Butterflys at wedding?

[D L and K's Mom]

My Sis in Law is getting married in July and I would like to give her a butterfly release as part of her gift. Butterflys have a special place in her life so I know she will love it . Has anyone done this? Anyone have the name of the place they ordered their butterflies from? I googled and there are 100's!!! Also, anyone have acoupon for any butterfly places? Most of the sites have a place for a coupon but I have not been able to find a code anywhere online. Thanks so much for any info you have.

 

[Dee77]

I would do a google search specifically for the area where her ceremony is taking place, that should lower the number of choices significantly. Also find out if she already plans on doing this since you mentioned they are especially significant to her.

 

[Pumbaa_]

or ask her if she has any objection to having live butterflies released. (I think i would )

 

[kacaju]

My Sis in Law is getting married in July and I would like to give her a butterfly release as part of her gift. Butterflys have a special place in her life so I know she will love it . Has anyone done this? Anyone have the name of the place they ordered their butterflies from? I googled and there are 100's!!! Also, anyone have acoupon for any butterfly places? Most of the sites have a place for a coupon but I have not been able to find a code anywhere online. Thanks so much for any info you have.

That sounds really cool.... I may do think about doing that for my brother who is getting maried in Aug!!

 

[C.Ann]

or ask her if she has any objection to having live butterflies released. (I think i would )

I would have an issue with this as well.. Butterflies are very delicate creatures and just packaging them up could cause significant harm to them.. Actually, I'm not even crazy about releasing doves at weddings.. These creatures are a part of nature and my personal feelings are that they shouldn't be removed from their natural surroundings for the sake of entertainment..

However, that is strictly my opinion.. No offense intended..

 

[RangerPooh]

Also keep in mind that there is often a fair amount of dead butterflies at release time. I'd hate to have my guests open the capsules to find that their butterfly won't be flying.

 

[meliss8599]

I would have an issue with this as well.. Butterflies are very delicate creatures and just packaging them up could cause significant harm to them.. Actually, I'm not even crazy about releasing doves at weddings.. These creatures are a part of nature and my personal feelings are that they shouldn't be removed from their natural surroundings for the sake of entertainment..

However, that is strictly my opinion.. No offense intended..

Have you ever done it or seen it done? They are VERY safely packaged and handled and, as it is done in a summer month, they will have no problem surviving.

 

[D L and K's Mom]

No offense taken.
I have been to one wedding with a butterfly release and we had one when the school I worked at closed after 75 years and I think it was beautiful. I know they are delicate creatures and on both occasions there were no dead butterflies. They are packaged very, very carefully and came with very careful instructions on what to do with them etc. Only certain types of butterflies can be released in certain states. I can totally understand why some people would not like it but I really think it is beautiful. The company that did our schools is no longer doing butterflies and the wedding was out of state so I was hoping someone would know of a place.
My brother in law was tragically killed by a drunk driver. My MIL always says that whenever there is a happy occasion or a time when someone in the family needs comfort there is always a butterfly fluttering around. She says its a sign from BIL that things are fine. Maybe just a crazy family story but there was a butterfly in the church at my wedding 23 years ago in May and we saw one in the chapel of the hospital when my son was born in Oct...both inside and both monarch butterflies... I just think it is a nice thought. My sis in law talked about a butterfly release but decided she could use the $ elsewhere in her wedding planning. I would only do a dozen enough for the bride and groom and the bridal party.

 

[crazyme5kids]

I would have an issue with this as well.. Butterflies are very delicate creatures and just packaging them up could cause significant harm to them.. Actually, I'm not even crazy about releasing doves at weddings.. These creatures are a part of nature and my personal feelings are that they shouldn't be removed from their natural surroundings for the sake of entertainment..

However, that is strictly my opinion.. No offense intended..

Actually, the white doves released at weddings (and other events) are really homing pigeons. Once they are released they head home to their coop.

 

[epcotprincess]

I've seen one, and at least 3/4 of the butterflies were dead. It really was awful. And yes, they were packaged carefully and it was in a summer month.

It's also an issue regarding the introduction of a species to a non-native area. If they aren't already dead, they likely will be due to being out of their original habitat.

Personally, I would feel so bad if someone had gifted me this. I would pass on it and do something else (bubbles or whatever?) and then give her something with a butterfly on it, like a house blessing, a piece of serving ware, or even something small like a necklace or keychain, or a hankey embroidered with a butterfly to use that day/ pin under her dress to take down the aisle.

 

[Octoberbride03]

You might also want to check with the venue where you plan on releasing them. There may be specific rules to be followed or they may not allow it all.

As for finding a company I'm going to suggest something old-fashioned. Pick up a Bridal Magazine. There are ALWAYS ads in them for favors and doves/ butterfly/bubbles etc. I remember from when I was getting married 7 years ago that they were full of info on the whole process. Its not my thing so we didn't do this, but I remember reading the ads for them.

 

[Eeyores Butterfly]

I love butterflies (obviously) and would hate it if somebody did this for me. Even if they are not dead on arrival, butterflies are very delicate. Even touching them can damage their wings and result in their early death. Maybe you could give her some tasteful jewelry or something for their house with butterflies. That way they can enjoy it for years to come.

 

[RunDanceSkate]

It is a lovely idea but I would not do it for the simple reason that I would be watching for your regular butterfly. I would not want to miss seeing him because all the purchased ones are there.

"My MIL always says that whenever there is a happy occasion or a time when someone in the family needs comfort there is always a butterfly fluttering around. She says its a sign from BIL that things are fine."