Called into the Teacher's Office- New Update Page 6

[dreamer17555]

Oh no. I am getting called into the office on Weds. Why do I feel like I have done something wrong? In my DD's folder there was a note from the teacher asking for me to call her asap. I did and she said nothing to worry about she just wanted to set up a meeting about my DD. I asked Cat what happened at school today, she said they were doing really easy stuff, looking for shapes around the room and then labeling them- apparently she started to label cylinders, spheres, rectangular prisms, hexagons, ect... I guess her 1st grade teacher was looking for the kids to find squares, triangles, and ovals. The teacher took her to the office to talk to someone there (I am guessing a counselor). She said they talked a lot and played some games...

I really do not want her skipping a grade. That was suggested at the end of last year. She never acts up or gets into trouble but I am getting the feeling that the teacher is worried about her being so ahead. She does 12 hours of dance a week. I don't want to add anymore pressure.

My DD is not gifted, just bright and I happen to love teaching her. We do so many fun hands on activites that she just seems to soak right up. My mom said she knew this was going to happen. I wonder if I stick my DD in front of the TV all weekend if that will kill a few brain cells and I won't have to go in on weds.

-Becca-

 

[sbpuckett]

It might be possible that she is gifted in some way and might qualify for a
TAG program or something where the subject matter is slightly more challenging. DS8 was tested last year and would have been placed in the TAG program this year if we had stayed in the same school system. He's being tested in the next couple of weeks at his new school so we will probably be trying the program out this year.

 

[Linzybrooke]

My mom went through the same thing when I was in first grade. I had learned to read and do basic math in kindergarten, so when we moved to MN I was pretty far ahead of the class. They really wanted to skip me into second grade but my mom wouldn't let them. If I remember her telling me about it she let them know that I was already young for my grade level and she wanted me to be able to experience things with students my own age. I wasn't acting bored just happened to be slightly ahead of the curve.

You know what is best for your daughter. Good luck!

 

[dreamer17555]

What's a TAG program? We have AIG classes but they don't start until 3rd grade.

-Becca-

 

[creativeamanda]

Oh no. I am getting called into the office on Weds. Why do I feel like I have done something wrong? In my DD's folder there was a note from the teacher asking for me to call her asap. I did and she said nothing to worry about she just wanted to set up a meeting about my DD. I asked Cat what happened at school today, she said they were doing really easy stuff, looking for shapes around the room and then labeling them- apparently she started to label cylinders, spheres, rectangular prisms, hexagons, ect... I guess her 1st grade teacher was looking for the kids to find squares, triangles, and ovals. The teacher took her to the office to talk to someone there (I am guessing a counselor). She said they talked a lot and played some games...

I really do not want her skipping a grade. That was suggested at the end of last year. She never acts up or gets into trouble but I am getting the feeling that the teacher is worried about her being so ahead. She does 12 hours of dance a week. I don't want to add anymore pressure.

My DD is not gifted, just bright and I happen to love teaching her. We do so many fun hands on activites that she just seems to soak right up. My mom said she knew this was going to happen. I wonder if I stick my DD in front of the TV all weekend if that will kill a few brain cells and I won't have to go in on weds.

-Becca-

Becca, it is usually best for a kid to be in their own age group. That being said, maybe they want to test her for a gifted program?

 

[dreamer17555]

Becca, it is usually best for a kid to be in their own age group. That being said, maybe they want to test her for a gifted program?

See I dont think so. Last year they said all the gifted (AIG) classes started in 3rd grade and then proceeded to try to sell me on the idea of moving her up a grade. She really should be with her peers. While she is sweet and outgoing she is still learning some social ropes and also how to work well with others without taking over.

-Becca-

 

[creativeamanda]

See I dont think so. Last year they said all the gifted (AIG) classes started in 3rd grade and then proceeded to try to sell me on the idea of moving her up a grade. She really should be with her peers. While she is sweet and outgoing she is still learning some social ropes and also how to work well with others without taking over.

-Becca-

But they may be looking at a charter school or such for her.

 

[dreamer17555]

But they may be looking at a charter school or such for her.

Maybe... I do not want another hard sell like last year. I was in tears on my way home. I am going to try to be positive. Its all good. Just a quick hello and BTW your kid is smart- nothing to worry about, right?

-Becca-

 

[dislal]

our school has an Enrichment program it is for kids who don't quite test high enough for the gifted, but need a little more than the regular class can give them.

 

[sbpuckett]

What's a TAG program? We have AIG classes but they don't start until 3rd grade.

-Becca-

Talented and Gifted

 

[Where'sPiglet?]

Tell the teacher thank you for her concern and you need time to consider the possible options and will get back to her. Then, call her the next day and tell her you think staying where she is would be the best option.

I think if they offer a pull-out program for enrichment, you should consider letting your daughter do it, but I would not put her in a different school or grade, for the reasons you already listed.

 

[monsterkitty]

If you are asked to allow them to have your daughter skip to the next grade, say what my mom said to the teachers who wanted to have my sister skip a grade:

"If my daughter is truly gifted, she will find a way to challenge herself in class. It is not your job to jump through hoops for my daughter, but it is my job as her mother to create an outlet for her to reach her fullest potential and give her learning opportunities outside of school. It is also my job as her mother to make sure she behaves in class and allows others to learn."

My sister told my niece's teacher the same thing.

My mom didn't have to worry about this converstation with a teacher about me.

 

[phorsenuf]

. I wonder if I stick my DD in front of the TV all weekend if that will kill a few brain cells and I won't have to go in on weds.

-Becca-

Does anyone else find this a tad insulting? Are you saying that any mother/father that lets their child watch tv are killing their brain cells? That somehow we aren't as good of a parent or somehow damaging them.

 

[Mickey&Donald]

I'm finding this whole thing mildly insulting. Why is it such a bad thing for a child to be identified as gifted? Sometimes skipping a grade can be a good thing. I was very much like your daughter when I was a kid, and I was bored to tears doing the cirriculum assigned for my age group. Once I was in more challenging and interesting classes, I really had a chance to thrive.

Maybe... I do not want another hard sell like last year. I was in tears on my way home. I am going to try to be positive. Its all good. Just a quick hello and BTW your kid is smart- nothing to worry about, right?

-Becca-

This just blows my mind. In TEARS? Seriously? Come on, lady.

 

[dreamer17555]

Does anyone else find this a tad insulting? Are you saying that any mother/father that lets their child watch tv are killing their brain cells? That somehow we aren't as good of a parent or somehow damaging them.

Wow. I said all weekend. I let my DD watch about 3 hours of TV a week, not counting all of the news programs that she watches with us before school and after dinner. I don't think children or anyone should be plugged into a TV all the time, it is not healthy. But I tend to think that most of the parents on here are concerned parents and don't just sit their child in front of a cartoon and walk away. Sorry if you thought I was attacking you. Honestly not my intent.

-Becca-

 

[ADisneyQueen]

If there is no gifted program until 3rd grade, maybe they want to put her in with the 2nd graders just for math or just for reading. Or maybe they are starting a program for younger children.
My dd is in gifted and at out school they test at the end of 1st grade to be in it for 2nd. I also know a girl at another school district who takes math class with the grade ahead of her.

 

[phorsenuf]

Wow. I said all weekend. I let my DD watch about 3 hours of TV a week, not counting all of the news programs that she watches with us before school and after dinner. I don't think children or anyone should be plugged into a TV all the time, it is not healthy. But I tend to think that most of the parents on here are concerned parents and don't just sit their child in front of a cartoon and walk away. Sorry if you thought I was attacking you. Honestly not my intent.

-Becca-

You didn't insult me at all because if my kids want to watch tv they can and I'm not going to fret that they are losing brain cells or somehow falling behind in school or something. I personally don't think its healthy to to overload my children with outside activities. However I wouldn't insult the people that do because everyone makes choices for their child whether I think its right or wrong. But I certainly wouldn't offend the parents for the choices they make.

Back on the subject if I were you I wouldn't advance your child. They did that for me (bet that surprised you) and it was the worst thing ever. I was was on the same level both academically and socially but as years went on it sucked being a (age) year behind my friends. Please think long and hard about it. I think a lot of parents do t for themselves (ego and bragging rights) than they do it for their child.

Whatever you chose, best wishes.

 

[dreamer17555]

I'm finding this whole thing mildly insulting. Why is it such a bad thing for a child to be identified as gifted? Sometimes skipping a grade can be a good thing. I was very much like your daughter when I was a kid, and I was bored to tears doing the cirriculum assigned for my age group. Once I was in more challenging and interesting classes, I really had a chance to thrive.

This just blows my mind. In TEARS? Seriously? Come on, lady.

Yes in tears. I know my DD. She is a very hard worker and a complete perfectonist. I keep hearing from the school that she should be moved up but I worry about this little girl burning out. She is in competition dance- 12 hours a week. She does girl scouts and does obviously well in school. I am not sure if adding more to her plate is a good thing right now. You think you know what is best and then you have people at the school ganging up on you telling you that you obviously dont. Maybe I worry too much but its a lot of pressure to put on someone who is only 6.

I am worried about moving her up, sure she has friends but she is still learning much need social skills and how to be a positive part of her community, and that is just as important if not more so than math and reading.

I am glad skipping worked out for you. My child is bright and a hardworker but she is not actually gifted (in the genius sense). She just has an amazing ability to soak up information. But then again so do most kids. I really hate all of this.

I love my DD to death but she was not the type of child I thought we would have. She is very type 'A' and pushes herself far too hard. We have had to set rules for how much dance she can practice on the weekends because given half a chance she will keep doing routines over and over and over again, until she thinks they are good enough.

Seriously not trying to insult anyone. Just worried.

-Becca-

 

[mickeyboat]

Go, talk to them and hear what they have to say and offer before you start to worry. Together you can come up with a plan that will satisfy everyone.

I would not necessarily want my child to skip a grade either, but some additional enrichment - possibly a pull out for certain subjects might be a good compromise. Be glad the school wants to include you in the planning, and make sure they are listening to your desires.

I skipped a grade and had no ill-effects.

Denae

 

[dreamer17555]

If there is no gifted program until 3rd grade, maybe they want to put her in with the 2nd graders just for math or just for reading. Or maybe they are starting a program for younger children.
My dd is in gifted and at out school they test at the end of 1st grade to be in it for 2nd. I also know a girl at another school district who takes math class with the grade ahead of her.

They had that program all set and ready to go for this year. My DD was one of five students in it- but then they cancelled it. Apparently once word got out every parent was calling the office wanting to know why little Johnny or Susie wasn't invited to be in it, regardless if they could understand the material. Then one of the mom's want to the school board and said it would upset her child to watch the others go off to another classroom and not be invited to go. In reality it would have been hard for the mom.

I really hope they may try to start it back up again. It had sounded perfect.

-Becca-