I'll set this up by saying that I am a special education assistant at an elementary school.
We have a custodian(in his early to mid 60's) that has works at or school. He has been with us for about 2 1/2 or 3 years. He was like a breath of fresh air when he first started working there.
But slowly over time he is making me crazy!!
I can joke with the best of them and it really takes a lot to get me riled up. Last year he would say good morning to me every time he saw me and it progressed into "Good morning Mrs. ....." in a very icky way, and he would stop what ever he was doing to say it. even when I was bringing a class somewhere. So finally last May I said, " You need to stop saying good morning to me 17 times a day. You are bordering on harassment!"
He said, "I am not harassing you!"
To which I replied, "Well, That is how I feel. You can only say good morning to me once a day...in the morning."
He later stopped me in the hall and said in a very arogant way, "You and I know the minute you say harassment we will both be in trouble."
I was so angry i said to him, "There will be no WE in trouble" and I walked away......I wanted to say listen buster, you don't scare me. I may look like I'm 16, but I know how to stand up for myself!
After that I let it go. I had said what I needed to say, I addressed him first and the matter ended. He no longer spoke to me. Fine.
I worked at the school this summer at a 5 week camp they run, so I had to be around him for those 5 weeks. When I first saw him I sad hello And he was just a palin jerk and said, "Hello. Oh or is that harassment?" I said," Hey you need to get over it! I said what I had to say and it is now OVER!"
Well, over the past year I have also become increasingly uncomfortable with his interactions with the kids at school.
Our specialist classes (art, music, library, and gym)and cafeteria are close together. These classes change every 40 minutes.He seems to always be working in that area. He will stop his work to watch, or talk to the students. He will high five the students in the hall, or walk with them and chat if one has an errand to run.
Sept. of this year....
***We have 2 kindergarten students that do an extended day. They eat at a separate table with an adult at the same time first grade eats their lunch. (This custodian seems to always be in the caf. during the 1 1/2 hr lunch periods.) When ever the adult leaves the table to get something one of the students may need, he sits right down at the same table to eat and chat with them. UHG! Well, we solved that problem by placing these 2 students at the tables with the first graders.
*** October 11. I happened to have caf. duty that day. A second grade student was seated alone at a separate table for discipline reasons (No big deal, No big offense). Mr.... sat in the chair beside the student (with his own lunch)and started chatting. Well, I immediately went to the table.(I was close to running)and said," Mr.......He is on punishment and needs to be sitting by himself." He leaned nudged the boys arm and leaned into him and said something to the effect of ...is that so? I again said," he needs to be sitting by himself." Mr.... looked up at me. I again emphasized,"BY HIMSELF!!" at which point Mr.... picked up his lunch tray and went into the staff dining room.
Later in the day I went to our Assistant Principal with my "gut feeling and how uncomfortable I was with the custodian and gave him examples of my discomfort. He asked if I would put it in writing and I did. I was very careful with my words and tried to writ in a tone that expressed my discomfort and not in an attacking tone.
Well, I guess another teacher approached the A.P. the same day with similar complaints AND a parent had complained about how this custodian talked to some students in the bathroom.
I also later heard that someone else had filed an in house sexual harassment on him.
The A.P. spoke with this custodian. Custodian approached the complaining teacher and appologized and made some excuse as to why he did what he did.
He doesn't speak our even look in my direction when I am in the hall.
I DO NOT CARE AS I KNOW I DID THE RIGHT THING AND HE IS NOT GOING TO FOOL ME WITH HIS LITTLE EXCUSES!!!
The other morning he was standing behind the counter in the office greating people as if he was one of the office workers.....I just want to scream....." ARE YOU STUPID?!?!?"
What will it take to get rid of this guy?
So needless to say my eyes are on him and I will not hesitate to report him again!
All of our other custodians are wonderful! Very hard workers and they know the boundries of their jobs and the children.
Oh apparently he used to be a policeman to boot! I heard he was sort of forced to resign after women complined that he would not give them a ticket if they performes "favors" for him.
OH, I am just feeling so WILD right now!!!!!
We have a custodian(in his early to mid 60's) that has works at or school. He has been with us for about 2 1/2 or 3 years. He was like a breath of fresh air when he first started working there.
But slowly over time he is making me crazy!!
I can joke with the best of them and it really takes a lot to get me riled up. Last year he would say good morning to me every time he saw me and it progressed into "Good morning Mrs. ....." in a very icky way, and he would stop what ever he was doing to say it. even when I was bringing a class somewhere. So finally last May I said, " You need to stop saying good morning to me 17 times a day. You are bordering on harassment!"
He said, "I am not harassing you!"
To which I replied, "Well, That is how I feel. You can only say good morning to me once a day...in the morning."
He later stopped me in the hall and said in a very arogant way, "You and I know the minute you say harassment we will both be in trouble."
I was so angry i said to him, "There will be no WE in trouble" and I walked away......I wanted to say listen buster, you don't scare me. I may look like I'm 16, but I know how to stand up for myself!
After that I let it go. I had said what I needed to say, I addressed him first and the matter ended. He no longer spoke to me. Fine.
I worked at the school this summer at a 5 week camp they run, so I had to be around him for those 5 weeks. When I first saw him I sad hello And he was just a palin jerk and said, "Hello. Oh or is that harassment?" I said," Hey you need to get over it! I said what I had to say and it is now OVER!"
Well, over the past year I have also become increasingly uncomfortable with his interactions with the kids at school.
Our specialist classes (art, music, library, and gym)and cafeteria are close together. These classes change every 40 minutes.He seems to always be working in that area. He will stop his work to watch, or talk to the students. He will high five the students in the hall, or walk with them and chat if one has an errand to run.
Sept. of this year....
***We have 2 kindergarten students that do an extended day. They eat at a separate table with an adult at the same time first grade eats their lunch. (This custodian seems to always be in the caf. during the 1 1/2 hr lunch periods.) When ever the adult leaves the table to get something one of the students may need, he sits right down at the same table to eat and chat with them. UHG! Well, we solved that problem by placing these 2 students at the tables with the first graders.
*** October 11. I happened to have caf. duty that day. A second grade student was seated alone at a separate table for discipline reasons (No big deal, No big offense). Mr.... sat in the chair beside the student (with his own lunch)and started chatting. Well, I immediately went to the table.(I was close to running)and said," Mr.......He is on punishment and needs to be sitting by himself." He leaned nudged the boys arm and leaned into him and said something to the effect of ...is that so? I again said," he needs to be sitting by himself." Mr.... looked up at me. I again emphasized,"BY HIMSELF!!" at which point Mr.... picked up his lunch tray and went into the staff dining room.
Later in the day I went to our Assistant Principal with my "gut feeling and how uncomfortable I was with the custodian and gave him examples of my discomfort. He asked if I would put it in writing and I did. I was very careful with my words and tried to writ in a tone that expressed my discomfort and not in an attacking tone.
Well, I guess another teacher approached the A.P. the same day with similar complaints AND a parent had complained about how this custodian talked to some students in the bathroom.
I also later heard that someone else had filed an in house sexual harassment on him.
The A.P. spoke with this custodian. Custodian approached the complaining teacher and appologized and made some excuse as to why he did what he did.
He doesn't speak our even look in my direction when I am in the hall.
I DO NOT CARE AS I KNOW I DID THE RIGHT THING AND HE IS NOT GOING TO FOOL ME WITH HIS LITTLE EXCUSES!!!
The other morning he was standing behind the counter in the office greating people as if he was one of the office workers.....I just want to scream....." ARE YOU STUPID?!?!?"
What will it take to get rid of this guy?
So needless to say my eyes are on him and I will not hesitate to report him again!
All of our other custodians are wonderful! Very hard workers and they know the boundries of their jobs and the children.
Oh apparently he used to be a policeman to boot! I heard he was sort of forced to resign after women complined that he would not give them a ticket if they performes "favors" for him.
OH, I am just feeling so WILD right now!!!!!
