seven dwarfs
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I hope you didn't think I was trying to dismiss your concerns, but I just wanted to pull out one part of what you've just said:
We spend hours planning food to bring, having to pack it each morning, and sometimes my other children pay for his allergies by missing out on experiences. My son did not develope allergies until the age of four and it has taken us six years to figure it out completely, so I know the difference
It's taken you, his mother, 6 years to figure it out completely. You spend hours planning food. Disney - their chefs - cannot possibly do this. But if you're saying it's not complex, then what's the issue? You know what your child can eat.
Look, I'm totally sympathetic to the fact that kids have special needs. I live it. I get it. I wish everyone in the universe cared as much as me about what my child has to go through, but the simple fact is that they don't, and they're under no obligation to do so. So I do the best I can because in the end, it's my responsibility.
I think maybe you are reading into my post way to much. LOL It took us six years to figure out he had allergies to food and which foods he can not have. The dr. didn't even think it was allergies in the beginning. He was so sick, throwing up 100 times a day even in his sleep. His reactions were not in the norm. We went through years of testing, some over and over again. At first we removed gluten. And then we realized he couldn't have nuts. And on and on. I know what my son can and can not have and this list was provided to Disney and I was led to beleive all was well.
I don't spend hours at home thinking of and cooking his dinner. lol I do spend hours trying to think of foods that I can pack for the parks that are easy and can be placed in a lunch box and kept cool or hot. (x8 people) Then I have to figure out how to carry it all around the parks. And yes, it is very time consuming to make food for eight people every single day for each meal when on vacation in a place like Disney where we are commando style. And yes, it would be nice to be able to not have to worry with that and be able to sit somewhere and have someone else prepare our food! Kinda hard to cook a steak and potato at MK! It doesn't take hours here at home trying to plan his meals. It is not complex to me at all. If I had my little kitchen in MK then it would take me minutes. lol
If a chef at Disney is told I need real eggs and can't handle that we have an issue. If a Chef at Disney is told no seeds and brings out squash, well that doesn't sound complex to me. If a chef is told no grains and brings out a roll, that is not catering to allergies. If you consider that complex then complex we are in your opinion. And if disney can't handle that, then they should not advertise that they can. I don't go to Mcdonalds because I know better. But Disney says they can handle my sons allergies and they failed. Period. I have the right to let others know. Had I been aware of this I would have thought twice before taking my son to eat.
I am not sure what you mean by "you do the best you can and it's your responsibily." I beleive all Mom's feel this way no matter if you have a disabled child or not. Don't we all love our children/family and want whats best and ultimately feel responsible? I felt bad a chef was inconvinced by me. I felt bad my son felt bad for the same reasons. I felt bad when my other children didn't want to eat in the restaurants anymore. It was heartbreaking when my son felt bad that he was creating this drama all over eggs! I am not responsible for a Disney chef who is told no grains and brings my son a roll. That is silly. And for anyone here who says no nuts and if handed a dish with nuts, of course that is Disney responsibilty. Are you saying I wasn't a responsible parent by taking my son to a restaruant who told me they could handle it? Or are you saying if you have allergies don't eat at Diseny period.
I felt like I did everything Disney told me to do. Our reservations were clearly marked. I was led to beleive they could handle it. I am pretty sure after talking to others my sons allergies are nothing compared to others. I was as responsible as I could be. I didn't eat at any CS as I think it would be way to hard. Had I known that it would turn out as it did I wouldn't have tried it. And I have already stated for our next trip, until I feel more comfortable with Disney chef's, I would not be eating any TS.
I am not asking Disney to care for my child as much as me. I don't think any Mom's would think that would ever happen. I am only asking for them to deliver to the allergies or don't. I only wanted the experience disney says they could deliver. And it is important to me for others to know who may go through what I did to first be prepared and second, be on guard because it may not be as smooth as one may think.
I am wondering if the higher ups at Disney even know that situations like mine happen. Can't fix things if you don't know they are broke. That is why I beleive disboards is such a wonderful site. You can get the good with the bad. It has been the differnce in a good verses a bad vacation for me!
My original reason for posting was to let the person know who posted this thread that with her allergies being what they were and with my recent experience, she may be better off not eating at any of the TS.
Hopefully I have helped someone else on these boards. That is my only intent. I don't want to argue/discuss what allergies we have, who is complex or not. Who is responsible or not. I think we all love our children/family or we wouldn't be on this board. We all want what's best for our family and others or we wouldn't spend the time to be on this board. But I do expect a product to do what is advertised as most people would agree.
And I will end with saying, again, I appreciate the fact that disney has taken on allergies at all. I understand that it is a huge liabilty on their end. But, it needs to be improved. I know that Disney caters better then most other places to people with disabilities. This is why I continue to visit Disney even if my trip wasn't full of pixie dust this time.