Can you stand another gift question? For DH

[Jennifer S]

I saw a great leather coat for DH. Great price too. He needs one (he doesn't think so). The lining of his current one is ripped and the leather is looking worn. He's just cheap. I showed him this one but he is insisting he doesn't want it.

I want to buy it anyway but I don't want him mad. I have next to nothing for him for Christmas because he keeps saying he doesn't want anything.

Should I buy it? I'm torn. Anyone else have a DH like this?

 

[barkley]

my dh finaly admitted his looks downright ratty-so this will be his gift for christmas this year (i got a great deal at wilson's, reg. 240.00 on sale for 99.00). if he's very cost concerned let him know how much it would have cost to have the thing repaired (a zipper replacement alone can run $45 on a leather bomber style jacket).

 

[laurajetter]

My dad is like that. Over the years, I've finally just taken the attitude, "It's Christmas and your birthday, we love you, we're getting you gifts to show it, deal with it!" He is always so frugal with his money and almost feels guilty getting gifts... many times he offers to give money to pay us back I think he realizes now we're going to get stuff for him no matter what, and it usually ends up being more than other people because his birthday falls on Christmas!

If your DH gets mad, just tell him you love him and because of that, you WILL get him a gift whether he says he wants one or not. Also point out he needs it and you got it on a good sale anyway. Then give him a big bear hug and a smooch!! How can he be mad after that?!

 

[mickeyboat]

I have done the same thing for my DH. He says he doesn't need it, I think he does, he gets it and is happy about it.

I say go for it!

Denae

 

[Jennifer S]

I just got back from the store. My coupon expired today and I GOT IT!! It looks great. He will look so handsome in it. If he's that mad he can return it. I think once he puts it on he'll love it- esp. if I hold the old one up to it.

Thanks for the encouragement!!

 

[disykat]

You already got it, but I want to present a different side just for the sake of discussion. The people who have answered are gift people like you. I am not a gift person. If I say I don't want it, I don't want it. I honestly prefer inexpensive gifts or no gifts. While I accept gifts from people because I know it makes THEM happy, I can't help feeling inside that if they truly know me and want to make ME happy, they would respect my wishes.

 

[Laurajean1014]

I bought a Kenneth Cole Butter soft leather coat for my DH about 6 years ago. He may have worn it once.

If he says he doesn't need/want it. Listen to him. It can say you hundreds of $$$$$$

 

[Beth76]

Glad you got a deal on it! He can open it and be surprised. Have him try it on and wear it around the house a little. If he really doesn't like it then you can take it back.

 

[Jennifer S]

The problem is not that he wouldn't like it. He currently has a leather coat that, frankly, I'm embarressed he wears. He would wear it. He just doesn't want me to spend money on him. I know what he got me and it's way more than the coat. I have to give him something. He just would rather spend money on us than us on him.

He's such a good guy. He always puts himself last. If he truly doesn't want it he can take it back. He did this two years ago too with a Columbia ski coat (his was from the 80's) and he wears it a lot - he never took it back.