Childbirth - Epidural or No?

Get the epidural or not?

  • Go in planning for it!

  • Go in with an open mind, but get it if needed.

  • Tough it out - go natural!

  • Other


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phragmipedium

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Okay, DIS ladies (and gents) - I'm 12 weeks pregnant with my first child. In an attempt to distract myself from nausea, I have a poll...epidural or no? I'm familiar with the benefits and drawbacks, and I'm not subbing a DIS poll for medical advice :lmao: but tell me your stories and opinions.
 
First child I decided to go as long as I could and get it if I needed it.

Started labor 10pm to 7am very slow process got my epidural then delivered at 12:45pm

Next child induced got my go-go juice at 1:10pm epidural around 1:30pm delivery at 4:10pm hmmmm.....lots of go-go juice along the way so fast I couldn't believe it.

If I had it to do all over again I would have had the first epidural sooner, I was exhausted when it came time to push for the birth of my first child and my doc assisted me with forcepts (ouch)
 
I had an epidural at all three of my births. Im not a fan of pain.. So I LOVED them! My first baby.. I screamed for it. To the point my mom was running down the hallway crying.. and looking for a nurse.. dr... janitor.. WHATEVER!!:lmao: With my second.. i went in knowing it was going to HURT.. and knowing I wanted an epidural. I finally got it, and all was good again.

On to my third prgnancy. I was determined to go all natural. I was going to a midwife, and all that. Then we found out I was having twins. So much for all natural! I started seeing my dr. and she recommended an epi. because one of my babies was breech. She said.. a breech extraction can be a little uncomfortable.. :scared1: It just SOUNDED awful! I was a 4 going in, and about a five when they suggested I get it, but I was in no pain yet. But once I got it, they started pumping in the pitocin, and the babies were born within the hour.

LOVED my epidurals!!:thumbsup2:thumbsup2
 
Heck yeah!
I got it as early as I could with both of my daughters and boy was I glad I did. I was a she-beast until I got it and then I became a totally different person. I relaxed, I fell in love with the anesthesiologist a little bit, and I stopped scratching the dickens out of my poor hubby's arm/hand. I looked at him with loving concern and said, "What happened to you?" and he said, "YOU did, about 1/2 hour ago!"

I am pro-epidural all the way! In fact, I wish I had one right now.
 

Heck yeah!
I am pro-epidural all the way! In fact, I wish I had one right now.

:rotfl:

My personal plan right now is go in with an open mind, because it's entirely possible that the pain will be easily handled. :lmao: But at this point I have no qualms about getting one - the process and some of the side effects sound kind of scary, but so does childbirth without pain relief. So we'll see what happens.
 
I voted go with an open mind but get it if needed. That was my plan--try not to have it, but there is no shame in needing help.

Birth stories with happy endings to ditract you from the nausea;):

1 hour and 15 minutes into labor (assuming it was a contraction that woke me), 5th contraction hit, I was walking in the bathroom and grabbed the towel bar and pulled it out of the wall. Told DH in tears that if it was THIS bad already I would need something to get through another 10 or more hours of labor:eek: Yeah, turns out I don't labor as long as normal women--that was the last contraction. DD was born about 10 minutes later while I stood in the bathroom door:lmao: DH caught her (literally) and then called for help.

DS was induced (to avoid another such scene and because I had group B strep) and things moved even faster (1 hour and 4 minutes from the start of the Pictocin drip until he was born). I would have liked an epidural then (back labor is not fun!), but there was no time.

I think I got off very lucky with my two. I have spent about 2 1/2 hours in very INTENSE labor--but it was so short it was a good trade off, ya know?
 
Alright, my experience is going to be different than everyone elses, but since you're going for distraction, I figure you're ready for a long story.

After about a year of trying to heal up crunched cartilage in my knee (my fiance at the time sat on my foot, popped the knee joint up and essentially "bruised" the cartilage) I was tired of the pain and everything that went with it (had to quit dancing, so weight gain, depression) so I asked for surgery. Now, I have known since I was 5 that I will die from the use of certain inhalant anesthetics and muscle relaxants. It is hereditary but they found out with me. There are certain specifications that must be followed when I have surgery (first to use the machine that day, none of my trigger drugs, trained anesthesiologist who has been at each of my surgeries). As such, at EVERY SINGLE appointment, and with every doctor, nurse, and assistant I reminded them of this condition, the requirements, and made sure that everyone understood. The surgery was scheduled when I could take a Friday off of teaching and return Monday.

The Wednesday before, the center called to say that since my condition was so complicated, they had to do it at the hospital and so I'd have to reschedule. :headache: I was tired of waiting and didn't know when I'd have another time that would work, so I asked if there was any way I could have the surgery on Friday. They finally decided if I would be willing to do a spinal instead of general anesthesia, they would go ahead on Friday. I said fine, whatever gets this done. Now, the spinal itself didn't hurt, curling into a ball was fine (I have no idea though how that works with pregnant women...) and it was actually pretty cool to get to watch the surgery (saw them scrape some junk off the back of my kneecap) and have that weird dissociative feeling when I saw them move my leg around (rather roughly it seemed) but I couldn't feel it at all.

However, after the surgery the nurse who was watching after me seemed like she was in a rush to get me out of there. I felt great, was eating and drinking and she was pleased with how fast I was going. She kept propping me further and further up, but the last time had an immediate effect. All the blood drained from my face and I knew I was going to puke. My parents saw it immediately too and my Dad was yelling at the nurse to come pop me back down as my mom grabbed something for me to throw up in. I puked everything back up but all the nurse had to say was "whoops, shouldn't have eaten all that!" It wasn't the eating, it was the elevation, I could feel it at the time even before I knew what happened.

Surgery was fine, healed up quite well although I'm never going to be quite the same. However, starting from that day I had a migraine for a month. That had never happened to me before. I had had migraines before, but they were so mild that they always went away when I slept - even a nap in a dark room would take care of them. This was a constant migraine day in and day out - I taught orchestra with it, I woke to it, it was ever present. I had never understood how debilitating migraines can really be, but it was all consuming. Spinal headaches may happen to at least 30% of patients, and the nurse popping me up so quick is what caused it. With the help of my biofeedback and massage therapists, it finally went away, but as they pointed out they were never going to totally disappear, and they would probably come back every time my hormones fluctuated. Right now I'm sucking down my second Extra Large Baja Blast of the evening, because caffiene has proved the most effective method of treating - the migraine medications don't help at all, and while muscle relaxants help, they also make me really sleepy.

So, I cognitively know that not everyone experiences the same symptoms as I did. I also know that even if I had another spinal done, nothing may happen. In fact, since they actively encourage new moms to stay laying down (you're supposed to stay in a prone position for 24 hours to avoid the possibility of the spinal fluid leaking out and causing the headaches, something I didn't know until after) I'm sure it doesn't happen to most mothers, particularly since they aren't supposed to puncture as deep with the epidural. However, I am NEVER having another spinal again. Period. Whether or not I have children, I don't consider that a viable option anymore. That's the long story for why even though I haven't been faced with the actual pain, I can give you such a definite response. ETA: It was more obvious when I was the first responder...I said tough it out.

There you go. Probably more than you wanted to know, but hopefully it was distracting and not too gross or worrisome.
 
Let me throw in a man's point of view.

My wife (and I) had two children. I watched the process and decided that if I were a woman I would be demanding an epi during conception. There is no sense in waiting.

Pain, in my humble opinion, does not necessarily add to the experience in a positive way. Yes, many can struggle through it and then have bragging rights after, but why, oh why would anyone want too.

In today's modern age, pain in childbirth, is very manageable. Why not take advantage of it. It isn't like the old days of the 50's when they literally knocked out the Mother. The present method allows Mom to be able to better experience the birth of her children without the distraction brought on by intense pain.

That said, my daughter had two children, completely natural, at home with a mid-wife. Why remains a mystery, but she did it that way for whatever reason she had. My other daughter didn't, she went to the hospital and did the epi as soon as she could. Both had the same end result. Health children! No, I do not see the advantage of pain in this process. It's like hitting yourself in the head with a hammer because it feels so good when you stop.
 
Frankly, the idea of someone putting that enormous needle into my back freaked me out way more than childbirth pain. I didn't skip an epidural for bragging rights or because I was trying to be superwoman or because I thought I'd get a special no epidural prize. But I'd read about possible side effects and seen the procedure done to someone else and there was no way that that needle was coming anywhere near me. ;)

I have no issues with other people getting an epidural, but for me, the idea of the procedure was way worse than the pain it was supposed to relieve.
 
I think "bragging rights" very rarely plays into it. Occassionally, sure, there are those people who always have to feel that they did the only "right" thing, but you have that with ANYthing (especially anything related to parenting). Most women are doing what works best for them and their babies (and some of just flat out end up with no choice--really I did not shoose to have a baby while standing in a doorway with my husband skidding across the floor on his knees to catch her before she hit the floor as I screamed, and I sure as heck was not thinking about "wow, I didn't have meds now I can brag about that" at the time--or ever since:lmao
 
I never did the epidural..I was scared of the whole idea of it! I would rather suffer in the pain of labor. I had 6 children, didn't have the epidural but did have that cocktail of fun they give you if your labors are long...and mine were. The shortest on record was number 6 and I was still in labor for over 9 hours. :confused3

I actually envied my friends who did the epidural. Every time I went in I would think I would do it, they would bring in the paper to sign and I couldn't bring myself to do it. My friends would tell me how crazy I was since it was so easy and it worked so well.

Kelly
 
Three pregnancies, two labors.

First time was induced, it took 32 hours before I was dialated enough for the epidural. It was heaven.....I still remember the name of the sweet, wonderful Dr. who gave it to me. 6 hours later it was time to push.

Second time I was eligible when I got to hospital (6 hours into the labor), had the epidural right away and spent the night laughing and talking with my family (including my 80 yr old grandmother who was really impressed with the epidural too) for the rest of the labor (5 hours) until it was time to push.

Third pregnancy (breech twins) was a planned c-section. Had a spinal block.

I loved my epidurals, had no problems and highly recommend them.
 
Another big epidural fan here. I had back labor with my firstborn - oh, my goodness, the pain was unbelievable, and since labor lasted about 27 hours, I cannot imagine what that would have been like without it. Then the epidural was like heaven - unbelievable how wonderful it feels when the pain stops!
 
I didn't skip an epidural for bragging rights or because I was trying to be superwoman or because I thought I'd get a special no epidural prize.

I think "bragging rights" very rarely plays into it.

Oops! Apparently I struck a nerve (no pun intended) by using the words "bragging rights". Let me clarify...I did not intend to say that I thought that woman would endure the pain just for the bragging rights. I just meant that after they would have bragging rights. Just a secondary perk, so to speak. Sorry if it came over differently.
 
Go in with an open mind.

child #1 (9 pounds 10 0z) no epidural....

Child #2 (7 pounds 15 oz) Epidural......... I had back labor with him and I took the epidural. Great Decision!

Every labor is different!
 
Oops! Apparently I struck a nerve (no pun intended) by using the words "bragging rights". Let me clarify...I did not intend to say that I thought that woman would endure the pain just for the bragging rights. I just meant that after they would have bragging rights. Just a secondary perk, so to speak. Sorry if it came over differently.

thanks for clarifying:flower3:
 
I think "bragging rights" very rarely plays into it. Occassionally, sure, there are those people who always have to feel that they did the only "right" thing, but you have that with ANYthing (especially anything related to parenting). Most women are doing what works best for them and their babies (and some of just flat out end up with no choice--really I did not shoose to have a baby while standing in a doorway with my husband skidding across the floor on his knees to catch her before she hit the floor as I screamed, and I sure as heck was not thinking about "wow, I didn't have meds now I can brag about that" at the time--or ever since:lmao

Sorry but I have to disagree--I know PLENTY of women that don't get meds during labor just for that reason and then they make a point to tell everyone that "caved in" during labor that they didn't have a "real birth experience". Give me a break.

I didn't get an epidural with our first because it wasn't available-believe me, after 36 hours of labor I was ready to put my own epidural in. Our twins were a planned C-Section so again, not an option. Given the choice, heck yes I would have taken one.

Consider yourself lucky that birthing children is easy for you.
 
I am pro-epi...just be prepared they do not work for everyone.

I have had two children. With my DS the epi wore off on one side of my body. Not bad half the pain I guess. With my DD I decided to give it another try. Dr giving the epi said it may have been the location I received the epi with DS why it wore off. With DD the epi started to wear off with in and 1 hour by the time I delivered and 1.5 hours later I could feel everything in full strength.

Just wanted to let you know this can happen. I wish you a safe and happy experience.

Mrs. Disney Ron
 
A better poll might be "how many people actually had their birth plan work out as planned" :lmao:. I am sure the nurses love when parents come in with these spread sheets of how everything will go for their labors, I wonder what percentage of the things on that plan actually happen since it wasn't shared with the baby.
 
Sorry but I have to disagree--I know PLENTY of women that don't get meds during labor just for that reason and then they make a point to tell everyone that "caved in" during labor that they didn't have a "real birth experience". Give me a break.

I didn't get an epidural with our first because it wasn't available-believe me, after 36 hours of labor I was ready to put my own epidural in. Our twins were a planned C-Section so again, not an option. Given the choice, heck yes I would have taken one.

Consider yourself lucky that birthing children is easy for you.

Wow, I guess I know the wrong women (or would that be the right women)?

Oh, and I do consider myself lucky that birthing children is fast for me (I think I even said something to that effect earlier in the thread). I would not call the incredibly intense pain of going from 1cm to 10 AND giving birth (to kids who were 8lbs 8 oz and the 8 lbs--so not huge but not tiny) with no meds whatsoever in just over an hour easy. I briefly blacked out from the intesity of the pain the second time around (and I have a pretty high pain threshhold) and I am sure the entire hospital heard me screaming. I cannot imagine the pain and exhaustion that must accompnay many really long labours. I am sure it is really terrible. I don't think you could compare the two. I guess I consider all of us moms who, in the end, are healthy ourselves and have healthy little ones to love to be equally lucky.
 













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