quiet here. I hope everyone is doing well.

 

[lakelandgal70]

It's been pretty quiet here. I hope everyone is doing well.

Doing super great! Hope you are well!

 

[Devilsangel7681]

Doing fabulous, planning planning away for our trip in October! Hubby might not be able to make it :-( , but I am going with the rest of the fam so it will still be a blast!

 

[CynBeth]

Glad you guys are doing well. Our December Disney trip can't come fast enough. Luckily the O's are in the playoff hunt so it helps a little and football season will start soon. It's funny that I am more into baseball and football than my husband.

 

[franandaj]

I haven't been on this thread much since it came back to life as we've been busy buying a house and with the D23 Expo. I'm just getting caught up on people's TRs and such. Our October trip is coming up really fast and I ned to get on top of MDE and those pesky magic bands.

 

[Devilsangel7681]

Oh man, have I been researching those pesky bands the past few days! Trying to get the FP+ figured out with my old ticket. My Disney Experience app is recognizing my resort reservation but not the ticket. I have an old 2008 hopper I am going to use, but I have to get it exchanged in DTD before we visit the parks on my next trip then I guess the FP+ will be attached to that one. Oy ve

 

[glaserjm]

Oh man, have I been researching those pesky bands the past few days! Trying to get the FP+ figured out with my old ticket. My Disney Experience app is recognizing my resort reservation but not the ticket. I have an old 2008 hopper I am going to use, but I have to get it exchanged in DTD before we visit the parks on my next trip then I guess the FP+ will be attached to that one. Oy ve

I'm wondering if it is going to be in full roll-out by the time we are there in November. As of now MDE has the MagicBands and FP+ options on the page, but none of them are "live" so to speak.

I'm kind of excited to try it out if possible (we are going again in March with friends and I'd like to have at least one trip under our belts w/ FP+ before we are taking newbies around WDW)