Chantelle's Planning Journal-YCG/CG/Morrocco DP-AND WE'RE OFF!!!!!!!!

[Chantelle]

Here's a couple hairdo's I found that I really like and thought might work for my bridesmaids. I thought I would post them here for all of you and my maid of honour to see.

 

[jodeeluvsdisney]

Everything is gorgeous! Your dress, the invitations...and thanks for the heads up on the Cinderella tiara ornament! I am getting the bracelet and choker, but not the tiara as it would look ridiculous on me, but I have to have the ornament!

I am so sorry about the situation with your mom. It is just awful that she has to be that way, and I know she'll regret it later. Just keep the focus on you now, and try to keep a positive attitude. Best of luck to the two of you!

Love the pictures!

 

[Chantelle]

So I have already mentioned that my mother is not attending the wedding in Disney World because there are issues between us and we all decided it would be better she not come and ruin the trip for everyone.

In what I thought was a kind gesture, I have invited her to our second catholic ceremony and reception at my fiances parents farm. I thought becauseshe will not be a part of the first wedding, she would at least like to play a part in this since she wanted me to have a catholic church wedding all along.

Because my fiances parents are hosting the event and arranging everything for it (my fiances mom has been absolutely amazing) I worded the invitations to say that they are hosting the event in our honour and included only their names. My mother immediatley e-mailed me after receiving the invitation and rather then seeing it as me reaching out to include her, chastized me for not included her name or using the opportunity to honour my dead father.

I went according to proper invitation etiquette with the grooms parents hosting and it irritates the hell out of me that she has wanted nothing to do with my wedding but all of a sudden wants her name on the invitation. If she had cared to show any interest in me or my wedding she would know I am honouring my father with my flowers and that I feel that is much more meaningful then putting his name on a bloody invitation.

She says she has tried to be involved but she has done nothing but insult my wedding and question my every decision. She offered to take me dress shopping last year and it turned into her shopping for a wedding dress for herself. If this is her being involved, I don't want it. I planned the whole Disney Wedding to try and bring the family closer together, but since she's gotten remarried, we have drifted so far apart that I don't think there is ever any chance of fixing things at this point.

My final breaking point was this morning. My mom has decided she is not coming to our second wedding ceremony so I e-mailed her to tell her I would let my future mother-in-law know not to expect her. She wrote back saying she will be writing Curtis' mom a letter "because that is the polite thing to do", but I know it is going to be a big sob letter about how I offended her with the invitation and how I don't want her at my wedding even though I have done everything in my power to try and include her. I am just worried what she will write to her because I do not need that negativity towards me as I enter into this new famiy. Curtis' parents know the situation and are understanding, but I am pissed at my mother for thinking she can go and write letters to them when she hasn't made the effort in 3 fricking years to even meet them.

Anyway....enough of my venting.

 

[jasonandlisa]

What a nightmare. Vent away!! I'm so sorry your mom is being so awful about everything. I think you handled the wording of the invitations perfectly. Just as the groom's parents aren't normally mentioned when the bride's parents are hosting and paying for everything, there's no reason for your mom's name to appear on the invitation, especially since she hasn't been at all involved with the planning. Also, honorring your father with flowers is perfect. It is more meaningful. (And it's also the "proper" thing to do, since formal etiquette dictates that, unless the parent is very recently deceased, he/she isn't mentioned on the invitation.)

Try not to worry too much about your mother's letter. It is not at all a reflection upon you. It's great that your finance's parents have been so wonderful through all this. It sounds like you're marrying into a very nice family, which is certainly something to be thankful for!

 

[lurkyloo]

Oh no! I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. However, it sounds like your fiance's parents know the scaore and will not have their opinions changed by some crazy letter. Heck, she may not ever even write it.

I hope that you are able to get through all the messy stuff with your mom and just focus on sharing your wedding day with your fiance!

 

[lajones81]

 

[Chantelle]

Thanks everyone for your words of encouragement.

Now onto some really good news....I am going to be a Momma!

I have wanted an english bulldog puppy forever and now that we have a house we can finally have one. I wanted to wait until after the wedding to get one and a girl at my work sister's bulldog just happened to be having puppies at the right time for me to get it right after we get back. The puppies were born yesterday and will be ready to go in 8 weeks. I had originally wanted a boy, but 6 of the 7 puppies were girls and the boy was already spoken for so I get a little girl. I am very excited and am looking forward to putting her in a big pink bow for our reception back home. Here's some pictures of the litter. I think I am going to have problems choosing just one!

 

[jodeeluvsdisney]

Oh, the puppies are soo adorable! I wish so badly we could get one, but DF and I each commute an hour 1 way to work each day, so there is no way we could care for a puppy now. Congratulations though!

Wouldn't it be fun to have two??? Two sister...you could name them LaVern and Shirley or something funny like that!

 

[AbbyPan]

oh, Chantelle, they are adorable!

this is a nice distraction for you. Just imagine, in less then 2 months it'll be you and your DH enjoying your wonderful DFTW!

 

[Chantelle]

I don't think I have posted my Guest Book idea yet so here goes...

For our guest book I will be buying a bunch of postcards when we get to Disney World and making sure our address and stamps are on each one. Our guests can then choose a postcard and write well wishes or a favourite trip memory on the postcards. My Maid of Honour will be in charge of making sure they get in the mail.

This way we have something to look forward when we get home. I love getting mail so I thought this would be a fun way to do it and to emphasize that we got married away. I plan for my fiance and I to send each other a postcard with our thoughts on the day since we aren't writing our own vows. This will be something special we can read and reflect on once we get back from the honeymoon.

I will be putting them all into this scrapbook I bought at Micheals:

 

[purplegirl247]

Super cute idea. I love it! Very creative and a great way to have something to look back on for years to come.

 

[mystiichell]

Hey Chantelle:

Everything looks AWESOME - I am very intrested in having the Mickey watermark on my newsletter as well - could you please email me the source file? thanks in advance mystii@suddenlink.net

 

[M&M126]

Wow I am beyond jealous that you are getting one of those adorable puppies!!!! We are going to try to adopt very soon Good luck with your new addition to the family and with the rest of your wedding planning!

 

[Chantelle]

As of yesterday it is officially one month until I get married! I am starting to get a little stressed now.

My dress came in last week. It is beautiful, but it does not fit so hopefully they will be able to get it altered in time. At least it is too big and not too small! The woman said it shouldn't be a problem, so here's hoping it's true. I just don't understand because the dress is so huge in the chest and I have never had problems filling out a dress in that area before.

Here's a picture of the top to give you an idea how big it is:

And some more....hopefully when it is altered it will sit properly on my body and look a little better.

Excuse the crappy pictures as I took them myself with the timer on my camera.

I also did our tip envelopes this weekend so here's a look at how they turned out:

And I changed out the ribbon on my toss bouquet for the second wedding:

Finally, I got my mickey bubbles, my disney fairytale weddings CD and the luggage tags I had ordered in the mail this past week.

I made this luggage tags on Photoworks.com.

 

[orangetiggs]

I love everything, your wedding is going to be great.

Love the tags. Where did you get the design for them? i seem to ask everybride where they got something!!! I'm 14 months out so everyone is giving me so much inspriation!

 

[PrincessBride07]

I love your dress. I especially love your bridal minnie ears.

 

[AbbyPan]

Chantelle, where did you order the mickey bubbles from? Or did you find them at a store near you?

Love the dress, I have the same issue w/ mine on top because I'm big chested so they made sure to leave extra room up there just in case

 

[Glorydaz]

Chantelle, love your gown - so very pretty! and better too big than too small! did you pick a puppy yet? they're so sweet looking!

Michelle

 

[JackieSparrow]

You must be so excited that the dress is here! It looks great. I love the mickeys and the ribbon on your toss bouquet.

 

[jodeeluvsdisney]

Chantelle, where did you order the mickey bubbles from? Or did you find them at a store near you?

Love the dress, I have the same issue w/ mine on top because I'm big chested so they made sure to leave extra room up there just in case

Abby, FYI I got the exact same bubbles at Walmart in the party supplies section! They were a lot cheaper than ordering them online!!!