Bridal Registry/Shower?

[luvmarypoppins]

I have been invited to a bridal shower This shower will be at our church.
I dont believe anyone going to this shower is actually even invited to the wedding.

The girl has already had a bridal shower with family etc.

She is registered with 2 places. I looked online and it seems most all items are taken care of. (We all just got the invitation yest.). Some items are close to $100 each that are "not fulfilled". A few acceptable items in my price range say out of stock etc, .

Would it be appropriate to just give "cash" in an envelope. Does that seem tacky?

 

[onelilspark]

I've given gift cards before. I don't think it's tacky.

 

[Rora]

Give a nice card and some cash within your budget or a giftcard.

Not tacky at all, and as a recent bride, trust me, it will be appreciated!

 

[dizzy99]

I think its tacky to invite people to a shower but not invite them to the wedding.

I've never heard of that before!!

But to answer your question, gift cards are wonderful gifts.

 

[okeydokey]

I think its tacky to invite people to a shower but not invite them to the wedding.

I've never heard of that before!!

But to answer your question, gift cards are wonderful gifts.

I agree. You could just decline the tacky invitation.

 

[powellrj]

Its not uncommon to be invited to a shower of someone at church and not be invited to the wedding. I know I am in several ladies groups at church and many times the ladies will have a shower for the child of one of the moms in my group even if none of us is invited to the wedding.

I would give a gift card to one of the places she is registered at.

 

[klacey1]

I would give a gift card to one of the places she is registered at.

She can put it towards the items she does not receive off her registry.

 

[LuLuO]

I think its tacky to invite people to a shower but not invite them to the wedding.

I've never heard of that before!!

But to answer your question, gift cards are wonderful gifts.

 

[C.Ann]

Hmmm.. Quite frankly, I have never, ever heard of someone being invited to a bridal shower - but not the wedding - so I'm puzzled on this one.. I assume it must be considered rude, because in all of my 61 years, this is the first I have heard of it..

If you want to go, I guess I would give cash in an envelope.. Whatever you can afford and/or feel comfortable giving..

Odd...

 

[horseshowmom]

I have been invited to a bridal shower This shower will be at our church.
I dont believe anyone going to this shower is actually even invited to the wedding.

The girl has already had a bridal shower with family etc.

She is registered with 2 places. I looked online and it seems most all items are taken care of. (We all just got the invitation yest.). Some items are close to $100 each that are "not fulfilled". A few acceptable items in my price range say out of stock etc, .

Would it be appropriate to just give "cash" in an envelope. Does that seem tacky?

I've given gift cards before. I don't think it's tacky.

Give a nice card and some cash within your budget or a giftcard.

Not tacky at all, and as a recent bride, trust me, it will be appreciated!

My daughter was married last year. She got a lot of gift cards (and some cash gifts as well), and they were thrilled. It helped out with so many things that they didn't get. For example, they used some of the Walmart gift cards when they shopped for groceries the first time (completely stocking a kitchen for the first time is expensive!). They also used them to buy things that you don't usually get at showers (like a Weedeater, water hoses, etc. for yard work! ).

 

[Kirby]

My daughter was married last year. She got a lot of gift cards (and some cash gifts as well), and they were thrilled. It helped out with so many things that they didn't get. For example, they used some of the Walmart gift cards when they shopped for groceries the first time (completely stocking a kitchen for the first time is expensive!). They also used them to buy things that you don't usually get at showers (like a Weedeater, water hoses, etc. for yard work! ).

Or you could give those items like a laundry basket filled with detergents, dryer sheets, etc. Maybe a basket filled with different spices. A garbage can with a water hose, plastic leaf bags, rake, etc. A laundry basket filled with canned goods, boxed food, etc. There are many things to give that's not on the list.

We gave a friend of my husbands a trash can with water hoses. He told my DH that at first he thought it a little strange but ended up being the best gift they received.

Last year I gave my nephew and his wife a wooden fruit bowl filled with kitchen utensils. I decoratively arranged the items with a dish towel lining the bowl and it went over real well. People kept asking me where I bought the set.

As far as being invited to the shower and not the wedding, we belong to a big church, over 800 members. They are all the time giving wedding showers and not inviting everyone to the wedding. Of course, they give a blanket invitation in the bulletin for anyone to come to the shower. I think that only time I've seen a blanket invitation to a wedding was when the minister's daughter got married and we didn't go so I don't know how many people showed up for that.

 

[DMRick]

I agree. I've been to several church showers (and our church held one for each of my daughters and dil) without being invited to the weddings (some I was, some I wasn't). I had no control over who was invited or who came to the church showers, as the invites were in the bulletin, and some sent out to people who knew my children but no longer attended the church. I didn't arrange them or do the invites. We are very active in our church and that's just what they do.

If someone was uncomfortable with coming, they just wouldn't rsvp they were coming. On occasion I haven't attended. It's not a forced thing. Go if you want, don't if you don't want to. I've never considered it tacky.

I also can usually tell colors by registry's, so I'm usually always able to buy a nice towel set, if there isn't anything I want or feel I can afford on the registry. Gift cards are always welcome. I don't ever give cash, but have given gift cards to stores.

Its not uncommon to be invited to a shower of someone at church and not be invited to the wedding. I know I am in several ladies groups at church and many times the ladies will have a shower for the child of one of the moms in my group even if none of us is invited to the wedding.

I would give a gift card to one of the places she is registered at.

 

[minniebeth]

Definately stay within your comfort/budget zone. Like others have said, I think cash and gift cards are perfectly fine and appreciated. My niece got married this past summer and one of the things they asked the guests to give was a favorite recipe to put in a recipe book they gave her. Since I attended with my 2 DDs, we gave 3 recipes and gave her the spices/pantry ingredients to go with them. She loved it!

I also love Kirby's idea of putting together every day needed things like laundry soap, etc. in a basket.

Enjoy your time at the shower!

 

[C.Ann]

Or you could give those items like a laundry basket filled with detergents, dryer sheets, etc. Maybe a basket filled with different spices. A garbage can with a water hose, plastic leaf bags, rake, etc. A laundry basket filled with canned goods, boxed food, etc. There are many things to give that's not on the list..

I like all of these suggestions - if OP chooses to go.. Those things really add up when you first set up housekeeping! Great ideas!!