Child ruins every picture!

[Magpie]

Your post reminded me of Toby Mugs. Been around ages, they still make them I think. Not the most attractive "faced" mugs.

I had to google it, and my gosh! I have one of those!

It belonged to my husband's grandmother and it's just a mug shaped like an ugly little British man (edited to add: Just pulled him out, he's a bootblack). I had no idea that's what it was called! Or that it was a thing people collect.

(Edit x 2): And here he is, the appalling little man. Apparently his name is "Sam Weller" and he's circa the 1940s. Today, I learned!

 

[pat fan]

Cool, cool, we're narrowing it down. North to Jersey but south of Boston.

Well ya know, there's rivalry between Jersey & Ma, so we aren't going to agree on much of anything! LOL!

The name of the company is Pro Image Experts and they are located in Solon, OH.

Hope they can help you get a great group shot from your vacation.

The difference is AMAZING!!!! Great work!

 

[NCDisneyMom]

See, THAT one particular comment is what would bother me enough to become angry and call that kid out... bigger than life....
I seriously don't care what 'mugging' and 'selfies' they are all into.
I recognize that it is narcissism, pure and simple.

It isn't always 'all about them', and 'how they are these days'.
God help us.
If a kid doesn't know that the behaviors and language and gestures that they might think are appropriate with their friends is sometimes just NOT APPROPRIATE in other situations, then I would have a problem with that. The 'mugging' that they do in their precious selfies just might not be what is called for in that family vacation 'grandma photo' that somebody paid $$$ for.

Wow...didn't realize my post would incite that much anger! Since you are quoting my post, I sure hope you are not implying that my child, or any other child for that matter, who DOES make those gestures (not obscene gestures, just silly), is a narcissistic child who doesn't know how to behave in certain situations. We are talking pictures here, not job interviews. 12 year olds; not 21 year olds. The truth of the matter is that no, it's not always "appropriate", but I'd still rather see a duck face than flipping the bird. It's really not fair to judge any child based on how they are posing in some family pictures. You don't know if any of these kids are on the honor roll, play sports, in Scouts, do volunteer work, etc.

We're heading to WDW in a couple of weeks, and I guarantee that my 12yo will be making duck faces and peace signs, and my 16yo will refuse to get in any posed pictures. And that's ok, because they are otherwise good kids and if those are the worst of my worries, then I've got it pretty darn good.

 

[mom2rtk]

My daughter has run the gamut with duck faces and peace signs as well. I love having those in my collection to pull out later and torment her. But when I say "let's take a nice one" she stops for the moment. I think it's part of learning to do things for others sometimes.

 

[gwynne]

My daughter has run the gamut with duck faces and peace signs as well. I love having those in my collection to pull out later and torment her. But when I say "let's take a nice one" she stops for the moment. I think it's part of learning to do things for others sometimes.

Exactly. I think the balance of some goofy kid stuff along with the occasional "nice" photo is very reasonable, and I agree with you on why it's important.

 

[Poohforyou]

Wow...didn't realize my post would incite that much anger! Since you are quoting my post, I sure hope you are not implying that my child, or any other child for that matter, who DOES make those gestures (not obscene gestures, just silly), is a narcissistic child who doesn't know how to behave in certain situations. We are talking pictures here, not job interviews. 12 year olds; not 21 year olds. The truth of the matter is that no, it's not always "appropriate", but I'd still rather see a duck face than flipping the bird. It's really not fair to judge any child based on how they are posing in some family pictures. You don't know if any of these kids are on the honor roll, play sports, in Scouts, do volunteer work, etc.

We're heading to WDW in a couple of weeks, and I guarantee that my 12yo will be making duck faces and peace signs, and my 16yo will refuse to get in any posed pictures. And that's ok, because they are otherwise good kids and if those are the worst of my worries, then I've got it pretty darn good.

But I would hope that if you asked you daughters to put on a pretty outfit and smile nicely because the picture was for their grandmother (or another special person) that they'd do so.

That's what we're talking about. Who cares what the kids do in pictures when it's just fun, assuming nothing obscene.

And for the record, you can have a kid with few manners in honor roll, doing volunteer work and playing sports just like you can have a D student who does nothing extracurricular with exceptional manners. I don't see how one necessarily has anything to do with the other.

 

[MaryLovesPoohBear]

My daughter has run the gamut with duck faces and peace signs as well. I love having those in my collection to pull out later and torment her. But when I say "let's take a nice one" she stops for the moment. I think it's part of learning to do things for others sometimes.

Exactly.

And wanting a picture like that, a nice one, doesn't make anyone a perfectionist.

 

[BunsenH]

Hey Mugsy, c'mere.

Duh......whatti do Boss

Shattup shatting up

 

[jdb in AZ]

In DD's high school group pics the photographer opted to take a silly pic of everyone acting obnoxious (but no bird flipping or other garbage.) After the kids got the mugging out of the way, then they settled down for the traditional poses. The students could then order either or both pics.

 

[NCDisneyMom]

But I would hope that if you asked you daughters to put on a pretty outfit and smile nicely because the picture was for their grandmother (or another special person) that they'd do so.

That's what we're talking about. Who cares what the kids do in pictures when it's just fun, assuming nothing obscene.

And for the record, you can have a kid with few manners in honor roll, doing volunteer work and playing sports just like you can have a D student who does nothing extracurricular with exceptional manners. I don't see how one necessarily has anything to do with the other.

I don't disagree with you, and I should have made that more clear. Yes, I would expect my child to stop and take a nice picture if I asked. It was the other posters comment to mine, which (to me) read like she was calling all kids who make faces in their pictures narcissistic. I only pointed out those other qualities as something to consider in the entire qualities of a child...not just whether they make faces in pictures or not, as that poster was implying.

 

[NHdisneylover]

If she really didn't want to be in them, I would let her skip most of them. I think @NHdisneylover made a good point above about some kids not wanting to constantly be in pictures at that age. (Though if the adults paying for the trip wanted one special one for Christmas card photos, I would hope she would be grateful enough to do that!)

Letting them skip can be a funny story on it's own, though: A couple of years ago, we were at Great Wolfe Lodge - me, DH, DS, and my nephew. (Background: DS and DN are close in age, and both look a lot like their mutual grandfather. They could almost pass for twins.) So it's the end of November, they'd put up the Christmas decorations in the lobby, and I thought it would be a great idea to get a Christmas card photo. Nephew kindly agrees to take it...The horrified looks that I was forcing one of my kids to stay out and take the picture would have been the real shot to catch! Several people kindly offered to take the photo for us so he could be in it. (We did accept, and have a lovely photo of all of us too!) I'm sure they thought I was extremely weird.

See, if I felt the root cause was the young person being self conscious about their looks the LAST thing I would do would be to insist they try to smile so I could send that photo out to the whole family for a holiday card. If they are embarrassed/worried about appearance I'd think that wold make it so much harder on them.

In a perfect world, no one ever feels so concerned about how they look or so down on them-self, but in reality it can and does happen and I guess I sort of feel like that is one of those things that can be touchy and not about behaving---I would want to respect someone not feeling comfortable with the photo and find another thing to do for the holidays that year.

 

[megster1123]

I still really want to see these tragically ruined photos!

 

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

Well, mugging and it's meaning and/or definition has been added to the topics list.

I'm gonna have to buy more paper at this rate.

 

[Bluestars]

I think it was rude for the girl's parents to let it happen. It seems like they would have enough respect for their own parents to honor their request for a nice picture. If my mom, dad, or in-laws asked for a nice picture and for my kids to not make weird faces, that's what would happen. It's basic respect. It is up to the child's parents to have her behave. The reason some kids get away with doing rude things is because their parents let them.

 

[TLSnell1981]

Define "nice photo". How is the picture is "ruined"?

 

[King Schultz]

Well, mugging and it's meaning and/or definition has been added to the topics list.

I'm gonna have to buy more paper at this rate.

Make sure it's recycled paper!!

 

[gwynne]

Well, mugging and it's meaning and/or definition has been added to the topics list.

I'm gonna have to buy more paper at this rate.

Are you certain you're not familiar with this subject? Anyone with the first name of Goofy is probably an expert at mugging for the camera.

 

[aristocatz]

I didn't read all the replies, but she is your granddaughter, so I'm sure any picture with her in it would not be totally ruined

My only question & confusion is: why didn't you ask her to stop? You are her grandmother, so I do feel like you have that rite. Did you not know she was making faces at the time? Maybe her mother didn't notice it was happening so excessively either?

I do hope you guys had a wonderful trip & made wonderful memories with your granddaughter. & I hope you let this go & do not bring this up to your daughter. I know my heart would be broken if anyone told me that either of my daughters ruined a picture.....especially my mother.

 

[mom2rtk]

I didn't read all the replies, but she is your granddaughter, so I'm sure any picture with her in it would not be totally ruined

My only question & confusion is: why didn't you ask her to stop? You are her grandmother, so I do feel like you have that rite. Did you not know she was making faces at the time? Maybe her mother didn't notice it was happening so excessively either?

I do hope you guys had a wonderful trip & made wonderful memories with your granddaughter. & I hope you let this go & do not bring this up to your daughter. I know my heart would be broken if anyone told me that either of my daughters ruined a picture.....especially my mother.

Per the OP, nothing anyone said to her would make her stop.

I think your children are pretty young. The girl in the OP is 12. She's old enough to comply with such a simple request.

 

[aristocatz]

Per the OP, nothing anyone said to her would make her stop.

I think your children are pretty young. The girl in the OP is 12. She's old enough to comply with such a simple request.

Sorry-guess I read it wrong....