Cash for diapers

[Mommee]

I have never even heard of this...

I was invited to a baby shower that had a typed out note slipped into the invitation.. It said to bring cash for the new mom to buy cloth diapers. Also included was the location of the baby registry. Since I splurged on a nice gift, I didn't bring cash, too. Not to mention I thought it was tacky

But while we were there, some lady came around and personally asked each person if they remembered to bring cash for the diapers

Is this normal somewhere? It certainly isn't around here!

 

[spurk5532]

no I think that is a little much. There are many websites that offer gift cards for cloth diapers and if that is what the momma wanted she could have registered for gift cards from any of those sites. I think the invitation was fine in saying that she wanted to buy cloth diapers but to go around at the party asking for money is just tacky IMO.

 

[krcit]

I think that is normal. In TACKEYVILLE!!!

 

[arminnie]

IBut while we were there, some lady came around and personally asked each person if they remembered to bring cash for the diapers

I think I would have smiled sweetly (think Kyra Sedgewick on the Closer) and replied "Oh I never give cash at showers."

 

[AKL_Megs]

I posted a thread about this same thing.

Someone I know was having a baby, and they asked specifically for diapers and baby lotions.

Odd, perhaps, but I guess it's becomming the norm.

 

[SaraJayne]

I have never even heard of this...

I was invited to a baby shower that had a typed out note slipped into the invitation.. It said to bring cash for the new mom to buy cloth diapers. Also included was the location of the baby registry. Since I splurged on a nice gift, I didn't bring cash, too. Not to mention I thought it was tacky

But while we were there, some lady came around and personally asked each person if they remembered to bring cash for the diapers

Is this normal somewhere? It certainly isn't around here!

I don't even...I just can't...

 

[C.Ann]

I don't even...I just can't...

By golly, we agree!! LOL..

Walking around ASKING for cash???????????

 

[Mommee]

I don't even...I just can't...

Walking around ASKING for cash???????????

That about sums up my reaction. Thank goodness my grandmother was in the restroom. Not sure she would've been able to have restrained herself

 

[ohiomom28]

That doesn't sound normal. I find it pretty common for a place of registry to be included. It's becoming more common for everyone to bring a pack of diapers to be entered into a contest of some sort...like a raffle.

 

[SaraJayne]

By golly, we agree!! LOL..

Walking around ASKING for cash???????????

 

[barkley]

i received a baby shower invite at one point that included a typed out note. the note listed out all the items the mom to be had registered for, and then on the right hand side of the note typed in bigger font was the sentence "YOU ARE ASSIGNED TO GIFT" with one of the items on the list highlighted

i was floored, there were some pricey items on the list and the only thing i can presume is that the mom to be participated in preparing the invites, and based the item highlighted for each guest on what she perceived they should spend.

needless to say i passed on that shower


i've never been to a shower where anyone has come around and tried to collect money for the guest of honor, but we went a wedding where there had been several pre-gifting events (engagement party, showers...) and the bride and groom had registered for largly expensive items for both those and the wedding. at the wedding itself, where the guest book was placed there were two "trees" set up (dried branches in a bucket filled with marbles), one had a sign that read "we need to furnish our new apartment" with photos of very high end furniture and decorator items, the other had a sign that read "we need to pay for our honeymoon" with photos of the VERY high end resort the couple was going to. the branches of the trees had clothes pins, and the expectation was that the guests would use them to clip money on.

the person handling the guest book would tell each signor to "fill the trees", and i noticed that they were making check marks by the names of those who clipped. if a person had not clipped, a member of the wedding party later approached them to say "you have'nt filled the trees yet"

 

[marcyinPA]

I find that excessive.

When my second DS was born, my friend wanted throw me a small "welcome baby" party after he was born. I told her I didn't want gifts, so she put "No gifts necessary, but diapers always appreciated". I received several packages in different sizes, which was VERY helpful!!

 

[kdfogliano]

TACKY!! sounds just as bad as these jack/jill showers where you have to buy tickets to get in!!! (learned about that here on disboards!)

what did u say/do?

I have been to showers where in the invite it states if you bring diapers you are entered into a raffle to win a prize, thats a little less direct!

and how do u know the $$ will be used for diapers? and not a nice dinner out!! haha

 

[wdwmom2]

the person handling the guest book would tell each signor to "fill the trees", and i noticed that they were making check marks by the names of those who clipped. if a person had not clipped, a member of the wedding party later approached them to say "you have'nt filled the trees yet"

Now I think I have heard it all!

 

[postage stamp]

Since the last shower I was invited to had a note in it that said "All well drinks, bottled domestics, and shots $3" this seems like Emily Post's very own shower.

 

[kdfogliano]

Since the last shower I was invited to had a note in it that said "All well drinks, bottled domestics, and shots $3" this seems like Emily Post's very own shower.

COME ON!!!!
who does that???

 

[BeenHereB4]

i received a baby shower invite at one point that included a typed out note. the note listed out all the items the mom to be had registered for, and then on the right hand side of the note typed in bigger font was the sentence "YOU ARE ASSIGNED TO GIFT" with one of the items on the list highlighted

i was floored, there were some pricey items on the list and the only thing i can presume is that the mom to be participated in preparing the invites, and based the item highlighted for each guest on what she perceived they should spend.

needless to say i passed on that shower


i've never been to a shower where anyone has come around and tried to collect money for the guest of honor, but we went a wedding where there had been several pre-gifting events (engagement party, showers...) and the bride and groom had registered for largly expensive items for both those and the wedding. at the wedding itself, where the guest book was placed there were two "trees" set up (dried branches in a bucket filled with marbles), one had a sign that read "we need to furnish our new apartment" with photos of very high end furniture and decorator items, the other had a sign that read "we need to pay for our honeymoon" with photos of the VERY high end resort the couple was going to. the branches of the trees had clothes pins, and the expectation was that the guests would use them to clip money on.

the person handling the guest book would tell each signor to "fill the trees", and i noticed that they were making check marks by the names of those who clipped. if a person had not clipped, a member of the wedding party later approached them to say "you have'nt filled the trees yet"

Both of these scenarios is totally disgusting to me! What ever happened to it's not about the gift, it's about celebrating an occasion? Oh I'd "fill" that tree alright, but it's not going to be with my money - in fact, I think each of those "trees" should've been "re-planted" somewhere!

 

[onelilspark]

Lordy...I feel weird. I don't want gifts for my wedding, I don't need anything, so most of what we'd get would just wind up sitting around, taking up space. What's with people?

 

[postage stamp]

Lordy...I feel weird. I don't want gifts for my wedding, I don't need anything, so most of what we'd get would just wind up sitting around, taking up space. What's with people?

I was the same way.

I had to be FORCED to register for my wedding and my baby shower. And when I got pregnant again I REFUSED to have another shower. My kids were 18 months apart and the same sex, I still had everything I needed from the first time. I told people if they NEEDED to do something to donate to the Navy Marine Corp Relief Society.

 

[barkley]

Both of these scenarios is totally disgusting to me! What ever happened to it's not about the gift, it's about celebrating an occasion? Oh I'd "fill" that tree alright, but it's not going to be with my money - in fact, I think each of those "trees" should've been "re-planted" somewhere!

i have to tell you, we were among the first of the guests to arrive and wait in line to sign the guest book, and those trees reminded me of tip jars at buisnesses-someone had pre-set both with a clipped $50 bill, and one branch holding 3 fanned out $20's. despite trying to set a standard for "filling the trees", those guests that did (imho) cave and clip something were clipping mostly $1's, with at best the occasional $5.