Bragging on Facebook

[disykat]

My husband's family posts often. Apparently, yesterday at their house was super terrific fabulous, but today is the worst day ever and one of them feels like passing out. I wonder what tomorrow will bring?

Never any details, always very vague....but too much information to give no information - if that makes sense.

I actually have had lots of highs (my son graduated) and lows (last day of work) and DID pass out in the last week, and none of them made facebook. (Though I admit I did add a graduation picture to my facebook album.) If I had posted them, I would have actually told what happened instead of just alluding to it and then coyly refusing to tell.

 

[sissy_ib]

I have one who goes back and forth between the "My life is so perfect" and "poor me, I have pain, people hate me, I try so hard no one cares, blah, blah, tears, blah". It is actually my aunt. One of her boys is 12 now and when he was a little younger he had lung/breathing problems. (not at ALL related to her and my uncle smoking in the house and in the cars with the kids )
Anyhow during the winter she keep posting about how sick he was and how he had bronchitis twice. Well I talked to my grandmother who they live with and the kid is fine! Hasn't been sick at all and is no longer on any medication! WHY LIE ABOUT YOUR KID BEING SICK!

My DFH has a facebook but never uses it. He hates that people he hardly remembers or he did not get along with in high school and collage sudenly want to be "friends". He says just what we are all saying, FB just screams "look at me!" lol

 

[bellebud]

for the very short time I had a facebook acct, all I would read from people was "enjoying a glass of wine while relaxing on the deck"... "enjoying a quality, lazy day w/ the kids and hubby" (ummm, no you're not, you're glued to your computer posting on facebook about how your life is *perfect*)... I canceled my account after a very short time - I couldn't stand it. I'm too private to post my own daily happenings, and really, who gives a poopie what I'm doing on Sunday?

I honestly don't get it.

 

[avgeek81]

PS - Please don't announce that you are 5 weeks pregnant to your 1200 Facebook friends. If I had a dollar for every miscarriage that gets announced on FB shortly after a thousand-and-one congratulations posts, I'd be typing on a much nicer computer. \

My friend is 8 weeks pregnant and she has only told a few family members and close friends. Whenever she tells someone she says they havent told everyone and they are trying to keep it on the DL. But she is so afraid that it is gonna end up on FB.

I try not to brag on FB but some of my friends up north would get mad at me when i post im going to Disney for the day or i was goingto the beach in the middle of January when they had 2 ft of snow

 

[declansdad]

The occasional pat on the back posts don't bother me but when EVERY post is about how wonderful your kids are and how they are the "best" at everything they do, it gets old--especially when you know their "success" isn't all that big of an accomplishment.

I think we call all find posters right here on the Dis that do this.

 

[Rora]

Facebook is like one continuous Christmas letter.

Isn't that the truth! I'm about ready to deactivate mine again.

 

[Hollywoodhaha]

I had a friend who went through boyfriends so often..these were her posts within like a week:

-single forever! who needs a man?! working on me, now!
next day
-omg! I LOVE -insert name here- FOREVER! HE IS MY LIFE!
that night [literally happened before]
-I just cant make anyone happy can i? i just cant be loved!!
next morning
-he is the best ever, i love him so much! he understands me and we will be TOGETHER FOREVER!
they break up the next day, repeat process.

I really don't need to know every detail of your relationship.

 

[MichelleVW]

What about the people on the opposite end of the spectrum, who post things like "I'm having a hard day", or "why do these things always happen to me?" with the express purposeof garnering sympathy from their FB friends.

ugh...my sister is like that...drives me nuts. I just ignore it.

Sometimes I read the facebook posts of friends or people I knew in HS and think how come their life is so great and when sometimes I feel I cannot hold it all together. Then I have to remind myself that most of what they post is not true. Facebook is just like a HS yearbook where everyone writes what is so great about the other person.

One Christmas we got a letter from friends we have known since HS who talked about how their life was so great, their kids were so handsome, and generally portrayed themselves as this cute rich, perfect, preppy family. Flash forward and one son was kicked out of a prestigious private school for bad behavior, another son is gay, and the husband has been cheating on his wife again (something he did since he started dating his wife).

Note: I have nothing against anyone who is gay, many of my friends are gay, and if one of my children is gay, it does not matter. It is just that for them "gay" is not perfect. To me it almost funny that they have become everything they curled their lips up at.

Today I would like to post the following on facebook:

I am married to a man who is driving me crazy, won't get up and mow the law, I have two kids who are killing each other and all I want to do is go to bed and drink!

All in all, I love my crazy, dysfunctional, insane, busy life!

Lol...I would totally put that on my facebook.

for the very short time I had a facebook acct, all I would read from people was "enjoying a glass of wine while relaxing on the deck"... "enjoying a quality, lazy day w/ the kids and hubby" (ummm, no you're not, you're glued to your computer posting on facebook about how your life is *perfect*)... I canceled my account after a very short time - I couldn't stand it. I'm too private to post my own daily happenings, and really, who gives a poopie what I'm doing on Sunday?

I honestly don't get it.

Uh....no, if you're on the deck you are quickly posting from your smart phone and then putting it down to enjoy the wine!

 

[golfgal]

I have one of those fb friends. Her kids are perfect, her MIL is an angel and the world's best babysitter, her husband is amazing, she's always having "the best time EVER" with "the most amazing friends!" Last week, she went on and on about how her dd was in her first "production", and raved at her acting abilities and how "amazing" the "production" was. My dd was in the same play. It's a very low-budget, unprofessional little kids theater class that meets after school and puts on a play in the school cafeteria. It's cute, the kids enjoy it and it's a good experience for them, but it's nothing like she described it on FB. I have to laugh when I see her posts, but when I think about it, I feel a little sorry for her. I can't imagine anyone would exaggerate and brag that way if they really were that happy.

It's almost like they don't know that other people are involved in these activities too .

One friend has 5 posts from this weekend alone about being at their cabin--we KNOW you have a cabin, so does about 70% of the rest of the state . Apparently making breakfast at the cabin is better than making breakfast at home.

 

[crz4mm2]

I'd rather laugh at the bragging posts than read all those "oh poor me" posts all the time.

 

[MichelleVW]

I looked at the calendar and got excited about my upcoming cruise...so I posted this...

5 Weeks until our anniversary cruise!!!!! I can't wait!!!


Before that my status was...

Dear lady on House Hunters.....crown molding and granite counter tops are a Want, not a Need!!!!


Opps, apparently I am a big bragger because the third status downs says...

Home from my pedicure date.....had a great time!! I love my friends...they are pretty much the best!

But it's true...I did have a great time and I do love all my friends that went with me...

I guess this status from yesterday morning could be considered a whine??

Ok bunnies.....stop eating my flowers.....


I'll stop now.....lol....

 

[disykat]

I think we call all find posters right here on the Dis that do this.

And this, an annonymous forum, seems like a more reasonable place to do it to me!

 

[phorsenuf]

Eh, none of that stuff bothers me. If they are enjoying their life and want to share how happy they are then go for it. If you're a bit down sometimes it's nice to just vent about it. And if they want to view their life through rose colored glasses and it makes them feel good about their life, then all the more power to them.

Aren't these the same things we see here on the Dis? We see people vent all the time. So what if we use our real names or a fake one. How many people on these boards are braggarts? We all see it, all the time, whether it's a ticker in our signature, a trip report or just those great backhanded brags. You know the one that go;

"We just bought a new house, it's probably twice as big as our old one and just so hard to keep up with cleaning it, especially now that it's so nice out. All I want to do is lay on the deck of the inground pool. Oh and do you now where I can buy one of those great outdoor bar things? I want to get one but the only one I could find was $5,000 but it's too small."

I guess I just don't see what the big deal is. I suppose if it bothers you enough then get rid of your account or take them off the friends list. It always makes me chuckle on these threads, I guess I'm just too laid back for silly things like that to even be a blip on my radar.

 

[MELSMICE]

Facebook is like one continuous Christmas letter.

Best statement!

And then 4 people will comment asking what's wrong, saying they're praying for them, etc. etc. and it's the last you hear of it. The next post by them says that they're making english muffin pizzas for dinner and then giving the kids a bath.

My SIL does this ALL THE TIME! Drives me crazy.

 

[cari12]

I have not read all the posts on this thread so I apologize if this has already been mentioned. You may have heard of the riots in Vancouver after the Stanley Cup Final last week. A facebook page was set up to post videos/pics and you have the morons who committed the crimes posting videos of themselves and bragging about everything they did. The police are monitoring it all. They are basically saying "Come arrest me!". You have morons and then you have complete morons!

 

[cat83]

I agree that the most annoying posts are when couples post each others walls.

I understand it occasionally- maybe an anniversary or other celebration.

Seriously- why do you feel the need to make you conversation public, except to brag? If they aren't already sitting right next to you, they are a simple phone call away. Maybe its just us, but DH and I communicate very well and don't need to make everything public.

(real example: C writes to M "Oh M, I just have to tell you that you are the worlds best husband, and I love that you are at work supporting our family.". Another day "M! Baby just woke up, and I had to tell you that her eyes remind me of you! Can't wait to see you again in 4 hours!". And again "M, you are in the other room helping baby so sleep. You are my world and I am so thankful for you")


I have one relative who does this all the time (not just to her husband, but her parents and siblings- all mutual friends of mine). Each message is always filled with some kind of brag, and is obviously meant for everyone else to see. These are easy to spot, because the things she writes, the other person already knows or has experienced. kwim? There is no reason for her to be telling the other person something, except to brag to the rest of the world.

 

[LuvCuteBoys]

for the very short time I had a facebook acct, all I would read from people was "enjoying a glass of wine while relaxing on the deck"... "enjoying a quality, lazy day w/ the kids and hubby" (ummm, no you're not, you're glued to your computer posting on facebook about how your life is *perfect*)

You don't have to be glued to the computer to post on FB. It takes 3 seconds to type something from your phone.

Eh, none of that stuff bothers me. If they are enjoying their life and want to share how happy they are then go for it. If you're a bit down sometimes it's nice to just vent about it. And if they want to view their life through rose colored glasses and it makes them feel good about their life, then all the more power to them.

Aren't these the same things we see here on the Dis? We see people vent all the time. So what if we use our real names or a fake one. How many people on these boards are braggarts? We all see it, all the time, whether it's a ticker in our signature, a trip report or just those great backhanded brags. You know the one that go;

"We just bought a new house, it's probably twice as big as our old one and just so hard to keep up with cleaning it, especially now that it's so nice out. All I want to do is lay on the deck of the inground pool. Oh and do you now where I can buy one of those great outdoor bar things? I want to get one but the only one I could find was $5,000 but it's too small."

I guess I just don't see what the big deal is. I suppose if it bothers you enough then get rid of your account or take them off the friends list. It always makes me chuckle on these threads, I guess I'm just too laid back for silly things like that to even be a blip on my radar.

As long as people aren't getting hurt, I honestly don't see what the big deal is. I know my frends, I know my family, and I know their personalities. That's why I love them. If I didn't, they wouldn't be my friends... and luckily, my family is downright amazing. Maybe that's bragging, but I consider it more to be just an expression of how lucky I am.

When I start posting the stuff about how blessed I am, it tends to be a reminder to myself to remember how true it is more than anything else.

 

[marie1203]

I only have family and close friends in my facebook account. There has only been one person that annoy me because she will always complain about the "haters" seriously maybe she would think is something about her and not the other people . All other post seem to be normal people are happy, people are sad, people have hard days, there is always the one that post something funny. This is the way I keep in contact with family for the most part and I guess some people might seem as bragging our accomplishments to us is just a way for them to know what is happening in our lives without having to call our 17 aunts and uncles. DH hates facebook he says it ruins lives and wants nothing to do with it. I am just wondering if people hate posts like ______ so much why keep them as friends? Or having a facebook account all together?

 

[EMom]

Facebook is not like a Christmas newsletter. It's like a Christmas letter on STEROIDS!!!!!!


I do not do Facebook, but DSis does. She periodically calls to give me an alert when one bragalicious member of the family goes all Cousin Pearl/Hyacinth Bucket on Facebook. We have quite a time translating her fantasy posts into reality. Makes for good entertainment, but we cannot imagine who she thinks she's fooling.....

 

[disykat]

Why do I keep facebook if I hate those posts? Because I enjoy the rest of facebook. Most people use a little common sense. I only have a few people on my feed that do this, and I can't remove them because they are family. (although I am considering it after this last week) The rest, I hide.

Yes, I'm confused and annoyed by their posts. They are not keeping me informed about their lives with their "I'm miserable or I'm wonderfully happy" posts, because they never explain what they are about.