Child first trip dilemna

[sus]

So my husband and I are expecting our first child. We have been to WDW many times and so we are looking forward to our first trip with the new addition. Sometime probably in two years. We discussed this last night and realized that my family and his family will want to go along to be with the grandchild the first time. What to do? My family are all huge Disney fans and we have gone with them before. His family not so much and our nieces and nephews on that side have still never been. But they talked about wanting to go with us soon (prior to finding out we are expecting).
What do we do? We want to go on our own for thefirst time. At least for part of the trip. I know built in babysitters may be nice for a dinner out here and there too though.
Anyone else have this issue? How did you handle it?

 

[michelle320]

Piece of cake! Do exactly what my sister did...Go down to the parks, just the three of you, a few days before the rest of the gang arrives. You'll get your time together as a family unit and then the grandparents get to see their grandchild experiencing all the magic. My sister and her husband do this often, even now that the kids are older, and we totally understand.

Just make sure that you get pictures of the first time your child meets some of the characters, especially Mickey Mouse. Your folks are going to want those! But be prepared to stand in line again so your side of the family can see the happy event.

Michelle g

 

[HodagCatLady]

This may be more important to them than you realize. Did your parents get to take you to Disney when you were little? If not, they may see this as a second chance. They may be hurt deeply by missing that. I know this is a special time for you, but maybe you could compromise. Discuss it with them ahead of time and plan for some special family time within your vacation.

 

[sus]

Thanks for your replies. My parents did take me the first time I went (I was 2). My husbands parents also took him the first time.
I like the idea of going a few days early. But I guess the bigger problem is, which side gets to go. Mine or his. I can't imagine both. That would be like 20 people. Although, whichever one doesn't go I don't want them to be hurt.

 

[TinkerbellMama]

So my husband and I are expecting our first child. We have been to WDW many times and so we are looking forward to our first trip with the new addition. Sometime probably in two years. We discussed this last night and realized that my family and his family will want to go along to be with the grandchild the first time. What to do? My family are all huge Disney fans and we have gone with them before. His family not so much and our nieces and nephews on that side have still never been. But they talked about wanting to go with us soon (prior to finding out we are expecting).
What do we do? We want to go on our own for thefirst time. At least for part of the trip. I know built in babysitters may be nice for a dinner out here and there too though.
Anyone else have this issue? How did you handle it?

I have to say that IMO you will probably welcome the help from the grandparents the first time you go! It's so hard to predict what kind of baby you will have (temperament, etc.) and it's impossible to understand how much work parenting is until you've actually taken that step, IMO. I say this not to pick on you but to leave you open to the possibility that you might be BEGGING someone, ANYONE to go with you and help you out! That said, we went for the first time with our just-turned-one-year-old and the grandparents stuck with us most of the time, but not all. I nursed my son (still do!) so I never left him for longer than to go on a thrill ride or two, but the help was much appreciated! IMO you would do best to invite them all and make sure to build in enough "alone" time with just your nuclear family. Another thing to think about is that your child will be thrilled to learn someday that both sets of grandparents went along for his or her first trip, and the pictures will be priceless. You never know how long grandparents will be with us, if you know what I mean. I'm so glad my dad, especially, was able to join us, since his health has been very poor in recent years. My son will always be able to say that he saw WDW for the first time with Papa! We invited both sets but my in-laws declined, and I am sorry they missed this incredible occasion. Personally, I think they are nuts. He is their only grandchild but they claimed not to be able to afford it (they make 4x our income, lol). Good luck in your decision!