Bummer!

[vinmar4]

After all this planning for our upcoming family vacation in July and trying to decide if staying or not at BLT after our 8 nights at Jambo, DH won't be able to go with us. At first we were going to cancel,but my sister and her children are so excited about going for the first time, that we decided to go only for the 8 nights and save the other points for next year so the whole family can try another resort. I'll be honest, I know that it won't be the same without the DH for me, but then again maybe I can convince him for the 2 of us to go for the weekend for the wine and dine festival!
Has anybody gone thru this, when u had to go without the DH?

 

[DenLo]

How sad. I never been on a Disney vacation without my DH but I would think you would be fine. It would have been worse if you had to tell the kids in both families that you were canceling the vacation because your DH couldn't come. Kids never understand things like work get in the way of fun. Since your sister and kids will be there it will give you some girl time with your DSIS.

 

[cvjw]

I've been lucky enough to take several trips with my Sister and my boys to Disney, to Universal, to Sea World and Busch Gardens. Every trip was great! It is just different. My little family of 4 always does things the same way on each trip - it was nice to experience the parks thru another set of eyes!

 

[disneyfam27]

I had a similar experience last year when my DS (13 at the time) did not go with the family on our first DVC trip. I had taken my 2 kids the previous year, but we stayed at the All-stars. This was going to be the first time at the villas for all of us. Well my son decided to get a lapse in judgement 2 months before the trip. He went to a department store and tried to shoplift some toys and got caught. Because I was there, the police were not called, but my son is banned from the store until he is 18 and I had to pay a hefty fine for his misdeed. So I told him that he couldn't go on the trip. For the whole week, I was seriously BUMMED about the decision and both I and my youngest (11 at the time) missed him dearly, but we did still have a good time despite it. At the end of the day I feel that a few good things happened:

First and foremost my son learned a valuable lesson. I have not had any more trouble of that kind from him (now if he would only do his homework more often...)

Second, I used the $$ from his (non-refundable) airline ticket to spend a long weekend at BWV and got to experience Disney all by myself using my newly acquired DVC points . I had a blast shopping massages, deluxe dining, the whole nine yards! It helped me discover that it is okay for mom to have a little fun time also.

Lastly, even though it was a tough experience for all of us in some way, we all survived!! Looking back I don't have any regrets. As a matter of fact we are going back for April school break and BOTH of my boys will be going this time. I am really looking forward to it and I know that they are also.

 

[vinmar4]

Whao, yeah,things like that can happen with kids!
I'm glad everything worked out ok.
The only thing is that my sisters husband is also going,so no bonding sister time
I'm sure it will be ok at the end

 

[Cee]

Oh yes. And you will enjoy it. Instead of doing things "our" way, you'll experience doing them "your" way.

 

[Maryland_Mommy]

I am glad you are bummed that DH can't go! I was never bummed when my DH (dumb husband) needed to work and miss a trip. Now I am happily divorced! I love to hear stories of how marriage is suppose to be and other people have great ones. Be glad you have a DH that you will miss so much - I don't know what that feels like.

Anyway, maybe you could take a little time for yourself. If your sister is there, this may be a time to do things that your kids would not want to do. My friend went to Disney with her very extended family last summer and she said she went over to AKL early in the morning by herself to enjoy the atmosphere, walk slowly through the animal trails, drink coffee and people watch, etc. I took a trip with a friend ( no kids) and we walked through all the countries in Epcot and got to look at all the shops - something my boys don't like to do. Maybe some spa time??? Maybe sister's husband can take the kids for awhile and you and your sister could do a little bonding.

 

[Kymm1111]

I just got back from a long weekend with Grandma and Mom. We had tons of fun but I did miss DH. There are always certian things we do and not having my "partner" was a little sad. Not to mention he had a HORRIBLE week while we were gone.

 

[arthur06]

I know its a bummer for you, but it doesn't have to be bad... Disney is a lot of work and maybe for your husbands sake it will be nice to just have a quiet week and you get some good time with your sisters family.

(my DW says I am full of crap on this, because if I was going with the kids and she was staying home, I would be bummed)

 

[vinmar4]

Thanks for the replies you guys!
This is going to be our third time at DW and our second as DVC owners. We are opening a bussiness maybe in 4-5 weeks and DH was just thinking that it's going to be to much for the his partner to handle so soon. We also like to do things together and one time when I stayed in TX for 6 months alone with the kids because he had to say in Chicago to try to sell the house( that's another whole story as I ended up coming back) I know that the first few weeks I felt like really my other half was not with me. Not that we have a perfect marriage but if we argue , we can't stay mad at each other that long, besides my DD is always with daddy and he would get on rides with her that I would not . The good part is that my nephews will be with her this time as her brother is 14 and she is 8. Maybe my DS will convince my brother in law to go with him to the bigger rides, that I again, would not do. I got on the one with the big foot and I was dizzy like for an hour after that.

 

[MinnieGi]

Did it two summers ago with just kids and I. We already had a vacation planned at HHI for the whole family when DD's dance team decided to dance on a cruise and afterwords the kids and I hit the parks before heading up to meet DH at HHI.

I was so nervous travelling without DH before we went but it really worked out well!! In fact the kids and I had a trip that was different than others we have taken with DH b/c we SHOPPED ALL that we wanted!!! LOL!!! Now mostly this was just looking and not buying, but DH can't stand to be in any store for very long and just doesn't understand "just looking" but my kids sure do!! The kids and I hit every store in the parks as well as at DTD.

We missed DH and the kids and I would talk about what "daddy is doing" and "what daddy likes at the parks" etc... but it was a trip I'll treasure always.

Go and enjoy yourself and with your sister and her kids. I'll bet you'll have a blast!!

 

[vinmar4]

that was funny!
I don't think that my husband would go with the kids if I was not going, not that he would be bummed, but he could not handle it!
One time I told him that we should just go the two of us for a weekend during the wine and dine and he told me that he doesn't think that he could enjoy himself there without the kids!
When he stays, he won't be relaxing , as he is opening a restaurant soon

 

[Sandisw]

After all this planning for our upcoming family vacation in July and trying to decide if staying or not at BLT after our 8 nights at Jambo, DH won't be able to go with us. At first we were going to cancel,but my sister and her children are so excited about going for the first time, that we decided to go only for the 8 nights and save the other points for next year so the whole family can try another resort. I'll be honest, I know that it won't be the same without the DH for me, but then again maybe I can convince him for the 2 of us to go for the weekend for the wine and dine festival!
Has anybody gone thru this, when u had to go without the DH?

Two summers ago, I went without DH and just the kids--well, my kids were 21, 16, and 13 at the time.

It was not the same, but we did enjoy ourselves and had a good time. On our last day, the kids wanted to sleep in so I headed to MK all by myself. It was peaceful and fun!!! Plus, my DH has a bit less patience than I do in the summer in terms of waiting for things. The kids and I enjoyed a bit being able to just wait out lines that DH would never want to do.

This coming summer, DH had decided he didn't think he wanted to go back in the heat, so we had booked a long weekend for F & W.

Well, 5 months out and he decided to come!!! I think that since you will be with your sister and her kids you will have a great time and not even miss him!

 

[arthur06]

that was funny!
I don't think that my husband would go with the kids if I was not going, not that he would be bummed, but he could not handle it!
One time I told him that we should just go the two of us for a weekend during the wine and dine and he told me that he doesn't think that he could enjoy himself there without the kids!
When he stays, he won't be relaxing , as he is opening a restaurant soon

I bet he could do it! Just throw in some extra pool time! We have DS10, DS4, DS2 and I know I could do it, but it would be so much easier with my wife!

You really need to try a couples only trip sometime! DW and I are doing it in 3 weeks. 5 nights at BWV for Flower and Garden! It's great for us, great for the grandparents, and seems to make us better parents having time away to just be a couple. It's very nice to stroll around the parks with no real agenda or rides we have to do.

You will have to PM me sometime when your husband gets his restaurant going. We are hoping to get to Chicago this summer for a few days (we are from Iowa) and have a nice long weekend there, would love to try your new restaurant. I was in the restaurant/catering business for a few years, best of luck!