Can I vent??!

[Bolanette87]

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[jackieleanne]

Awww I really feel for you, my little sister gets treated a little like this where as me and my older sister have had to pay our way since we was 16 little sister is 17 now and gets everything she wants, also a lot of people at college that i go to to do my degree dont have to pay rent or anything and get everything braught for them where as i have to pay rent for my car and whenever i go out etc it has been ok over summer as i have been working 30 hours a week but all of this has gone on WDW trip, felt really bad saying to my bf we may not be able to go out much during my final year and he was a total saint and understood completly and will help me buy and treat me like he does a lot anyway but i always feel bad not providing for myself. Hugs

 

[DisneyB2B]

Oh Bob, IMO he sounds like a little spoiled brat that gets everything Mummy and Daddy can afford to give him. I have a friend like this they are quite well off tho so can afford to do it to an extent. It kind of annoys me as me and DH work every hour gods sends for what we have and he seem to just walk in to a job for 30k+ a year stay at home with Mummy without paying anything towards her and yet still manages to waste all his money on rubbish get into debt and then moans about being skint!

Keep your chin up at least you can say you and Robert have worked for and bought everything you own yourselves!!

Nicci

 

[scojos]

well, i got this off my bro, he did chemistry at red brick and i did catering, he ended up having to do a masters amd then a PhD as no jobs in chemistry.
I walked out of my mickey mouse university with a mickey mouse degree(his words not mine) and got a decent (but not brilliantly) paid job...
he now only earns a few grand a year more than me...

my mate also did a media and arts degree she works in the city buying and selling TV rights, and she raking it in!!

think on, big picture little picture, suffer now you ll enjoy it later

 

[The Fetherstons]

Ahhh Bob sending you keep your chin up, he sounds such a selfish brat its neither wonder you need to vent

 

[Pinky166]

As others have said he sounds like a selfish brat - ignore him and take comfort in the fact that everything you have you've worked/saved hard for.

 

[shellbell]

Sending you a big He will struggle when he gets out into the big wide world and he has to fend for homs self, which one day he will have to do. At least you can sit back and enjoy everything that you do as you know you have worked hard for it!

 

[jjk]

vent away Bob, I know how annoying this can be, we have a few family members who are like this also they also like to critise what we spend our money on sending you a

 

[Chilly]

Vent away. In the long run you'll be better off as you'll have a real appreciation for the value of money, your cousin will probably end up in debt.

 

[Netty]

Bob just keep in mind that when you finish your degree you will get a great job and will be able to afford what you want to buy! you also have learnt the value of money and that family is more important to you. your cousin on the other hand will have a shock when he finally gets a job after his degree and then has to start paying out. things will get better for you
sending you

 

[Queenie]

I really feel for you Bob, I get the same from my mum quite a bit. She has been on seperate two week trips to Florida with me and my sister. When she took my sister (plus BIL and their 1yr old daughter), sis and her family didn't pay a penny. Flights, hotel, park tickets - the works, mum paid for it all. When she took me and Scott, we didn't get so much as a burger at McDonalds off her despite us booking the entire thing and suprising her with breakfast at Chef Mickeys.

Then, that Christmas (a few weeks after we got home) she decided to buy a new massive TV, about 39" flatscreen, very expensive. When she bought it, she added a second one and gave it to my sister. That really hurt.

It can be really hard when your parents act like this because when you tell anyone you sound like a spoiled 14yr old "my sister got a TV, why can't I have a TV too? MUUUUUM!!" but it's still kinda unfair. Just *** my sister has very little self control financially (a classic example would be when we all went out for lunch, sis spent the walk listing all the gigs she was going to soon, then got mum to pay for her daughter's lunch *** she couldn't afford the £2.99 kids meal) doesn't mean she deserves all this stuff.

Your cosuin sounds like a spoilt child in the body of an adult, he's been able to stay that way just because he's always been allowed to have whatever he wants. Really gets my goat.

Sorry, I'll stop ranting now.

 

[natalielongstaff]

you vent away hun !

 

[CustardTart]

Don't worry, Bob, it'll even up one day.

My 'not-especially-academic-but-lovely' DS did Radio, Film & TV Studies with Fine Art at non-red brick Uni - he applied for one job, got it and has just celebrated a year in work with a pay rise and a bonus! I'm incredibly proud of him...

 

[mandymouse]

Sending you lots of hugs Bob

 

[tennisfan]

Vent away I went to uni with people like that, mummy & daddy paid for everything so they didn't need to work, however they still managed to hand in work late

I worked part time & managed ok.

Red brick unis mean nothing every university has strengths & weakness'. My cousin went to Oxford & now works in a library. There is nothing wrong with working in a library but to think she went to a "top" university you would think she would managed to get a better job.

At the end of the day when you finish you will have achieved something great as you & you alone worked hard for your degree. Your cousin will have to face the real world sometime. Also as other have said jobs in Chemistry are very hard to come by unless you teach or do postgraduate degrees.

 

[Nubbedy]

Vent away Bob, I can't say I blame you. A time will come when your cousin doesnt get everything handed to him on a plate and then he will struggle to get by in the 'real world'. You, however will be fine because it is what you are used to doing. Good on you!

And in my opinion, a degree is a degree. It doesn't matter what it is or where you do it, at the end of the day you both have a degree. Fullstop.

Chin up!

Sara.

 

[Belle68]

vent away Bob, thats what your Dis friends are here for. Sending you a big .

Also I know who's going to adapt to the 'outside world' the best - believe me this spoilt brat will find it really tough when he eventually has to stand on his own two feet

 

[Bolanette87]

Thanks everyone.

I was just starting to feel like I must be in the wrong. Nice to know that I have the support of my DIS friends.....

Bob xoxoxox

 

[GlendaONeill]

Of course you do Bob! I think most people know someone like this. My BIL really annoys me like this. He always gets what he wants and his mother would lie in a puddle so he wouldn't get his feet wet. When we went to Florida last year he complained about everything and the cost of everything. I nearly laughed hysterically at that. His mother paid for his meals and park tickets (and holiday we think too). But on coming back he miraculously had loads to spend in duty free
His parents think he must be worshipped. But it'll be over my dead body!
Sorry I'm kind of running on.
The thing is his mother and father will not always be there to mollycoddle him. Just because he's doing a degree in chemistry doesn't mean it's a dead cert he'll get a job. No experience, no real interests, it doesn't go in his favour.
Many people would give their right arm to do what you are doing. If you enjoy it tell him to get knotted! You may end up living the high life and he could be stuck in a white coat job everyday. BORING! (been there done that as I'm a biochemist, and I've left it behind )

 

[jns]

I kwen some one like that too growing up
got everything that was going
found it really hard later on in life when they had to pay themselfs
its hard work keeping up with the Jones's

but thanks for sharing
just got me thinking my youngest DS 10 is getting it far easier then his 2 older brothers
most put a stop to it
as we have our own business so we alway got the boys to work for they pocket money and save up for any things they wanted but I most be getting millow in my old age as DS10 gets away with it
need to get him started working for his holiday money doing him no favourite

So thanks for venting