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[funnygarcia]

Color me confused, I thought the wedding trip wasn't until spring??

 

[staley7580]

Have I told you guys lately how much I dis-like DSIL???

Okay, so I told you DBF's flight got cancelled on Monday and he re-scheduled for Saturday at 12:45pm. That put a little dent in my plans for Disneyland but my mom and I figuered we could drop him off at the airport on the way to DL and still make the 5:00pm Happiest Haunts Tour.

So yesterday DSIL is calling me all morning but I can't answer my cell phone at work so I call her back at lunch (1:30pm) and she says she got DBF switched to a 4:30pm flight on Tuesday. She says she's been calling him all morning and he didn't answer but she needs him to get to the airport now. Uh hello stupid, the airport is over an hour away and DBF is at the gym which is 45 minutes in the opposit direction, not to mention he doesn't have a ride there. Why would she change his flight with out checking with him first??? I told her he doesn't have a ride and she says tell him to leave his car at the airport and she would pay the parking fees.

Anyways, DBF calls her and tells her to switch it back to Saturday but now the 12:45pm flight is full so he is on a 4:30pm flight. So I have to call DL and see if I can switch the tour to Sunday evening and luckly there are two open spots. But I'm still pissed at DSIL because now we are only going to DL for the day on Sunday. No point to spend $ on the hotel if we aren't going to get there until late on Saturday anyways.

Okay I feel better now. Thanks for listening!

OMG.. I would have kicked her in the FACE. Who does that without even asking??

Sorry to be rude ladies but I'm not going to read the other posts right now. I just wanted to tell you all that I'm off to get married!!! I'll post pictures when I get back!
Pray for good weather and that my luggage doesn't get lost

Have fun!!

Bummer Sarah I hate it when other people screw up my plans, peeves me to no end!

I don't like last minute changes or when dh's family makes plans with us.. but doesn't tell us what the plans are The whole camping thing in the summer made me want to strangle the lot of them. They made plans but never told us.. you know, the people they were staying with, the people who had made the camping reservation YESH! So I finally asked " so what's the plan?" and MIL looks at us all confused because we obviously know what's going on..umm no, not really. grrrrr.

Not the first time either, they showed up on our doorstep in the spring to use as an overnight but didn't tell us if they were staying or just passing thru..
Hotel Garcia is open, I should charge room and board. Here pay my electric bill this month and we will call it even.



Have fun Christina!!! Yes yes we need pictures!!

Oooooooohhh. Headache city!

 

[MotoXPrincess99]

OMG.. I would have kicked her in the FACE. Who does that without even asking??

She was the one that paid for the ticket so I guess she felt she could change it. DBF pretty much told her change it back to Saturday or I'm not coming at all and you're going to loose your $.

 

[kelmac284]

Oh man Sara that sucks! I'm sorry! I don't blame you for not liking her. What a pain in the butt!!! I would be po'd too!

Congrats Christina!!! Yes pics for sure!!!

I guess we are all under the black cloud of pain in the butt family members right now.

I don't want to get into a long dissertation cuz I know this is online and anyone can read but to make a long story short dh and I have been having problems for a WHILE now and I can't remember if I have told you guys about it or not but this past Dec we had a full on blow out and almost split up. He even filed divorce papers but the fact of the matter is as much as BOTH of us want this we really can't AFFORD to be apart. So we sort of made an agreement back then that we would stay together but not really BE together more like roommates. Well then he kind of went back on that plan and thought we were actually back together even though he has STILL been a jerk most of the time. Needless to say it is NOT working and things aren't going well.

Like I said I don't want to go into too much detail but I think things are going to have to change cuz it can't keep going on like it's going. Needless to say I don't know where this leaves me on my nov trip and I already cancelled the one for Dec. I feel bad for the girls but I don't want to go anywhere with him right now and if things go like I think they might it prob won't even be an issue.

Anyway just had to get that off my chest but thanks for listening.

Hope everyone else gets there stuff resolved and we can get back to some good stuff. I just hope this doesn't ruin the next few days cuz I was REALLY looking forward to them!

 

[staley7580]

Oh man Sara that sucks! I'm sorry! I don't blame you for not liking her. What a pain in the butt!!! I would be po'd too!

Congrats Christina!!! Yes pics for sure!!!

I guess we are all under the black cloud of pain in the butt family members right now.

I don't want to get into a long dissertation cuz I know this is online and anyone can read but to make a long story short dh and I have been having problems for a WHILE now and I can't remember if I have told you guys about it or not but this past Dec we had a full on blow out and almost split up. He even filed divorce papers but the fact of the matter is as much as BOTH of us want this we really can't AFFORD to be apart. So we sort of made an agreement back then that we would stay together but not really BE together more like roommates. Well then he kind of went back on that plan and thought we were actually back together even though he has STILL been a jerk most of the time. Needless to say it is NOT working and things aren't going well.

Like I said I don't want to go into too much detail but I think things are going to have to change cuz it can't keep going on like it's going. Needless to say I don't know where this leaves me on my nov trip and I already cancelled the one for Dec. I feel bad for the girls but I don't want to go anywhere with him right now and if things go like I think they might it prob won't even be an issue.

Anyway just had to get that off my chest but thanks for listening.

Hope everyone else gets there stuff resolved and we can get back to some good stuff. I just hope this doesn't ruin the next few days cuz I was REALLY looking forward to them!

Im so sorry. That has got to be so hard, especially when you have kiddos..

 

[kelmac284]

Thanks I really appreciate that! And it IS truly hard and that is why we have tried to stay together mainly for them. If it was just me I could figure it out but I can't support them on my own and I didn't want them to have to do the back and forth thing cuz I saw how it ruined my stepdaughter. Of course she had a lousy bio mom but still.

Plus it would SO nice to be able to just talk about it and vent but when I tried to do it on the other thread I got flamed for "over-sharing". Unfortunately my mom is one of those that doesn't want to hear negative stuff and Shane was always my confidant about stuff and I always only had a few friends and most of them have moved away or are so wrapped up in their own lives that they "don't have time". So it is nice to be able to get stuff off my chest but I know I have to be careful what and how much I say on here since it is a public forum and all.

It is just a bad situation though. Let's just say that it was bad from the start but since I had a bad first marriage once I got into this one and realized oops I did it again and this time I had kids involved I figured I better try and make it work. And not saying he has NO good points, he does but overall it is just NOT working and we have been miserable for a LOOONG time. We have just been going through the motions and to be quite honest if we could afford to be apart this would not have been an issue. But also like I said I tried to hold it together for the girls because I saw how bad it was for SD and didn't want my girls being forced to do the back and forth thing. But it comes to a point where you just can't do it anymore

Anyway thanks again and I just have to figure out what I am going to do. The worst part for me is I have a LOT of health issues and haven't worked in the "real" world in over 12 years, add that to a recession and it makes me pretty much unhirable. So I don't know WHAT I am going to do to support my girls and THAT is the scary part. That honestly has been what has been keeping in this thing this long. But at this point I am willing to go on aid rather than put up with this any longer. I can't take it anymore and the girls shouldn't have to either.

Wish me luck on getting the courage to do what needs to be done.

 

[dizzyami]

Oh man Sara that sucks! I'm sorry! I don't blame you for not liking her. What a pain in the butt!!! I would be po'd too!

Congrats Christina!!! Yes pics for sure!!!

I guess we are all under the black cloud of pain in the butt family members right now.

I don't want to get into a long dissertation cuz I know this is online and anyone can read but to make a long story short dh and I have been having problems for a WHILE now and I can't remember if I have told you guys about it or not but this past Dec we had a full on blow out and almost split up. He even filed divorce papers but the fact of the matter is as much as BOTH of us want this we really can't AFFORD to be apart. So we sort of made an agreement back then that we would stay together but not really BE together more like roommates. Well then he kind of went back on that plan and thought we were actually back together even though he has STILL been a jerk most of the time. Needless to say it is NOT working and things aren't going well.

Like I said I don't want to go into too much detail but I think things are going to have to change cuz it can't keep going on like it's going. Needless to say I don't know where this leaves me on my nov trip and I already cancelled the one for Dec. I feel bad for the girls but I don't want to go anywhere with him right now and if things go like I think they might it prob won't even be an issue.

Anyway just had to get that off my chest but thanks for listening.

Hope everyone else gets there stuff resolved and we can get back to some good stuff. I just hope this doesn't ruin the next few days cuz I was REALLY looking forward to them!

You poor thing - I am so sorry. I know I am not here that much any more but feel free to vent here - we have always been good listeners Best of luck to you to find the courage to make life better for you and your girls.

 

[dizzyami]

Color me confused, I thought the wedding trip wasn't until spring??

Me too - what color do you want to be???

 

[dizzyami]

Ahhh....two more days!!!

I have figured out that my SIL can check in to our room - so that is a plus if she beats us there...

All clothing is packed - and a suitcase (yes a full suitcase) of just pins - just need the misc. items...

Will Red Bull explode in the plane???

Need to do a Vons order - this is new and should be fun

Then two more close shifts and we are off!!! (remember Pix cool airplane smilie - please mentally insert it here)

 

[funnygarcia]

Kelly, I am so sorry you are going through this rough time. I totally understand needing to vent, please do! We all have had our turns venting among this group.. here or PM's or message chatting on Facebook. You need the opportunity to talk to sort thru your emotions and make the difficult decisions.

Are your health concerns enough to file for disability? I know if you don't have an exact condition in the SS "red book" it makes it very difficult to get accepted. Vague conditions such as joint inflammation/pain or depression VS a concrete labeled condition like end stage renal failure or blindness make it a little more tricky and usually would need a lawyer if the first try doesn't go through. Something to consider as a source of income.

Being on public assistance sucks, but it's a good "go between" until you find a job or some other income source.

 

[MotoXPrincess99]

I've updated my Half Marathon Trip Report if any ones would like to read it...the lin's in my siggy.

 

[kelmac284]

Thanks so much guys for being here to talk with!! It helps immensely!! I just spent 3 hours at my parents trying to figure out what to do and in the meantime shane called about a BILLION times because he knew something was "up". I don't know if he is worried about being taken to the cleaners or what but he DOES know that neither of us can really afford to be on our own so he suggested we try again what we were going to do in December but actually DO it this time. I am not thrilled about the idea but honestly don't feel like I have a whole lot of options at this point. He is going to move into Katy's room and we are going to be "roommates". We will still split the bills up and such but otherwise do our own things and come and go as we please but this way the girls don't have to be split up.

I am skeptical about it working but need to give it a try since I don't have a lot of options.

Here's hoping we can make it work for their sake!!

 

[funnygarcia]

We are going to need to apply for cash assistance in November, SS took ALL of our benefits - back pay and everything starting in November thru .. get this... 2013!
I sat and cried my eyes out at the SS office on Monday, it's been a rough week .

We have to fill out a form, ask SS to accept a lower payment plan, prove we need every last penny of his benefit to make bills and possible have the amount owed be reduced.. the last part will require a lawyer because the amount owed requires a judge to decide.

Unknown to me, E got benefits for months when he shouldn't have. I was so pissed at him.

The year in CA was not his fault, a worker looked at his file and said he hadn't used his trial months. But since there is no proof... it's not in his file...he is still considered "at fault" even thought they are the ones who screwed up.

Then he got benefits for months after he started working here in MN, I thought the benefits had stopped.. that accounts for the $13,000 we were first told for overpayment.

SS added to the final total based on the year in CA, but didn't inform us until NOW.

We are broke, broke, broke. Bills are paid this month But not sure about next month.

And our county case worker hasn't returned calls, now her mail box is full which makes me think she no longer works there. This happened to us once before, it takes awhile for another worker to go thru the backlog to catch up and reassign to a new worker. We technically qualified for food stamps in September, too much income for October and obviously will qualify in November.

Not that we need anything right now, I have my stockpile but dang it, if I qualify I want it! More money in my pocket for other stuff like laundry money, bus fare, for Justin on his upcoming band trips.. he goes to Iowa this weekend, the following week is the big competition in St Louis. The band will feed him for a few meals, a few he needs to pay himself.

I tell ya, not grocery shopping this week has me grumpy because I KNOW there are some great deals this week.
If I had my food stamp benefits I could MAKE money this week. Target has a deal on Mott's apple juice and sauce $1.75 each, buy 5 get $5 gift card. I could use the gift cards to buy a SD camera card for Noah, he is taking a digital photography class.. we have cards but they all have something on them. No need for him to scan thru our 100's of boring pics for his 30 needed for assignment.

 

[funnygarcia]

I am skeptical about it working but need to give it a try since I don't have a lot of options.

Here's hoping we can make it work for their sake!!

I hope you can work that out. Maybe go as far as writing up an agreement of expectations. That way if either of you have a concern you can pull out that document and say "remember what we agreed upon" to get back on track.
I know of another couple who have a similar arrangement, but they still go out in public as if they are a couple.. which was disturbing and sad to see when the lady made some nasty comments about him .. while he was sitting there with us. It's hard to have that "public face" when you are hurting inside.

 

[staley7580]

Thanks I really appreciate that! And it IS truly hard and that is why we have tried to stay together mainly for them. If it was just me I could figure it out but I can't support them on my own and I didn't want them to have to do the back and forth thing cuz I saw how it ruined my stepdaughter. Of course she had a lousy bio mom but still.

Plus it would SO nice to be able to just talk about it and vent but when I tried to do it on the other thread I got flamed for "over-sharing". Unfortunately my mom is one of those that doesn't want to hear negative stuff and Shane was always my confidant about stuff and I always only had a few friends and most of them have moved away or are so wrapped up in their own lives that they "don't have time". So it is nice to be able to get stuff off my chest but I know I have to be careful what and how much I say on here since it is a public forum and all.

It is just a bad situation though. Let's just say that it was bad from the start but since I had a bad first marriage once I got into this one and realized oops I did it again and this time I had kids involved I figured I better try and make it work. And not saying he has NO good points, he does but overall it is just NOT working and we have been miserable for a LOOONG time. We have just been going through the motions and to be quite honest if we could afford to be apart this would not have been an issue. But also like I said I tried to hold it together for the girls because I saw how bad it was for SD and didn't want my girls being forced to do the back and forth thing. But it comes to a point where you just can't do it anymore

Anyway thanks again and I just have to figure out what I am going to do. The worst part for me is I have a LOT of health issues and haven't worked in the "real" world in over 12 years, add that to a recession and it makes me pretty much unhirable. So I don't know WHAT I am going to do to support my girls and THAT is the scary part. That honestly has been what has been keeping in this thing this long. But at this point I am willing to go on aid rather than put up with this any longer. I can't take it anymore and the girls shouldn't have to either.

Wish me luck on getting the courage to do what needs to be done.

Good Luck. I really hope you guys can make that work.

Ahhh....two more days!!!

I have figured out that my SIL can check in to our room - so that is a plus if she beats us there...

All clothing is packed - and a suitcase (yes a full suitcase) of just pins - just need the misc. items...

Will Red Bull explode in the plane???

Need to do a Vons order - this is new and should be fun

Then two more close shifts and we are off!!! (remember Pix cool airplane smilie - please mentally insert it here)

Im excited for you!!

We are going to need to apply for cash assistance in November, SS took ALL of our benefits - back pay and everything starting in November thru .. get this... 2013!
I sat and cried my eyes out at the SS office on Monday, it's been a rough week .

We have to fill out a form, ask SS to accept a lower payment plan, prove we need every last penny of his benefit to make bills and possible have the amount owed be reduced.. the last part will require a lawyer because the amount owed requires a judge to decide.

Unknown to me, E got benefits for months when he shouldn't have. I was so pissed at him.

The year in CA was not his fault, a worker looked at his file and said he hadn't used his trial months. But since there is no proof... it's not in his file...he is still considered "at fault" even thought they are the ones who screwed up.

Then he got benefits for months after he started working here in MN, I thought the benefits had stopped.. that accounts for the $13,000 we were first told for overpayment.

SS added to the final total based on the year in CA, but didn't inform us until NOW.

We are broke, broke, broke. Bills are paid this month But not sure about next month.

And our county case worker hasn't returned calls, now her mail box is full which makes me think she no longer works there. This happened to us once before, it takes awhile for another worker to go thru the backlog to catch up and reassign to a new worker. We technically qualified for food stamps in September, too much income for October and obviously will qualify in November.

Not that we need anything right now, I have my stockpile but dang it, if I qualify I want it! More money in my pocket for other stuff like laundry money, bus fare, for Justin on his upcoming band trips.. he goes to Iowa this weekend, the following week is the big competition in St Louis. The band will feed him for a few meals, a few he needs to pay himself.

I tell ya, not grocery shopping this week has me grumpy because I KNOW there are some great deals this week.
If I had my food stamp benefits I could MAKE money this week. Target has a deal on Mott's apple juice and sauce $1.75 each, buy 5 get $5 gift card. I could use the gift cards to buy a SD camera card for Noah, he is taking a digital photography class.. we have cards but they all have something on them. No need for him to scan thru our 100's of boring pics for his 30 needed for assignment.

UGH!! OMG!! Im so sorry!!That is messed up.

 

[funnygarcia]

So my sis called.. my dn has been sickly, snotty nose, tonsillitis, icky cough.
His breath smelled funky so she brought him in yesterday thinking he had strep with the tonsils. Nope, the little guy has mono.

It's uncommon for young children (he's 4) to get mono symptoms, but due to being a very early and tiny premie he has a wacky immune system and tends to have inflammatory responses to simple things like a mosquito bite will cause a HUGE red bump or the tag on his shirt collar will break him out in a rash.

The kicker, I was exposed all day to his snot producing, hacking cough self on Tuesday. So sis asks.. how do you feel? Well gee, you know that would be hard to tell since Eloy and I both have issues with fatigue and aches/pains on a regular basis.

The incubation period is 4-7 weeks, so we shall see what happens. In a "normal" adult it wouldn't be an issue.. to my immune compromised dh it might be an issue.

Darn snot nosed kids! Keep your germs to yourself!

 

[MotoXPrincess99]

I ordered a shirt like this off etsy.com and it arrived today.

I think it's so cute! I'm going to wear it to Disneyland this weekend and I decided to wear it for my 5K Halloween race on the 24th as well. I'm goin to try and make a tutu like this for the race too.

 

[MotoXPrincess99]

Here's the shadow box I made with my race stuff. I think it turned out a lot nicer than the ones they were selling and I only paid $15 for the box (40% off at JoAnn) vs. $150 at DL. I took the pic with my phone so it's blurry.

 

[funnygarcia]

Nice shirt!
And I love how your shadow box came out! That is a great way to show off your achievement.

 

[sameyeyam]

I'm gone for just a few days and look what happens...WOW! I was scared to keep reading posts.

Congrats to Christina!

Kelly, hope things work out.

B. - hope you get the SS mess squared away.

Dizzy - have fun at DL.

Mel - good to hear from you again.

Sarah - loved the shadow box, I'll try to make it over to your TR update this weekend.

And hugs to everybody, cuz you can never have enough hugs.