Cancelling our trip!

[mouseketeer_mom]

and I'm so mad at my husband ! He made a decision with regards to work that will prohibit our trip without even telling me much less consulting me about it!

Did he make the right decision? Probably, but I think he should have at least told me there was a decision to be made. He had the choice between two projects at work. One would have allowed him to take his vacation as scheduled and the other would not. He's known about this choice for a week or so and never mentioned it. Not that he should or would normally consult me about which projects he takes but when it is going to make an impact on our much anticipated family vacation, you'd think he would at least mention it! Now the earliest time he will be able to take more than 3 consecutive days off will be at least a year from now. I know he made the decision that was the smartest when considering the totallity of the circumstances but it's a lot easier to swallow giving up our Disney/FW vacation if it's a decision I'm at least aware is being made.

sorry, I needed to vent. I'm crushed that we will be waiting a whole year before we can start to plan another family vaction. I love our long weekends camping but we haven't taken more than 4 days together in 3 and half years and I was really looking forward to this trip.

Thanks for listening to me spew!

 

[Skyw]

Take your parents or your best friend instead and go anyhow!!!! Then you will still have something to look forward too.

I understand having time with your hubby. I like to go somewhere without the kids at least once a year.

If it were me, I would still go!!!!!!!!

 

[mouseketeer_mom]

Take your parents or your best friend instead and go anyhow!!!! Then you will still have something to look forward too.

I understand having time with your hubby. I like to go somewhere without the kids at least once a year.

If it were me, I would still go!!!!!!!!

I appreciate the sentiment, I really do but I can't imagine a "family" vacation without him. Besides, I'm sure not pulling a 32 foot travel trailer for 14 hours with 3 kids by myself

so, we'll wait. I'm not happy about it But, I have made it abundantly clear that I'm not happy about it and the only possible way that this situtation can become acceptable is no less than 12 days in FW when we can go

 

[edandcolleen1995]

no offense, but sounds like he is doing what is best for your family. With the state of the economy and whatnot.

From your post even you seem to understand that there really was only one choice in what project to pick. So really not sure why you are mad at him.

 

[FlaFortCampster]

I bet he didn't say anything because he already knew the vacation wasn't going to happen and he was probably just as disappointed as anyone, but took "one" for his family. He sounds like a great guy. No wonder you don't want to leave hime behind and go on vacation with the rest of the family.

 

[Puget Peach]

I am so sorry to hear that your trip has to be postponed. Men's brains process these things differently. (Guys, feel free to respond.) If the choice was obvious to him, he probably doesn't understand the disappointment it caused. After all, it's only a year, right? For me, I feel like decisions that affect me should include me. Even if the outcome is exactly the same. It is the courteous and respectful to do. Perhaps you could explain it to him that way, rather than focusing on THE trip? We really have to teach our loved ones how we want to be treated. It probably wasn't even on his radar.

 

[bama_ed]

MM,

I think you should still go on the trip. Let me know the dates and I'll bring my entire family and we'll "share" your campsite.

Of course, I am allergic to all types of scents so no deodorant for you ....

I must have use of the grill every night from 4-7pm...

I hypervenhilate unless I hear Country Music at breakfast at ear-piercing levels...

I am perfectly willing to split the cost by paying the extra adult fee per day for the site (not the cost of the full site shared)....

By the way, I'll be bringing my big dog Bruno with me. I think he has kicked his "loose bowel" problem....

Bama ED

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Sorry, making a joke about an old thread on your note here!

I think you should be supportive of DH and then let him know that when the replacement trip to WDW is scheduled, there will be an upgrade in facilities (you may want to book the cabin now), you will spending a day at the spa, you'll be signing up for the Deluxe Dining Plan, and it will be up to him to pay for it.

Good luck with him - maybe he'll learn from this

 

[fla4fun]

no offense, but sounds like he is doing what is best for your family. With the state of the economy and whatnot.

From your post even you seem to understand that there really was only one choice in what project to pick. So really not sure why you are mad at him.

I think she's, well, mad or frustrated or whatever, because she wasn't part of a decision that would impact the entire family. If we have a family vacation planned, I expect anyone who is participating in that trip to bring up immediately anything that could postpone or cancel the trip - whether it's work related, health related, or what. I think it's just common courtesy, and it lets everyone else involved feel like they are part of the decision to postpone or cancel, even if it ultimately isn't up to them. I would have at least expected something along the lines of "I just want to let you know there are a couple projects coming down the line at work, and one of them will cause a conflict with our upcoming vacation. How would you feel if we postpone the trip until next year?"

I don't think she's angry because he took one project over another. She just got a little blindsided, that's all. On the bright side though, there is a light at the end of the tunnel - she just gets a lot more planning time!

 

[mouseketeer_mom]

I don't think she's angry because he took one project over another. She just got a little blindsided, that's all. On the bright side though, there is a light at the end of the tunnel - she just gets a lot more planning time!

Yup! That was exactly how I felt.

Yeah, the end result was the same. Any project that keeps him off the "lay off" radar because he's "in the middle of a project", is definitely the project to take. Although we are feeling secure about his job, the current economy has taught everyone that anything can happen.

It's been two days now since he told me and I just can't shake the blues. I took a second job in April to be able to upgrade our camper and go to WDW. I was sooooo looking forward to this trip. We skipped our summer vacation because we were going to Florida in Feb. I totally get that the decision was a "no brainer" but I wish he was a little more considerate of my feelings.

 

[Puget Peach]

It's been two days now since he told me and I just can't shake the blues.

When I have a decision forced on me over which I have no control, I get totally frustrated. While not nearly so sad, the reactions are similar to grieving - I have to accept something I don't want to happen.

Denial or Bargaining - he can take the other project...
Anger - How dare he without consulting me ...
Depression or sadness- or as you describe it, the blues.
You are almost ready to let it go. Allow yourself to process this for what it is - a loss. Soon you will be able to accept it and as others have suggested, let it go. I know, it's just so much psycho-babble but it's what gets me through!

 

[auntie]

Sorry to read you had to change your plans. I'm sure the hubby feels just as badly about it.