Bragging on Facebook

[tlbwriter]

Of course, I was just bragging on Facebook today that we went to see Super 8 this morning. I know all my friends will be jealous but I just had to share my glamourous life, you know?

Show off!!!

I don't use Facebook, but I read Failbook religiously so I've seen a lot of things. And occasionally my husband will show me something interesting or stupid (or both) on FB. Some of the most annoying are my little teenage nieces who will post things to their boyfriends... blech. "I feel so safe in your arms! You are my life!" You know what? You're 14 years old, and this is just not right.

At the moment I have two friends(not connected) going thru a divorce and yep you guessed it playing it out on FB.....sweet Jesus, mary mother of god these peeps are telling stuff that nobody needs to know, its sad BUT strangly entertaining as just a year or so ago they were the ones who..."have the best life ever, I love my hubby, are kids are perfect"....yada, yada, yada day in and day out, so now There life isnt so great, there is NO love loss between them and there kids are heathens I guess!!

This isn't just a Facebook thing. I can think of at least two blogs I've followed that had the same pattern - a constant stream of "Oh, I love him so much, he's so fantastic, blah blah blah"... and then one day "Oh, we're getting a divorce, the past year has been SO miserable, blah blah blah..."

Nobody would think it strange if said person was relaxing on the deck and reading a book. Why is relaxing on the deck and playing on FB any different from that?

Exactly. If I were relaxing on the deck with a glass of wine, I might whip out my iPhone to play a round of Words With Friends, catch up on my email, etc. Why is checking/updating Facebook different? Why would you tell someone their method of relaxation was not appropriate?

 

[IdesOmarch]

Only yet another in a long list of reasons I don't Facebook, tweet, myspace, total yawn to me. (Not that there's anything wrong with that.) In all honesty if I were totally on the prowl I might consider it, just to connect with old friends, but right now, I have zero interest.

I can't fathom why some people think that others are interested in their day to day minutia of a routine. "I'm taking a shower now and I noticed I have a pimple on my.....does anyone think I should pop it, or just let it die a slow death." Really? You really posted that?

I have friends that do use it a lot. I hear things about the whole Facebook language. "She be-friended me, then un-friended me, then friended me again, and I'm so confused." Really? Then there is the person that posts things about "I'm thinking of wearing XYZ, what does everyone think?" Then when no one responds, they get upset. "Why are all my friends ignoring me." (This really happened with one of my friends wives.)

I already screen my phone calls and emails, why do I need another media to screen? What is my motivation here?

 

[snapppyd]

For me FB is a way of keeping up with relatives. We don't get together very often so I love it when my nieces post pictures of their kids parties, etc.

I have only 68 friends on FB, I try to keep it to people I really like/care about. I post pics just so they can see what's going on in my life, they don't have to look at them if they don't want to.

I don't post much on my wall, because right now I honestly am leading a very boring life. I don't mind, but it doesn't give me much to talk about.

 

[Missy1961]

Post whatever you want. If other people don't like it, then too bad. I know I'm not going to worry if anything I post bothers people or not. If they don't want to read it, then defriend me. No skin off my teeth if they're that petty about such things.

I've got to make that my attitude! See, I was posting 2 countdowns: one to my birthday & another to my vacation at WDW. (I was excited about both). Well, one of my friends got annoyed & kept remarking about the 'stupid' countdown. I tried ignoring the comments. but I have to admit to thinking that maybe the countdowns are stupid, so I stopped. But maybe I'll just say the heck with him & continue.

 

[Missy1961]

For me FB is a way of keeping up with relatives. We don't get together very often so I love it when my nieces post pictures of their kids parties, etc.

I have only 68 friends on FB, I try to keep it to people I really like/care about. I post pics just so they can see what's going on in my life, they don't have to look at them if they don't want to.

I don't post much on my wall, because right now I honestly am leading a very boring life. I don't mind, but it doesn't give me much to talk about.

We'll be boring together!

 

[SC Minnie]

I know one couple that does this and when DH told me they were having issues I was surprised because they are always so lovey dovey on FB (Examples - Oh baby I am so proud of you, you are the most amazing man ever / Hey that new pic of you is sexy). Lesson learned.

I was friends with a couple that the H would say stuff like this on FB to his wife all the time-- several times a week. Come to find out he was cheating on her with several women (most were on FB too) and ended up leaving. Their divorce was final last week.

 

[4forMe]

I've learned not to believe most of what I read on FB. I know someone who is always bragging about what a wonderful DH she has on her FB page, yet she's been having an affair for over 2 years. I know another person that has two separate FB accounts set up as she is pretty much leading a double life.

 

[snapppyd]

I've got to make that my attitude! See, I was posting 2 countdowns: one to my birthday & another to my vacation at WDW. (I was excited about both). Well, one of my friends got annoyed & kept remarking about the 'stupid' countdown. I tried ignoring the comments. but I have to admit to thinking that maybe the countdowns are stupid, so I stopped. But maybe I'll just say the heck with him & continue.

I think you should do whatever makes you happy! If he doesn't like it, let him block you. I am so tired of worrying about what other people think. I never knew I was being judged so much until I came to the Dis and saw how people analyze everything other people do on vacation.

 

[phorsenuf]

I think you should do whatever makes you happy! If he doesn't like it, let him block you. I am so tired of worrying about what other people think. I never knew I was being judged so much until I came to the Dis and saw how people analyze everything other people do on vacation.

 

[Missy1961]

I think you should do whatever makes you happy! If he doesn't like it, let him block you. I am so tired of worrying about what other people think. I never knew I was being judged so much until I came to the Dis and saw how people analyze everything other people do on vacation.

OK, I'm going to Facebook right now....

 

[mommasita]

I think you should do whatever makes you happy! If he doesn't like it, let him block you. I am so tired of worrying about what other people think. I never knew I was being judged so much until I came to the Dis and saw how people analyze everything other people do on vacation.

and analyze daily life too

 

[SiAmCrAzY]

I read an article not to long ago on yahoo about how much Divorce/custody attorneys/cops LOVE face book! It is a digital confessional for most people and it proves their case for them.

I am not bothered by much on FB- I have around 240 "friends" so i never see every post in my feed it fills to fast lol. I block ALL of the game, horoscope, quiz type posts. I stalk my real friends pages to keep up with them. The people who brag on FB do not bother me- I think it is silly but to each there own. It makes me think of Brad Paisley's song "Online"

There are a few people I find mildly annoying and I feel guilty for complaining about it lol

The "Poor me" crowd- everyone has ups and down, and everyone posts about them, but if it is all you ever talk about it gets annoying. I have blocked several of these people from my feed to keep out the constant "why does everything bad happen to me" crap but they always make comments like "must be nice" "wish I had money" on pictures or status updates. I am not talking about those who are haveing a bad day, or those to whome something truly terrible has happened. I am talking about the people who complain 24/7 and no matter how much you try and help them they are to addicted to the misery to ever let themselves be happy. If i was bragging I would understand, but when my husband (who I had not seen for 4 months) and I got to go on a date night to a movie I posted it in my status update and got "must be nice to have money" from one girl Seriously? It was a movie-we were not renting a private yacht, although that would have been pretty sweet This is the same girl who's status update goes from engaged to single to widowed (not really) on a regular basis. One day she is up and life is perfect! Then 3 hours later she is down and her life is crap, and it is all someone elses fault. After reviewing the status updates of several of my family members I am more convinced than ever that FB would be an excellent early detection tool for Bi-polar.

The people who post half naked pictures of signifigant others. While sexy and beautifull to you, they not what I want to see when I log in to FB. EVER. It doesn't mater how many pretty graphics you post around them or where exactly you write the "I love you" and the hearts. Once ok. Maybe twice but like 5 times a day every day? WTH? I am sure they are perfectly nice people, and am happy they found the love of their life but I don't need to see him shirtless and smileing at me every time I log in. It's kinda creepy. Seriously.

People who OVER share. I know everyone has differant boundries and while I personally chose not to share everything on FB some of my "friends" have a completely differant approach. I have seen status updates announceing cheating, DUI's 1st 2nd and 3rd- Ect, OWI's and worse. One FB relative of mine likes to annouce the felony, or drug conviction and subsequent jail/prison sentence of whichever dead beat loser she is letting shack up with her and her children.

People who post comments under completely unrelated status updates, or wall posts, instead of sending a PM or starting a new wall post. My MIL, bless her heart is a repeat offender at this. It was mildly annoying before but now that I have FB on my phone, and comments on my status get sent to me like text messages it can be quite hillarious! There will be a bunch of comments that make sense and one from her that is completely out of left field. It does not matter how many times you tell her, she still does it her way
She also likes to Tag herself in pictures of my husband, while this does not bother me it drives him insane because she then posts them as her profile picture. He is 33, And has 2 siblings who have never been featured in her profile photo. He is the only man I know that is embarrassed to be Mom's favorite

 

[snapppyd]

Wow, after reading some of the stuff here I realize most of my friends are as boring as me, thank goodness!

 

[MamaJessie]

I think you should do whatever makes you happy! If he doesn't like it, let him block you. I am so tired of worrying about what other people think. I never knew I was being judged so much until I came to the Dis and saw how people analyze everything other people do on vacation.

No joke. I never knew all the many things people were judging others for every second of every day. I can't even imagine how many people I have irked without ever realizing it. Oh well

And pp I hope you put your countdowns back up if they make you happy

 

[disneylovin24]

Haven't had time to read through whole thread yet but I am looking forward to doing so, it should be very interesting.


I don't have any stories about people bragging and then getting divorced or arested. But, my uncle is a facebookaholic and he posts EVERYTHING. The man has at least 10 mobile upload photo albumes. And him and his wife are constantly going on about how great their daughter is.

 

[powellrj]

Wow, after reading some of the stuff here I realize most of my friends are as boring as me, thank goodness!

Me too!

 

[MELSMICE]

So, has anyone ever put "friends" on ignore on FB. I've done it to 2 or 3 people. I was so sick of their posts.

One girl............was waiting for Prince Charming & every date she had was "the one" until a few weeks later when things fell apart.

Next one..........engaged to be married to the most wonderful guy in the world....until they argued & she "could do nothing right & she obviously wasn't good enough". Then he was "just the best", blah, blah, blah. They got married a few months ago.

I think there was one more.

We're still "friends" but I don't see their statuses any more.

 

[need2cruise]

This isn't a facebook brag, but it's one that annoys me. I have thought about deleting her, but it's like watching a talk show and waiting for the train wreck to happen!

Anyway, this chick has 4 kids, all under the age of 5. Her and hubby are on welfare and he won't work full time so they do not lose their benefits. She obviously does not work. Their house is paid for, food, etc. His part time job helps pay for diapers, gas and their smokes.

So--her posts are always detailing out her day--"I cleaned house, fed kids, bathed kids, got dinner ready, laundry done..all by 4pm....now time to relax. I don't get why people think this is impossible?" UM??? Hello........you don't work, your hubby works part time....I would hope you would at the very least keep house!! Try doing all that while working 50 hrs a week and shuffling kids to activities outside the home, helping with homework, cleaning your own house, cooking, etc all the while going to school yourself full time........THEN get on FB and brag about how much you have accomplished!

Another of my favorite posts by her...."We have $5 left to our name. Should we buy a last pack of smokes to deal with the stress, gas to be able to drive to someones house to borrow money or diapers since the baby only has 3 left. I could definately use some help."

She is always posting wanting favors, free clothes for the kids, money, etc. Like I said, it's a train wreck but sometimes--just seeing her posts do make me more thankful for what I have.

I do post to my husbands facebook some links to songs with an I love you. However, we do not see each other at all Mon-Friday due to our work schedules and while I can sometimes make a call during the day to touch base, his job is not one where he has free time to make a lot of calls. So it's nice to send (and recieve on my end), a song that we heard that made us think of one another. I guess I never thought that others would view it like we were bragging. After 8 years we are still like we were during the first month and don't really care what others think--we love each other and will use whatever communication we can to show it!

 

[snapppyd]

and analyze daily life too

And NO ONE on the Dis, or their children, has EVER peed in a pool!

 

[MELSMICE]

This isn't a facebook brag, but it's one that annoys me. I have thought about deleting her, but it's like watching a talk show and waiting for the train wreck to happen!

Anyway, this chick has 4 kids, all under the age of 5. Her and hubby are on welfare and he won't work full time so they do not lose their benefits. She obviously does not work. Their house is paid for, food, etc. His part time job helps pay for diapers, gas and their smokes.

So--her posts are always detailing out her day--"I cleaned house, fed kids, bathed kids, got dinner ready, laundry done..all by 4pm....now time to relax. I don't get why people think this is impossible?" UM??? Hello........you don't work, your hubby works part time....I would hope you would at the very least keep house!! Try doing all that while working 50 hrs a week and shuffling kids to activities outside the home, helping with homework, cleaning your own house, cooking, etc all the while going to school yourself full time........THEN get on FB and brag about how much you have accomplished!

Another of my favorite posts by her...."We have $5 left to our name. Should we buy a last pack of smokes to deal with the stress, gas to be able to drive to someones house to borrow money or diapers since the baby only has 3 left. I could definately use some help."

She is always posting wanting favors, free clothes for the kids, money, etc. Like I said, it's a train wreck but sometimes--just seeing her posts do make me more thankful for what I have.

I do post to my husbands facebook some links to songs with an I love you. However, we do not see each other at all Mon-Friday due to our work schedules and while I can sometimes make a call during the day to touch base, his job is not one where he has free time to make a lot of calls. So it's nice to send (and recieve on my end), a song that we heard that made us think of one another. I guess I never thought that others would view it like we were bragging. After 8 years we are still like we were during the first month and don't really care what others think--we love each other and will use whatever communication we can to show it!

Maybe your friend should cancel her internet & then she'd be able to get her smokes or whatever else she needs.