Bridesmaid/family frustration (rant)

[buf68]

So ya, i'm getting married offsite, but i really needed to rant somewhere. DF and his family got into a little tiff (they thought he changed a password on his younger sister's myspace account and sent an email as her to her bf etc.). So ya, I had asked both of his sisters to be in my wedding. And after this little tiff his youngest sister (17) said she won't be in the wedding. On top of that, his younger brother got upset at all the drama and said he wasn't going to be in it. Now, i'm down one BM and one GM, which doesn't seem like much of a problem. But what upsets me is that i asked his sisters not because they were his sisters ya know? I asked them to be my BMs because they treated me like a sister from the beginning and because i wanted to honor them as such. And now she basically disrespected me because she was mad at her brother and threatened MY big day. It's like omg, i could have picked ANYONE of my friends in the world and i asked her, and now she does this to me. I just don't get it. I'm sure she'll come around eventually, but there's only 2 months to go and I really want just everything to be perfect ya know? I don't need this drama

 

[ItGirl753]

buf68,

I'm sorry to hear that. As a 17 year old myself, I fought with my sister and called her some names at the rehearsal dinner but never would have refused to be in the wedding. Teenagers are like that. I was very emotional. Hopefully she and the younger brother will get over it and work it out with your DF.

Have you told the girls how much they mean to you and that it's not just because they're the groom's sisters? Have you let the younger siblings know that even though they are mad at him, this is hurting you and stressing you out? Maybe the one sis can talk to the other too? Good luck on your special day!

Here's some pixie dust for you.

 

[CJLKIM]

You are 100% right....you don't need this drama. You are under enough stress.

I agree with ItGirl, try talking to her and let her know how much she means to you and explain that you really want her a part of your day. Explain to her that you don't have much time and you have to get on with your plans so you truly need to know one way or the other. Set a deadline and then give her space to think it out. After that, as hard as it is, you'll have to move forward with our plans....with or without the siblings.

I'm going through basically the same thing....my bridal party has changed multiple times because of family issues....I finally had to cut my losses and move on....It's my day....just like it's your day and you deserve the best.

Best of luck...I really hope it works out the way you want it to. In either case, I'm sure your wedding will be beautiful and something you'll always cherish.