i assume you don't really hate flying and you're not afraid of flying...you're afraid of crashing....it's a perfectly rational fear...
but you can't let your fears control your life..
if they did, you wouldn't be able to get out of bed in the morning...
i am terrified of crashing, but there is no other way for me to get to WDW....except maybe if i had 3 months to spare and could find ships that would get me from point to point....but there really aren't any ships to get me from where i am, so flying is it.....and sometimes some very turbulent flying (as we cross the alps and the atlantic)....but i have no choice....
so damn the torpedoes and full speed ahead....if i want to get to orlando, it's in a small metal tube 6 miles up in the sky....not a pleasant thought, but i just have to buck up and head to the airport...
and rest assured, i start to freak out as the date approaches.....but then as the date arrives, i'm so busy organizing everything that needs to be organized, i just don't have time to worry....
but you could try the sedative approach....i know a lot of people who go that route (i won't because i'm afraid of taking drugs

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