Can you believe our "friend" did this to us?

[Dizzy4Dizney]

I'm still steaming.

11 months ago, we booked a 2 bedroom BWV for our family and my DH's friend and his two girls (same age as our DD). For months I've been asking him if he's booked his air - he kept putting it off. Two months ago, my DH asked him if he was going because if not, we only have 30 days to cancel the 2 bedroom and get a smaller one. Until this past Sunday, he kept us believing he was going (we leave THIS Sunday). Well, yesterday, I spoke to his X wife and she told me the girls came home from a weekend with their father and they told her they weren't going because he doesn't want to fly Jet Blue because of their service record and he doesn't want them to die in a crash.

DO YOU BELIEVE THIS IDIOT. He STILL hasn't told us he's not going. I can't change the reservation because everything is booked. WE LOOSE THOSE POINTS. My DH has known him for 20 years. I want to kill the idiot. We've done so much for him since his divorce and now he repays us this way.

 

[Christy93]

That stinks, but the 2 bedrooms are sooooo nice! You will love all the space.

 

[jekjones1558]

No good deed goes unpunished. I hope this is a case of your "friend" not really understanding how DVC works. I know that my family thinks we can just go whenever we want as long as there are rooms available. There are a few airfare sales out there now--do you know anyone else who might enjoy going?

 

[Cee]

He is indeed an idiot. I guess that's why he is an "X-husband".

 

[Dizzy4Dizney]

He knows how it works. We've explained it to him. He's just a selfish, self centered, egotistical sociopath. I feel awful for his little girls! Telling them they will crash if they go to Disney!

I'm trying to find other friends, but no one can get that short of notice.

Actually, I should look at it on the bright side, I won't have to deal with the SOB ever again.

 

[buckeyebill1995]

I know that my family thinks we can just go whenever we want as long as there are rooms available.

That's true. We took my sis, BIL and their two kids with us and got a 2 bedroom and they said it was a nice room considering it was 'free'.

OP - I'm sorry he did that to you! Do you know anyone else that would like to go?

 

[pickles]

are you able to talk to the mom of the kids? maybe there is an ally there? Maybe, the kids can just fly with you..might be he simply doesn't want to go to disney, but why should the kids be let down?
There are other airlines besides jet blue out there. He could always drive!!

 

[jekjones1558]

You are right, OP. I can only imagine the stunts this guy would pull while you are at WDW. Maybe it is better to eat the points than to have your vacation ruined by a jerk. It is too bad that your DD will miss out on having friends for the rides, however. Would you be able to use holding points if there were a studio or 1 bedroom available from a last minute cancellation? If so, I would keep calling MS every day until you leave.

 

[janni518]

Since you indicate that you are severing the relationship anyway, I think you should send him a bill.

 

[Donna M]

That's annoying but if you can't change the ressie than look at the positive side of it. Since you have children going the extra bedroom will be great. Their mess can be out of sight too!

 

[RLRDA]

He knows how it works. We've explained it to him. He's just a selfish, self centered, egotistical sociopath. I feel awful for his little girls! Telling them they will crash if they go to Disney!

I'm trying to find other friends, but no one can get that short of notice.

Actually, I should look at it on the bright side, I won't have to deal with the SOB ever again.

As someone previously said, this is why he's an ex-husband. Consider yourself lucky that you don't have to spend your vacation time with such a person! Too bad his children have to miss out though. Look at this as a lesson learned and enjoy your trip with your family.

 

[jodifla]

I'm still steaming.

11 months ago, we booked a 2 bedroom BWV for our family and my DH's friend and his two girls (same age as our DD). For months I've been asking him if he's booked his air - he kept putting it off. Two months ago, my DH asked him if he was going because if not, we only have 30 days to cancel the 2 bedroom and get a smaller one. Until this past Sunday, he kept us believing he was going (we leave THIS Sunday). Well, yesterday, I spoke to his X wife and she told me the girls came home from a weekend with their father and they told her they weren't going because he doesn't want to fly Jet Blue because of their service record and he doesn't want them to die in a crash.

DO YOU BELIEVE THIS IDIOT. He STILL hasn't told us he's not going. I can't change the reservation because everything is booked. WE LOOSE THOSE POINTS. My DH has known him for 20 years. I want to kill the idiot. We've done so much for him since his divorce and now he repays us this way.

Whenever I arrange to travel with somebody, I pretty much assume I'll be lucky if they can actually come.

Vacations aren't nearly important to others as they are to me, and sometimes, things just happen where people can't travel. And then you have jerks like your "friend."

When I book a 2 bedroom for our family of 3, I think: Either we'll have room to spread out, or we'll have a good time with our friends!

 

[KennySC]

Have you asked him directly about the kids comments? Kids can get things confused....

 

[JimMIA]

I would invite his ex -- with or without the girls.

If she goes, at least the girls will get some vicarious benefit.

If she's remarried or has a boyfriend, that's even better.

 

[disneydisneydoo]

I would invite his ex -- with or without the girls.

If she goes, at least the girls will get some vicarious benefit.

If she's remarried or has a boyfriend, that's even better.

I completely agree - invite his ex and hopefully she can bring the girls.

 

[bgraham34]

I would invite his ex -- with or without the girls.

If she goes, at least the girls will get some vicarious benefit.

If she's remarried or has a boyfriend, that's even better.

Thats exactly what I was thinking. Just enjoy your trip and have a Dole Whip to cheer you up.

 

[LVSWL]

OP, so sorry this has happened to you. I think that the most positive thing to remember is that your trip would have probably been a nightmare if this was his attitude about things. I know to me, anticipation of our trips is half the fun, and worrying about all of this makes it tough to get excited. If they aren't going, well then good. It's unfortunate about the points, but you were going to use them anyway if they went, so..if you have another friend to invite, great!, if not, go and have a GREAT time and forget about them.
We invited friends 2 times, 2 years apart. We explained the whole DVC thing in great detail, and like you got the 2bdrm for 6 days. Both trips, they let us know late in the game at the last minute that they would be coming for only 3 days the first trip and 4 days the second trip . So the second bdrm sat unused for all of those days, and the stress leading up to the trip almost overshadowed the fun we had when they finally arrived.
I really hope that this all works out for you. You and your FAMILY are the most important and the memories that you make together!

 

[supersuperwendy]

Oh how frustrating. Keep us updated on what transpires. What a jerk.

 

[Inkmahm]

I completely agree - invite his ex and hopefully she can bring the girls.

I was going to say the same thing.

 

[disneynutz]

Maybe he's bringing his other family?