Broken engagement

[tiggerlover]

A male friend of my husband and I has been having a rough time with his fiancee. Well I guess last night things all came to a head and they have broken the engagement and relationship off. Our friend is a little blue, but blowing it off like "that's life." I have never been in a situation like this with a guy friend and wondered if there is anything I can do to help or if I should just let things be and not talk about it.

Advice?

 

[Microcell]

When my friend broke off her engagement I just told her I was proud of her for realizing early enough to get out. Of course it happened right after the creep hit her for the first and last time!

 

[EsmeraldaX]

I would just let him know you are there for him if he wants to vent/talk.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

Originally posted by Microcell
When my friend broke off her engagement I just told her I was proud of her for realizing early enough to get out. Of course it happened right after the creep hit her for the first and last time!

Good for her. I wanted so badly to break off an engagement once to a man who was abusive. I was afraid of how my family would react since they'd spent so much $$$ on a wedding already and it was a very short engagement. Well 3 weeks later, this creepy guy hit me and I was out as fast as I could. Cost me a pretty penny to rid myself of him, but well worth it.

 

[coliebird]

Just don't say anything negative about her to him in case they get back together. He will remember the things you said about her.

 

[2bemarried]

Originally posted by coliebird
Just don't say anything negative about her to him in case they get back together. He will remember the things you said about her.

 

[caitycaity]

Originally posted by coliebird
Just don't say anything negative about her to him in case they get back together. He will remember the things you said about her.

ITA with this. friends of ours broke their engagement about 3 times before they finally got married last month.

 

[tiggerlover]

Originally posted by coliebird
Just don't say anything negative about her to him in case they get back together. He will remember the things you said about her.

Thanks, but we don't know her, so we don't have anything negative to say.

 

[mep319]

Originally posted by tiggerlover
A male friend of my husband and I has been having a rough time with his fiancee. Well I guess last night things all came to a head and they have broken the engagement and relationship off. Our friend is a little blue, but blowing it off like "that's life." I have never been in a situation like this with a guy friend and wondered if there is anything I can do to help or if I should just let things be and not talk about it.

Advice?

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I broke an engagement off once...or I should say "we." I found the toughest part was in dealing with the friends. They didn't want to invite one us over if the other would be there etc... etc. I was away at my senior year at college and found myself staying at school more to avoid the ackwardness. We didn't have a bad break, it just wasn't "right" and we were a bit too young. I found he had a tougher time w/ it than I did though. The funny thing is I actually ended up changing my circle of friends for the most part....stayed w/ my college friends. I actually haven't kept in touch w/ many of my hs friends..and I guess the broken engagement is why...so what I'm trying to say is just be supportive and if they both run w/ the same group of friends try not make time for both of them and not make it ackward!

 

[Princess_Aurora]

Tell your husband to take him out to a strip club and have a few beers

One of my DH's friends was in that exact same situation. They broke off their engagment, but I think theirs was a pretty clean break. They were both just fine about it...like they both knew it wasn't really meant to be. DH went with him to a strip club and they had a good ol' time and he met a couple of girls. Don't know if this theory works for everyone though...but it's worth a try.