Cheese.

[ConnecticutFlea]

You're a great son Willy. She's lucky to have you. I hope today is better.

 

[NFLDERS]

You'll always be her "King", and obviously she your "Princess." I too, have been there done this. Thanks for your love, and devotion.

 

[NFLDERS]

hope you have a better day Willy! My mom is down there in OK and im in MI, every time I talk to her, I hear her slipping away more and more. luckily her sister is there to take care of her, but the guilt is getting me, that im so far away. take care, it's a new day!

 

[NFLDERS]

Hang in there my friend. No sense in saying it all again, so I won't. Just hang in there and keep on doing you. You got this!

And, we here in the Community are here for you.

 

[pryncess527]

So I got a dill pickle, another strong rum and coke. and a chunk of "Cabot's White Wisconsin Very Sharp Cheddar Cheese".

Good stuff. I feel much better now.

The cheese is really good. . . spared no expense.

That is a really good cheese! I love Cabot. Their pepper jack is one of my favorites.

hugs and rum

 

[Diznotyzed]

Hugs from near Tillamook, "land of cheese, trees and ocean breeze", from someone else who knows why cheese is delicious. Hang in there.

 

[THEDISNEYTHREE]

I am glad to hear that she is doing better today. You are a wonderful and caring son. She is lucky to have you!

 

[King Schultz]

Hugs from near Tillamook, "land of cheese, trees and ocean breeze", from someone else who knows why cheese is delicious. Hang in there.

When I was a kid growing up in Long Beach, we'd drive up the coast ans camp at Honeyman State Park every year!

Ride around the sand dunes, hike to the beach and watch the sea lions, and go into Tillamook for cheese!

Much better day today so far; thank you everyone for the kind words and support again.

 

[wishesuponastar]

You're a good man, Willy! Sorry about your Mom falling.

 

[katie01]

I'm so sorry. I used to work in a nursing home, I know what a monumental task you have. I hope she can stay with you as long as possible and that you both will get the support you need. You definitely deserve that drink and the hugs

 

[fly girl]

Willy, I'm sorry it took so long for me to respond. I'm sorry you had a rough evening last night with your Mom.

It is very draining taking care of someone with dementia. Everyday can present a new challenge. You're a good son, and make sure to take care of yourself -- very easy to overlook with the demanding job of caregiver.

Toby and I give you BIG HUGS!!

 

[Scootypuffjr]

Happy to hear that you're both doing better. Sorry you had a rough night. What you're doing is very admirable. Hang in there and take some time for yourself when you can.

 

[Minnie17]

So sorry BIG HUGS.

 

[tarheelmjfan]

hope you have a better day Willy! My mom is down there in OK and im in MI, every time I talk to her, I hear her slipping away more and more. luckily her sister is there to take care of her, but the guilt is getting me, that im so far away. take care, it's a new day!

Sorry to hear you're going through this too. We moved away from our families many years ago. In that time, I've lost both parents & a sister. I was fortunate to be in the position that I could go to them a month or more at a time, when things looked particularly bad. Over those years I spent many months there, but it still didn't feel like enough. Try not to beat yourself up about it. I know that's hard & was/is impossible for me. You're much better off, if you can find a way to make peace with yourself though. Hopefully, your Mom has many happy, healthy years ahead of her. I wish you luck & am here to listen, if you need someone to talk to.

 

[anniemae]

Man that's tough. It is so hard as parents age. You seem like a great son and I'm sure she appreciates what you do for her. Feel free to vent here, many of us have been through what you are going through.

 

[low-key]

Hey I would agree with what everyone else saying nice things about you but would also add your mom in her prime must have been a real good mother, cause bad moms have kids that forget about them when there old and need help.

 

[King Schultz]

Hey I would agree with what everyone else saying nice things about you but would also add your mom in her prime must have been a real good mother, cause bad moms have kids that forget about them when there old and need help.

She was a very good mother Jason; always there for me when I needed her and I'm doing what I can to return the favor.


I got her fed and am ready to get her down for the night; totally calm day and evening so far.

Thanks again for everyone's kind words and support- it means a lot.

 

[ols386]

Oh wow, sorry about your mom. Hope she's ok.

You're a good son, taking care of her.

 

[MataHari22]

I can understand what you're dealing with. I live with my 92 year old senile grandmother and it is so hard. I'm a cancer survivor and not in the best health myself, and it's so hard.

 

[maxaroni]

My grandma had Alzheimer's so can relate to that aspect. It's so very hard to see our loved one losing their independence and dignity.

As far as being a caregiver, you are a saint. My parents are only children, as am I and my DS23. Very small family. My mom was very sick for 9 years, getting worse each year. My dad was her caregiver 24/7. DH, myself and my DS helped as much as we could but my dad had a hard time "letting go" and wanted to be with her as much as possible. The first number of years, he was able to go out bike riding (his passion...pedal bike). He later got to the point that he didn't want to do that. I suggested a home health aide but he said no. When mom was released from the hospital, after so many many visits, the nurse would come and home health aide but he did not want them to continue once she was "released" from their care. Dad was even doing her peritoneal dialysis at home. My mom passed away 2.5 years ago, age 77.

6 months after mom passed away, my dad got sick from a very serious infection. Since we have such a small family, it was the 3 of us spending time at the hospital, working, fielding phone calls, taking care of dads bill, etc. It was 6 weeks of caregiving, with me staying overnight at the hospital for 10 days as he didn't want me out of his sight. He is 80 years old now and I would do it all in a heartbeat.
At any rate, I am rambling.

My point is that I understand the dementia and also the caregiver role.

(((HUGS)))