Broodiness......

[Booknut]

What a lovely thread

I say indulge the broodiness, go to the shops, read the books, why not?! I bought my first baby names book when I was a teenager Being a mother was the only thing in my life that I knew I wanted and would be good at. It just felt so natural and I felt like i'd really come into myself when Matilda was born. Pure joy And you're so young too so you have lots of time. I'm 36 so i'm cutting it short for squeezing in another 1 or 2 kiddos but we're gonna have fun trying!

As for the timing of it/money etc my mother used to tell me all the time 'if you keep putting off having a baby until you can afford it you'll never have one because you can never afford them'. We didn't plan Matilda, she was the happiest surprise of our lives. We don't own a home and when I got pregnant Phil had just lost his job and we needed to buy a new car. But life went on and you always find the money in the end, it comes and goes in life and there are never any guarantees financially. Yes you have to make a lot of financial sacrifices sometimes but its not as hard as I thought it would be because you end up wanting to just give them everything

I'm so broody right now its crazy! Let me know if you form some sort of Disney Brooding club

 

[joolz1910]

What a lovely thread

I say indulge the broodiness, go to the shops, read the books, why not?! I bought my first baby names book when I was a teenager Being a mother was the only thing in my life that I knew I wanted and would be good at. It just felt so natural and I felt like i'd really come into myself when Matilda was born. Pure joy And you're so young too so you have lots of time. I'm 36 so i'm cutting it short for squeezing in another 1 or 2 kiddos but we're gonna have fun trying!

As for the timing of it/money etc my mother used to tell me all the time 'if you keep putting off having a baby until you can afford it you'll never have one because you can never afford them'. We didn't plan Matilda, she was the happiest surprise of our lives. We don't own a home and when I got pregnant Phil had just lost his job and we needed to buy a new car. But life went on and you always find the money in the end, it comes and goes in life and there are never any guarantees financially. Yes you have to make a lot of financial sacrifices sometimes but its not as hard as I thought it would be because you end up wanting to just give them everything

I'm so broody right now its crazy! Let me know if you form some sort of Disney Brooding club

Twins are more common in women over 37...

 

[torsie24]

Let me know if you form some sort of Disney Brooding club

I think this thread is it Eloise!

 

[Booknut]

Twins are more common in women over 37...

Oooooh that would be interesting, Phil would have a heart attack bless him

My dad's sister had identical twins so I am secretly hopeful.

 

[orlandothebeagle]

What a lovely thread

I say indulge the broodiness, go to the shops, read the books, why not?! I bought my first baby names book when I was a teenager Being a mother was the only thing in my life that I knew I wanted and would be good at. It just felt so natural and I felt like i'd really come into myself when Matilda was born. Pure joy And you're so young too so you have lots of time. I'm 36 so i'm cutting it short for squeezing in another 1 or 2 kiddos but we're gonna have fun trying!

As for the timing of it/money etc my mother used to tell me all the time 'if you keep putting off having a baby until you can afford it you'll never have one because you can never afford them'. We didn't plan Matilda, she was the happiest surprise of our lives. We don't own a home and when I got pregnant Phil had just lost his job and we needed to buy a new car. But life went on and you always find the money in the end, it comes and goes in life and there are never any guarantees financially. Yes you have to make a lot of financial sacrifices sometimes but its not as hard as I thought it would be because you end up wanting to just give them everything

I'm so broody right now its crazy! Let me know if you form some sort of Disney Brooding club

I think Matilda is just a lovely name.Real pretty.even all the short versions are cute.
I will have to get another pup

But seriously, Ive just went through ivf with a dear friend that I work beside, and I DO NOT KNOW HOW folks can go through it,what a journey for her, she was having twins and was with me when she thought she was losing them(again) she lost one,this was at 3 months, other one was healthy and due in 8 weeks thank god
I can not tell you how terrible it was, she was clinging to me screaming. I dont believe in god but I prayed for her that day just incase.
I know she wouldnt mind me telling you,cause she is just so pleased.

 

[aaronandterri]

now you know why i have 5 kids, lol be very careful......

I must admit having Izzy early is nice she has been my baby forever, although it was hard in the begining, great cure for my broodyness.

 

[Zeebs]

Thats what I though, but it just never happened.
I know this is terrible thing to say, but Len knows what I am like, I cant stand to be in the same room as a crying baby.It makes me feel like my head is going to explode.
I feel mean saying that and I dont know why I am even admitting it to you guys, I love interacting with toddlers, I adore them, I always want to snatch them when I see there Mums and they are shouting and being mean to them,I want to wipe there noses and give them a cuddle and take them to disney world.. My neice pretty much moved in since she was 7 years, I took her on every single hol with me from 3 to present(13), maybe she was my focus( she never cried as a baby lol)

Very very interesting thread peeps.

I am the mother of two small boys and with another child on the way. I don't like babies much either. They reach about 4 months and I get that hit of love that everyone talks about and then at about 8 months I acutally start to like them.

I know I am not the only one in the world who doesn't feel that rush of love from the very first minute but it is a little talked about thing. So of course you feel so guilty.

I hope the next will be different it was a little better with my second, I just figure I am one of these people who has to get to know the wee person before I fall in love.

Crap now that I put it in writing I feel worse.

Just to clarify I love my boys to pieces and certainly wouldn't be without them now and they are told that every day.

Kirsten

 

[joolz1910]

I am the mother of two small boys and with another child on the way. I don't like babies much either. They reach about 4 months and I get that hit of love that everyone talks about and then at about 8 months I acutally start to like them.

I know I am not the only one in the world who doesn't feel that rush of love from the very first minute but it is a little talked about thing. So of course you feel so guilty.

I hope the next will be different it was a little better with my second, I just figure I am one of these people who has to get to know the wee person before I fall in love.

Crap now that I put it in writing I feel worse.

Just to clarify I love my boys to pieces and certainly wouldn't be without them now and they are told that every day.

Kirsten

The first three months are hellish. I can remember thinking, 'Oh God, I'll never cope!' after having my first. It's bloody hard work.

I have 3 girls and 'number 3' was sooooooo much easier. Perhaps it's because my life was utter chaos, so I didn't really notice the change. Congratulations, when are you due?

 

[Zeebs]

The first three months are hellish. I can remember thinking, 'Oh God, I'll never cope!' after having my first. It's bloody hard work.

I have 3 girls and 'number 3' was sooooooo much easier. Perhaps it's because my life was utter chaos, so I didn't really notice the change. Congratulations, when are you due?

Due June 5th, but if we follow form of the other two it will be late May. We find out next week (if baby is being good) what the sex will be. That always makes it a bit more real for me.

The second was quite a bit easier than the first, just because you know a bit more to expect and you don't read all those useless books and think you are failing as the baby for some reason wants to feed more than every three hours.

Should have listened to my Mum when she said throw those books out.

Kirsten

 

[joolz1910]

Due June 5th, but if we follow form of the other two it will be late May. We find out next week (if baby is being good) what the sex will be. That always makes it a bit more real for me.

The second was quite a bit easier than the first, just because you know a bit more to expect and you don't read all those useless books and think you are failing as the baby for some reason wants to feed more than every three hours.

Should have listened to my Mum when she said throw those books out.

Kirsten

My first two were early, third one was late! I didn't find out the sex of number 3 because it really annoyed me that people assumed that we wanted a boy. When I told people I was having a girl with number 2, they said, 'You'll have to have another then.'

It's so much easier 3rd time. My 3rd is like Maggie from The Simpsons. She definitely rules the roost!

 

[Zeebs]

My first two were early, third one was late! I didn't find out the sex of number 3 because it really annoyed me that people assumed that we wanted a boy. When I told people I was having a girl with number 2, they said, 'You'll have to have another then.'

It's so much easier 3rd time. My 3rd is like Maggie from The Simpsons. She definitely rules the roost!

Funny you say that as this pregnancy is totally different from the first two, the other two were quite similar, this one I wouldn't at 20 even know I am pregnant. With my first two they were worried they were too big and this one too small. ???? So it will be interesting to see when he or she does arrive.

I will be the first to admit that I will be a bit disappointed if the next one isn't a girl but we aren't having another to get a girl but because we always wanted three, but I thought I would hate to feel that disappointment at birth at least if we find out I will be prepared.

Have way more boys names though picked out can't find any girls ones I like. My boys are beautiful so another one will be too but there will always be a bit of longing if it isn't a girl.

And then you feel terrible when there are so many people who are struggling to get pregnant.

Blimey there is my life story for everyone to read.

Kirsten

 

[joolz1910]

Funny you say that as this pregnancy is totally different from the first two, the other two were quite similar, this one I wouldn't at 20 even know I am pregnant. With my first two they were worried they were too big and this one too small. ???? So it will be interesting to see when he or she does arrive.

I will be the first to admit that I will be a bit disappointed if the next one isn't a girl but we aren't having another to get a girl but because we always wanted three, but I thought I would hate to feel that disappointment at birth at least if we find out I will be prepared.

Have way more boys names though picked out can't find any girls ones I like. My boys are beautiful so another one will be too but there will always be a bit of longing if it isn't a girl.

And then you feel terrible when there are so many people who are struggling to get pregnant.

Blimey there is my life story for everyone to read.

Kirsten

I was fully expecting number 3 to be another girl, so I would have been thrown by a boy! I am resigned to waiting for a grandson in later life now. Boys names are easier to pick than girls. I had my boy's name right from pregnancy number 1! The only thing that bothered me about having 3 girls was other people's attitudes - some were disappointed for me and didn't even hide it!

I was told during each pregnancy to expect a very big baby. The weights were: 6.15, 7.7 and 7.9. 8 days early, 3 days early and 8 days late. Each labour was easier than the last. I can totally understand why some women go on to have 4, 5 or even 6 kids.

 

[orlandothebeagle]

I am the mother of two small boys and with another child on the way. I don't like babies much either. They reach about 4 months and I get that hit of love that everyone talks about and then at about 8 months I acutally start to like them.

I know I am not the only one in the world who doesn't feel that rush of love from the very first minute but it is a little talked about thing. So of course you feel so guilty.

I hope the next will be different it was a little better with my second, I just figure I am one of these people who has to get to know the wee person before I fall in love.

Crap now that I put it in writing I feel worse.

Just to clarify I love my boys to pieces and certainly wouldn't be without them now and they are told that every day.

Kirsten

Kirsten....honey you OBVIOUSLY love your boys..... and you make me so happy that mums loves there kiddywinkles as much as you obviously do wonder if you will have a boy or girl next?

 

[Ware Bears]

What an interesting thread

I love my three DDs and each one was very much planned and wanted but I have never experienced broody feelings for babies. Now .... puppies, especially Sheltie puppies .... and that's a totally different story!!

I never feel the urge to cuddle other people's babies (except my own, I never wanted to put my own down and could have sat cuddling them all day) and if I do, it's only out of politeness because they expect you to, but offer me a puppy to cuddle and I'm in heaven!!

 

[Lizzybear]

My mum didn't bond with me straight away. She had a very difficult birth: All natural with me being 11lb 4oz with a very large head, and she's only petite lady! It was the same with my sister who was also very large at birth, and conceived after my mum being told she wouldn't be able to get pregnant again (the doctor didn't believe her until he confirmed it ) I think it's sad that mothers are made to feel inferior if they don't bond with their baby immediately, the situations of conception/birth/family life/whatever can be so different.

 

[Alibaba]

Hiya All

I have never posted on this board before, just on the trip planning part, but just to put my little bit in.

I was never broody until i was told i couldn't have children i was 26, and then i realised how i couldn't picture my future without them. So we immediatly looked into adoption, and it was seriously the best thing that ever happened to us. We have an adorable 2 and a half year old, he has been home since he was 14 months, and was the perfect age, we missed out on all the gripey tummies etc, but got a beautiful little boy who slept through from 7.30 til 8.30 in the morning, we saw him take his first steps (in a villa at windsor hills incidently) daddy was his first word.

The last 16 months have been magical, i am now 29 and perfectly happy with my 2 men.

After all that, think i just wanted to say, if anyone finds themselves in my situation do not dispair. we did not even contenplate IVF (think there is alot of pressure to try) And we both cannot believe the maternal/paternal instincts that came the minute we met him..
and 16 months on i know that what i feel for him would be no different to how i feel if i carried him myself. i don't feel as if i "missed out"

And would not change our situation for the world, so anyone who is having problems, never fear.

Ali

 

[torsie24]

Awww, what a lovely story Ali.

Jack and I say if we can concieve we'll adopt rather than going through IVF. It's lovely to hear you are so happy. Adoption is a wondeful thing.

My dad's business partner adopted a little girl, she was about 3 months when they brought her home, and she had a lot of problems as her biological parents were drug addicts so she had to be weaned off heroin and cocaine when born. Although she had a rought start in life she is so wonderful, and such a happy and beautiful little girl (she's almost 8 now) - people who don't know she's adopted even say how much she looks like her mum and dad! (And she really does, it must be their love reflected in her.)

 

[Alibaba]

Oh wonderful, that sounds very similar to DS's start in life, but now he is a bright, healthy happy little chappy, and people say all the time that he looks like our nephews.

And don't worry about looking at buggy's etc, when we first applied, not even been approved or anything i obsessed with the mothercare and mama's and papa's websites, showing DH this wallpaper or that pushchair. But i just couldn't help it (am now doing his head in, obessing about a hol 9 months away)

Take Care and embrace your broodiness haha
Ali

 

[joolz1910]

Hiya All

I have never posted on this board before, just on the trip planning part, but just to put my little bit in.

I was never broody until i was told i couldn't have children i was 26, and then i realised how i couldn't picture my future without them. So we immediatly looked into adoption, and it was seriously the best thing that ever happened to us. We have an adorable 2 and a half year old, he has been home since he was 14 months, and was the perfect age, we missed out on all the gripey tummies etc, but got a beautiful little boy who slept through from 7.30 til 8.30 in the morning, we saw him take his first steps (in a villa at windsor hills incidently) daddy was his first word.

The last 16 months have been magical, i am now 29 and perfectly happy with my 2 men.

After all that, think i just wanted to say, if anyone finds themselves in my situation do not dispair. we did not even contenplate IVF (think there is alot of pressure to try) And we both cannot believe the maternal/paternal instincts that came the minute we met him..
and 16 months on i know that what i feel for him would be no different to how i feel if i carried him myself. i don't feel as if i "missed out"

And would not change our situation for the world, so anyone who is having problems, never fear.

Ali

What a lovely story. Your son is very lucky to have found such loving parents.

 

[PoppyAnna]

Hiya All

I have never posted on this board before, just on the trip planning part, but just to put my little bit in.

I was never broody until i was told i couldn't have children i was 26, and then i realised how i couldn't picture my future without them. So we immediatly looked into adoption, and it was seriously the best thing that ever happened to us. We have an adorable 2 and a half year old, he has been home since he was 14 months, and was the perfect age, we missed out on all the gripey tummies etc, but got a beautiful little boy who slept through from 7.30 til 8.30 in the morning, we saw him take his first steps (in a villa at windsor hills incidently) daddy was his first word.

The last 16 months have been magical, i am now 29 and perfectly happy with my 2 men.

After all that, think i just wanted to say, if anyone finds themselves in my situation do not dispair. we did not even contenplate IVF (think there is alot of pressure to try) And we both cannot believe the maternal/paternal instincts that came the minute we met him..
and 16 months on i know that what i feel for him would be no different to how i feel if i carried him myself. i don't feel as if i "missed out"

And would not change our situation for the world, so anyone who is having problems, never fear.

Ali