But I DID rsvp to your party!!

[descovy]

A RSVP vent from the "invited"...

A few days ago I receive an e-vite... You are invited to Amy's Birthday...

Well great. This must be a kid at school. I have 3 kids. Just WHO are you trying to invite??? None are friends with an Amy.

So I RSVP to the e-vite "no" and leave it at that. To each his own, but I'm not so crazy about the "invite everyone" kind of party, especially when you aren't even on a first name basis. And no, our school doesn't have some crazy mandate that you must invite the whole class or anything like that. But no biggie, I just shrug it off and decline the invitation. As I say, may not be my cup 'o tea... but to each his own.

Tonight I get a voicemail with a "stern tone" This message is for "______ @ hotmail.com" (yes, she calls me by my email address, not by name. Because she has NO idea who I am!) This is Amy's mom. I haven't heard from you about the party on Saturday. Please let me know if you are coming. And hangs up. No phone number either! (grrr...)

So I dig through my deleted emails for her e-vite. Checked again that I really did reply (yes, I did) And emailed her that we couldn't come. Whoever "we" are, of course...

Ugh... just remember when you are fussing and fretting over missed RSVP's and how "rude" the rest of us are for not replying... sometimes we "inviteds" are not the rude ones.

And I will never understand the thought of inviting strangers to birthday parties. You don't need gobs of kids at Chuck E Cheese for a birthday. Cake and ice cream with family, family vacation, a friend or 2 for a sleepover, taking a bestie to the movies or the mall, have all sufficed for my three...

 

[laurie31]

Wow, this is a whole new spin on the "birthday party RSVP" threads.

You have no clue who this person is, and she obviously doesn't have a clue who you are either. How the heck did she even get your email? And why does her kid want you (or one of your kids) at her party? (yeah sure, I get the more guests = more gifts thing but I'd think KNOWING the party child is something of a prerequisite. One would think, anyway. )

I would count myself lucky that none of your kids seem to be good friends with "Amy" since her mom is apparently a few fries short of a happy meal.

I don't get inviting strangers either. My younger DD likes small parties, but my older DD does like to have parties with lots of friends, but I do know all their names! I'm in shock over her leaving you a voicemail addressing you by your email address and not even the name of the child she invited! How rude!!

 

[tinkerbell198530]

I am not sure if this is true or not but I was told if you were invited you have to get the person a gift.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Well clearly, one of your kids knows her. I can't imagine an invite from a random stranger that noone in our family knew.

How weird on the follow up call though. Most people I know who use evite--follow up...via e-mail.

Judging another family for how they choose to host a party is a bit inappropriate though. It may not be your cup of tea--but you aren't paying the tab.

Weirdness all the way around IMHO.

 

[JessicaR]

Wow, this is a whole new spin on the "birthday party RSVP" threads.

You ain't kidding!

I'm just sitting here shaking my head. I can't believe someone would call and address you by your email! Crazy. The whole thing is extremely impersonal.

 

[laurie31]

I am not sure if this is true or not but I was told if you were invited you have to get the person a gift.

That's not even true for weddings. It's certainly not true for children's birthday parties. An invitation to an event is just that. The host would like to celebrate the event with you. A gift is always a choice.

Certainly if one attends the event, a gift is expected (by society in general), but it should never be some type of admission ticket, and an invitation is not a bill - lol!

 

[descovy]

Well clearly, one of your kids knows her. I can't imagine an invite from a random stranger that noone in our family knew.

How weird on the follow up call though. Most people I know who use evite--follow up...via e-mail.

Judging another family for how they choose to host a party is a bit inappropriate though. It may not be your cup of tea--but you aren't paying the tab.

Weirdness all the way around IMHO.

Yes, one of my daughters is in Amy's class. That doesn't make them friends. It makes them classmates. None of my 3 girls has ever asked to go to an Amy's house, or call an Amy on the phone. Or tell a story how she and an Amy played on the playground.

We are just a generic classmate. And just as others are entitled to the opinion that you can/should invite anybody & everybody (and later freak when they don't get RSVP's) I am entitled to an opinion too.

 

[EMom]

A RSVP vent from the "invited"...

A few days ago I receive an e-vite... You are invited to Amy's Birthday...

Well great. This must be a kid at school. I have 3 kids. Just WHO are you trying to invite??? None are friends with an Amy.

So I RSVP to the e-vite "no" and leave it at that. To each his own, but I'm not so crazy about the "invite everyone" kind of party, especially when you aren't even on a first name basis. And no, our school doesn't have some crazy mandate that you must invite the whole class or anything like that. But no biggie, I just shrug it off and decline the invitation. As I say, may not be my cup 'o tea... but to each his own.

Tonight I get a voicemail with a "stern tone" This message is for "______ @ hotmail.com" (yes, she calls me by my email address, not by name. Because she has NO idea who I am!) This is Amy's mom. I haven't heard from you about the party on Saturday. Please let me know if you are coming. And hangs up. No phone number either! (grrr...)

So I dig through my deleted emails for her e-vite. Checked again that I really did reply (yes, I did) And emailed her that we couldn't come. Whoever "we" are, of course...

Ugh... just remember when you are fussing and fretting over missed RSVP's and how "rude" the rest of us are for not replying... sometimes we "inviteds" are not the rude ones.

And I will never understand the thought of inviting strangers to birthday parties. You don't need gobs of kids at Chuck E Cheese for a birthday. Cake and ice cream with family, family vacation, a friend or 2 for a sleepover, taking a bestie to the movies or the mall, have all sufficed for my three...

I'll allow that the e-vite was odd in that it did not specify which child was the invitee. And the mom was even more odd was gritching at you for not RSVPing when you had indeed RSVPed.

But I'm puzzled by the "strangers" remark. If you mean actual strangers (since none of your children claim to know the birthday girl) then that's fair enough. But if you're in a snit about kids who invite the entire class or all the boys/all the girls, then I guess you'll just have to stay in a perpetual snit as long as people like me are around.

My DD loves to invite the entire class or at least all the girls. She makes friends easily and quickly and why shouldn't we invite the whole group if she wants? They can accept or decline. Guess what? Almost every single kid invited has shown up since she was 2 years old and she's now 10. Obviously, they want to attend. Her class roster changes every year and she'll never have more than two kids from her previous year's class, so no.....I am not thick with the moms as I never see the same moms from one year to the next. But it's not MY party, it's hers and she IS friends with the kids.

If we had a "family" party, it would consist of DD, DH, me and one uncle. Big woo. Some party. A family vacation? Yes, we took her out of school and went to WDW one year for her birthday. That was fun. Can't afford to do that every year. Pick a best buddy to do something special with? Her brain would explode if she had to pick ONE friend. Does she HAVE to have a big party? Nope. For that matter, she doesn't NEED any party at all. No kid does. But she would like to have her classmates there, I don't mind and so why the heck not? If a small scale do works for your 3 kids, goody gumdrops. More power to you. It does not make you a better or worse mother than the moms who throw a big shindig for their kids. It just makes you different. It works for YOU. Not for US.

 

[Stacerita]

The way that mom left you a voicemail was rude. At least she should have said "so and so's mom"....not "_______@hotmail.com" Thats rude.

 

[Imzadi]

Maybe you should respond back again and say, "Hazel & Gomez will be attending Saturday, after all." Then she has to ask her kids to figure out who Hazel & Gomez are that will be attending.

 

[Tink888]

A RSVP vent from the "invited"...

A few days ago I receive an e-vite... You are invited to Amy's Birthday...

Well great. This must be a kid at school. I have 3 kids. Just WHO are you trying to invite??? None are friends with an Amy.

So I RSVP to the e-vite "no" and leave it at that. To each his own, but I'm not so crazy about the "invite everyone" kind of party, especially when you aren't even on a first name basis. And no, our school doesn't have some crazy mandate that you must invite the whole class or anything like that. But no biggie, I just shrug it off and decline the invitation. As I say, may not be my cup 'o tea... but to each his own.

Tonight I get a voicemail with a "stern tone" This message is for "______ @ hotmail.com" (yes, she calls me by my email address, not by name. Because she has NO idea who I am!) This is Amy's mom. I haven't heard from you about the party on Saturday. Please let me know if you are coming. And hangs up. No phone number either! (grrr...)

So I dig through my deleted emails for her e-vite. Checked again that I really did reply (yes, I did) And emailed her that we couldn't come. Whoever "we" are, of course...

Ugh... just remember when you are fussing and fretting over missed RSVP's and how "rude" the rest of us are for not replying... sometimes we "inviteds" are not the rude ones.

And I will never understand the thought of inviting strangers to birthday parties. You don't need gobs of kids at Chuck E Cheese for a birthday. Cake and ice cream with family, family vacation, a friend or 2 for a sleepover, taking a bestie to the movies or the mall, have all sufficed for my three...

I'm not gonna flame you for what is or isn't your cup of tea. I'd have been ticked off too. The other mom was just rude.

She's throwing the party. You shouldn't need to do detective work to figure out which of your kids she was inviting. You RSVP'd. If she's going to use technology to send the invites, she should know how it works. And if she doesn't, she certainly shouldn't have had an attitude when she left the message and forgot to leave a phone number.

FWIW - When my kids were younger, I was one to invite everyone just for the sake of not hurting feelings but I certainly understand someone not attending a party where they aren't friends with or don't know the party child that well. I've RSVP'd no to plenty of those invites myself.

 

[Stacerita]

Maybe you should respond back again and say, "Hazel & Gomez will be attending Saturday, after all." Then she has to ask her kids who figure out who Hazel & Gomez are and and will be attending.

 

[Ericandjenng]

My DS's school doesn't require everyone be invited unless you send the invites to school to be handed out.

Imzadi--TOO FUNNY!!

 

[Ceila]

I'll give you that the mom was completely rude. I can't imagine someone behaving in such a manner.

On the topic of who gets invited, though, while inviting the whole class may not be your cup of tea, there are many who feel differently. In our area, this is fairly common for children in the younger elementary grades. And laurie31, it really isn't a gift grab (at least not for some of us).

 

[Ceila]

oops - duplicate post!

 

[laurie31]

I'll give you that the mom was completely rude. I can't imagine someone behaving in such a manner.

On the topic of who gets invited, though, while inviting the whole class may not be your cup of tea, there are many who feel differently. In our area, this is fairly common for children in the younger elementary grades. And laurie31, it really isn't a gift grab (at least not for some of us).[/QUOTE]


Oh no, it isn't for me either. DD#1 likes to invite everyone she knows! LOL! Friends from school, church, dance class, etc. just because she likes a big crowd, not because she wants a ton of stuff. I was guessing that those who invite virtual strangers might be doing so for the gifts, but who knows. I didn't realize back when I posted before that "Amy" is a classmate of one of the OP's kids. I got the impression the OP didn't even know which of her children was being invited because she didn't know who "Amy" was.

However, even if it's just a case of inviting everyone to be polite, or inviting everyone because "Amy" wants a big party, I would expect Amy's mom to address the evite to THE CHILD who is invited. The OP shouldn't have to guess which of her kids it was who was meant to go to the party.

 

[abdmom]

Tonight I get a voicemail with a "stern tone" This message is for "______ @ hotmail.com" (yes, she calls me by my email address, not by name. Because she has NO idea who I am!) This is Amy's mom. I haven't heard from you about the party on Saturday. Please let me know if you are coming. And hangs up. No phone number either! (grrr...)

..

You know, she was probably making a lot of phone calls. A misstep in the name is quite possible. It happens. Happened to me this morning - on the receiving end. I'd certainly give her a pass on the "stern tone" - it likely had nothing to do with you. You have her email, why do you need her phone number? She did use "please". What's the big deal?

 

[kacaju]

WOW!! just for the record, I do agree with you. I am not a fan of the invite the whole class to the party either.
I am so happy my girls are older now that it really is not an issue anymore!

 

[Northstar]

Are you absolutely sure this isn't a spam scheme?

Somebody you don't know invites you to a party, and you reply, indicating that you have a valid email... then you get another email (they don't care whether you replied "yes" or "no," they just want to get another response from you).

You might watch to see if you get an increase in invitations from gentlemen in Nigeria who'd like to give you some money....

 

[Ceila]

However, even if it's just a case of inviting everyone to be polite, or inviting everyone because "Amy" wants a big party, I would expect Amy's mom to address the evite to THE CHILD who is invited. The OP shouldn't have to guess which of her kids it was who was meant to go to the party.

Oh, I totally agree! I can't imagine not identifying which child is invited. That other mom (the party host, not the OP!) sounds either a little nuts or just completely stressed out.