Boyfriend's grandmother is dying... what can I do to help?

[singingpixie]

I'm in a great, but still fairly new, relationship. I've never met my boyfriend's family because they live out of state, and we're not to that point in the relationship yet. He just found out last night that his grandmother is dying. Since I've been there really recently (and just generally because I care about him), I want to help! The problem is, I don't really know what there is I can do. I'd go with him to the funeral if he wants company, but being a couple hours away I don't know if feeling like he has to entertain me would be helpful at all. Do I send a card to his mom even though I've never met her? Cook something and send it with him when he goes up there?

 

[dmslush]

I would definitely cook something and send it, but I am southern.. and that is what we do LOL! But, I would then just tell him that you are there for him under no uncertain terms. Tell him that if he needs you to go with him, all he has to do is tell you. I would then leave it at that. And then just be emotionally supportive of him.

 

[mommasita]

I would definitely cook something and send it, but I am southern.. and that is what we do LOL! But, I would then just tell him that you are there for him under no uncertain terms. Tell him that if he needs you to go with him, all he has to do is tell you. I would then leave it at that. And then just be emotionally supportive of him.

I agree with this except I would not cook, as I am not good at it..

 

[lisajl]

funny, this is how I met my DH's extended family over 24 years ago!!

I would send something with him, food wise that is. If you can find a card that would be nice for him to take, too.

Not sure what else you can do for them, at least at this point.
When my DH's grandmother died, my inlaws paid for both our airline tix from Houston, TX to Flint, MI. It was nice to have her include me in their family.

Wow...a nice memory of my MIL! Thanks for reminding me of that time, I completely forgot she use to be nice to me!


Good luck

Lisa

 

[LoraJ]

Just be there for him. Ask him if he needs anything. Ask him if he needs you to be with him for the funeral. But I wouldn't ask him that until the time comes.

If he doesn't need you with him, definitely send him with food.

Just show that you care. I can never forget how cold my boyfriend at the time was when my grandfather died. But his son said the nicest thing to me "I'm sorry about your grandfather, and I am sorry that I nevr got to meet him."

 

[Mi3stooges]

Definately a card to his mom. Does his mom live near the grandmom, then maybe get a gift card to a take out restaurant in that area. Sorry