Boy Trouble

[babymine]

It's not porn. It's just that he lied, actually has been lying about something since the day we met. I don't know wether or not to dump him, since technically this was before we were together, but he never told me the truth since then.

He lied about his age, he said he was 35, turns out he's 45.

I know a lot of people lie about their age, so it seems like it shouldn't be such a big deal, and his age actually doesn't bother, but him lying about it does.

 

[SwedishMeatball]

Yeah, he probably has a wife and kids in another state. Move on, my friend.

 

[Wishing on a star]

1. He is a LYER!!!

2. If he hasn't got himself together by 45 years of age, ( and overcome all of these issues and problems that 'are not his fault') he NEVER will...

3. If this means that you are young enough to be his daughter...

RUN!!!!!

RUN like the wind...

You deserve better.

 

[poohandwendy]

Not trying to be mean, but it sounds to me like you are looking for a way to justify the new guy. If it is really that much trouble to deal with your current BF, then it is time to move on. Don't justify, just do it. If you really love your current boyfriend, your thoughts would be on how to help him, not another guy. Love isn't always a bed of roses. You have to take the bad with the good.

ITA

You are either serious with someone and committed to the relationship or not.

Sometimes, you must learn to walk away if it isn't what you are looking for.

It is never right to focus your energy on a new romantic interest while still involved a serious relationship (flirty, attracted to someone else- that is a romantic interest) A good rule of thumb is that if you would not be honest with your BF about this other person, you are doing the wrong thing.

 

[poohandwendy]

After reading the update, I think it's time to walk away.

1) You have reservations about the relationship anyways
2) You found out he has been lying to you from the start
3) You are interested in someone else.

No brainer, walk away.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Me again.

I do not know your age. I did mention in my first post on this thread that you seemed to be young/immature.

The title of your thread 'Boy Trouble' sounds like Jr. High...
Even your assumed screen-name Babymine, seems young/immature.

If you are that young, and are dating a man who admits to being 45 years old...

Either that, or you are are kid who is posting here, like a troll.

I believe it is the former.
If so, you really need to take a good objective look at where you are at, and your level of maturity, and other issues, before getting into another serious relationship.

 

[poohandwendy]

I have to say, I find it strange that you titled this thread 'Boy trouble', when you are dating an adult man. I automatically just assumed you were still in high school or early college.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Hey PoohandWendy, we are double-posting the same thoughts!!!

 

[poohandwendy]

LOL, WoaS, we had pretty much the same thoughts going on....

 

[poohandwendy]

OMG, we did it again...Get out of my brain!!!!

 

[LotsOfQuestions]

Have you consulted Evan or Ryan or Matt?

And does your old boy or new boy walse well?

 

[sweet angel]

How exactly does one keep their age hidden for 2 years?

FWIW, I'm 41 and wouldn't date a 45 year old man with all those issues. Nope, uh uh.

I wouldn't even date a 35 year old man with all those issues.

 

[gemmie214]

It's not porn. It's just that he lied, actually has been lying about something since the day we met. I don't know wether or not to dump him, since technically this was before we were together, but he never told me the truth since then.

He lied about his age, he said he was 35, turns out he's 45.

I know a lot of people lie about their age, so it seems like it shouldn't be such a big deal, and his age actually doesn't bother, but him lying about it does.

It is a big deal, a very big deal.

 

[NewJersey]

In the words of Kelly Clarkson, "Walk Away."

 

[Nana Annie]

Have you consulted Evan or Ryan or Matt?

And does your old boy or new boy walse well?

We need a diet coke spewing through the nose and splattering the monitor smilie.

OMG(oodness) - what a trip down memory lane!

 

[babymine]

Even your assumed screen-name Babymine, seems young/immature.

I picked that as my user name because it's one of my favorite Disney songs, you know, from Dumbo.

 

[babymine]

3. If this means that you are young enough to be his daughter...

RUN!!!!!

RUN like the wind...

You deserve better.

I guess I am technically young enough, he would of had to have been really - really young though when he had me. I did have a friend who was fourteen though when she had a baby, so it is possible to have kids that young but God that freaks me out. And I hadn't thought of that.

 

[babymine]

Have you consulted Evan or Ryan or Matt?

And does your old boy or new boy walse well?

 

[sweet angel]

So you think perpetuating a lie for 2 years is okay?

 

[The Mystery Machine]

He is 45? Heck I am 42.

If someone is having as much trouble as he is at that age, my advice to you is to run like like hell.

Even at age 35 you should have some of his issues squared away.

This guy is BAD NEWS. What else is he lying about? More than likely, ALOT!