OP here, thank you all so much for the thoughts. We arrived back on Friday, and we had a completely awesome trip. This trip was very spontaneous, in hindsight perhaps it was destiny, as we booked it just a month ago. We managed to get 6 nights with a cash discount in a 1BR at our beloved BCV; I was surprised, as there was NOTHING left with points.
I really appreciate all the kind thoughts, and the reality is that we returned to a much better environment but the wounds are deep for so many and it's so terribly sad to see the places you know so well suffering like this. People will recover, because they always do, but it's going to be a long road.
With regards to our trip, we loved visiting the F&W festival, we were there almost every evening. The kids even enjoyed the music, and trying different foods. It was a great escape. We had a 5 month old with us (one of the reasons this trip was spontaneous was b/c we were going to take a year off since the baby is so young) but she was amazing, taking it all in and hardly fussing at all. We didn't push it, which helps, but she was a total angel and made us feel even better about our decision to go.
We were able to commiserate with so many fellow Jerseyans, and even ran into several friends from home so that was great.
Thanks again all, your many kind words were very appreciated.