Calling all Mom & Dads need advice here

[Disneydreamer5]

My DD who is 11 has 4 really good friend. One that lives up the block have been friends since we moved in 8 years ago so since they were too young to hang on their own, play dates if you will.
Then there is the next door neighbor whose father my DH and I have know since grammer school and our DD introduced her to everyone in their grade.
Then there is the softball BFF and the basketball BFF.
Well DD has recently introduced all these girls too one another so she wouldn't have to choose between them and then they could all be friends.
Well I am at work and DD is getting ready to go trick or treating with her older sister and guess what?
All four little girls just knocked on our door, they are all trick or treating together.
WHen she asked why they hadn't called her the one said well we don't know but you can come now if you want!
She was so hurt and upset that she said no but my heart is aching for her.
She is not the kind of kid that takes things like this lightly.
I want so badly to call each of their parents and tell them not only didn't they invite her which was hurtful enough but they felt the need to knock on our door knowing it would only upset her. I mean why?
They were all playing together last night. Nothing happened today in school so why must some little girls be so mean and why are so many parents so fast to make excuses for them. She is my youngest of 4 daughters so yes I have seen this more times then I care to think about.
I am just so upset.

 

[KAMLEM]

I hate this kind of thing. I have a DD12 who has 4 friends her age right in our neighborhood. These kinds of things are always happening, you just need to stay out of it. It can be heartbreaking but it makes it worse if the parents get involved.

 

[Nie0214]

I don't have any advice, but just from browsing and reading the Family forums every now and then, it sadly seems to be a common thing among groups of girls in the 10-13 age range.

I am glad that almost all of my friends were guys, there wasn't ever drama and cattiness.

 

[SplashMtnCrew]

I agree with the pp, don't get involved. I'd wait for DD to come to you and then listen to her. Be there when she needs you. Girls are can be cruel. I still find these type of jr. high charades amongst grown women all the time. Truely sad

 

[Tinker'n'Fun]

Middle School, Junior High, and High school all suck... My advise would be to tell DD she could go with them if she wants, then let it drop. I am sure if she will talk to you she will let you know. Sad thing, all girls are the same and my DD is a Junior this year and we still have all the drama!

 

[sk!mom]

I feel for you. My DD is also 12 and I have to say these type of things happen too often among gilrs. DD and I were just discussing it this afternoon, as she was invited to a Halloween Party/ SleepOver tonight but not everyone in her circle was. She feels sorry for those who were left out but how do you handle it. I understand that a party can't accomodate everyone but actually we try to.

I probably would call at least the parent of the close lifelong friend. I agree that staying out of it is the best thing but I don't think I could help myself when it came to a close friend of mine.