Boy problems!! Need Girls Help!

[TinkRockz106]

Well Today i was with my friend and my dog and brother walking my puppy.
Then this kid in my school walks up to me with this other kid and says he likes you. He was talking about the kid that was next to him. And the kid next to him happens to be my crush brian! but the kid that was telling me this is always a kidder , if i should say so myself! I looked over at the kid next to me and he smiled and shruged his shoulders.

I don't know if he likes me or not! So what should i do! I am too embarressed to go up to him and say do you really like me ! I need some of you girls advice fast please!!!

 

[bananda]

honestly, i would just wait for him to tell you. or get a mutual friend to find out.

 

[BabyPiglet]

That's very...immature. I can't believe people are still doing that, lolol.

Anyway, just walk up to him and saying something like 'So I hear you like me.' Be confident and flirtateous.

Of course, my advice is usually for people around 16+, I don't know how old you are.

 

[TinkRockz106]

i am also 12 so if you guys cangive me some info around that age would defintley help me!

 

[pigletgirl]

Don't worry about. You seem super young.

ETA: I see you're 12.

You definitely dont have to be dating.

 

[BabyPiglet]

Woah. 12? That's so young.

Forget about guys right now, they'll only cause you trouble.

 

[bananda]

please dont take this the wrong way, but im thinking that 12 is a bit young for relationships. really, a relationship can only go 2 ways: you generally either end up married or breaking up. the less heartache you go through, the better. sorry if that seems a bit harsh, its just my opinion on the topic.

 

[TinkRockz106]

well alot of the people in my school around my grade are dating and we are like super mature! so we should about being around the age group of dating! do you guys think so? and when did you start to date?

 

[BabyPiglet]

12 year olds can't really...date, can they? You guys can't drive, so you'd have to have your parents take you. That's no fun!

Besides, boys just mess up all of your emotions. They make it so they're all you can think of. You obsess when they don't answer the phone. And then they just break your heart without a thought. Little boys act stupid and careless.

Honestly, you should put off dating as long as possible. As much as you might think it right now, you're actually not that mature. You have a ton of growing up to do, then you can find out what a relationship is really like.

What would you actually 'do' if you were dating someone? Hang out with them at school? Call/text? And...that's pretty much it, right?

(I started dating at 14, but it was a complete disaster.)

 

[TinkRockz106]

Actually if i was dating my crush or any guy i would just like hang with him alot and walk with him and he would come over my houe and we could go places. my mom knows that i am very responnsible because i have my little bro he is 7 and i have to watch him and nothing ever went wrong before so my mom would absoulotley aprove of me dating brian!

My mom actually thinks brian is a nice kid. he is always staying out of trouble. my mom is like really good friends with his mom because they wirk toget ther and me and brian get along.

and all my friends think we would make a cute couple!

 

[bananda]

i was unofficially dating someone last year, my first "boyfriend" and i was 17. when we broke up, i decided it was a good thing that i didn't date til 17 coz i wasn't mature enough when i was younger to handle the pain when it fell apart. pretty much everyone thinks they are more mature than they are at 12-14. just be friends until you're a bit older.

 

[pigletgirl]

12 year olds can't really...date, can they? You guys can't drive, so you'd have to have your parents take you. That's no fun!

Besides, boys just mess up all of your emotions. They make it so they're all you can think of. You obsess when they don't answer the phone. And then they just break your heart without a thought. Little boys act stupid and careless.

Honestly, you should put off dating as long as possible. As much as you might think it right now, you're actually not that mature. You have a ton of growing up to do, then you can find out what a relationship is really like.

What would you actually 'do' if you were dating someone? Hang out with them at school? Call/text? And...that's pretty much it, right?

(I started dating at 14, but it was a complete disaster.)

Ditto!

When boys (not even guys) are 12 they are super immature and really dont know how to carry themselves. So its expected they will act weird around girls.

I still thought boys were gross when I was 12.

 

[TinkRockz106]

But i just dont know if he likes me or not! but i like really like him!
when we go back to school i am going to tell my bffl to tell him that i am in love with him at lunch . but i still need advice to what i should do if he says yes or not. when we are in the relationship on whast to do .

 

[bananda]

make sure to put up boundaries. i know it might sound a bit stupid but you need boundaries or you could end up going way too far physically. im not just talking about sleeping together, if you ever feel uncomfortable, stop.

also i would try not to flirt heaps when you are around others, it makes people feel really awkward.

on an emotional level, make sure you maintain a strong friendship. he should be like a best friend. take things slowly.

thats all the advice i have. even though i dont have much experience in this area, i've seen bad thigs happen to my friends so be careful. hope thats helpful

 

[HouseMD1120]

Seriously, dont get in a relationship right now. 12 is so young. And even though you think you're mature, you really arent mature enough to handle a relationship. And at this age, it will most likely end within a few week, and if you're lucky, a few months. Dont mean to sound harsh but its my opinion. A lot of girls at my homeschool umbrella school that are your age usually date their boyfriends for about a week and get sick of them and move on. Guys at this age are really immature too.

I'll be 15 in a few days and have had one boyfriend (we lasted for like 5 months because he was insecure about himself and freaked out whenever I talked to other guys). I'm happy about that. Life is so much easier without guy drama. Its easier to concentrate on school and friends and family.

If you feel as if you must be in a relationship with this guy right now, take it S-L-O-W-L-Y. Become really good friends first, and then if you still feel like you want to go out with him, go for it. Personally I think it would be a mistake because of your age, but its your life.

 

[ohdisco]

I agree that 12 is usually just a little too young for all the emotions that go with a real relationship. Any relationship starting before you're in your late teens is just looking to cause you heartache. Psh, I'm 20 and I hardly am capable of dealing with real relationship emotions.

Though, it seems you're wanting to pursue this boy, so just ask him. Say, "Hey, I think you're really cool and I think I like you." and just ask him if he feels the same.

 

[metsluva57]

well alot of the people in my school around my grade are dating and we are like super mature! so we should about being around the age group of dating! do you guys think so? and when did you start to date?

I'm 12 also. I've never dated, and only the "cool" crowd in my grade dates. You just know thats going to end up somewhere bad. I think 12 is too young to date, and I don't plan on it for a while. And like some other people said on here, you won't be able to go anywhere or do anything without your parents picking you up/dropping you off. And if you're just going to text/call him...i really don't see the reason for the whole 'Boyfriend' thing.

But about the Brian thing...It happened to me once, and i could tell he was totally faking. Sometimes it's easy to tell and sometimes it isn't. I think you should just walk up to his friend and say "Were you really telling the truth or were you just joking around?" Maybe go up to Brian and say "Do you really like me? Or was it a joke?"...something like that.

 

[TinkRockz106]

I'm 12 also. I've never dated, and only the "cool" crowd in my grade dates. You just know thats going to end up somewhere bad. I think 12 is too young to date, and I don't plan on it for a while. And like some other people said on here, you won't be able to go anywhere or do anything without your parents picking you up/dropping you off. And if you're just going to text/call him...i really don't see the reason for the whole 'Boyfriend' thing.




But about the Brian thing...It happened to me once, and i could tell he was totally faking. Sometimes it's easy to tell and sometimes it isn't. I think you should just walk up to his friend and say "Were you really telling the truth or were you just joking around?" Maybe go up to Brian and say "Do you really like me? Or was it a joke?"...something like that.

I will do that soon! thankx

 

[BabyPiglet]

But i just dont know if he likes me or not! but i like really like him!
when we go back to school i am going to tell my bffl to tell him that i am in love with him at lunch . but i still need advice to what i should do if he says yes or not. when we are in the relationship on whast to do .

So if you insist on pursuing him, I have some tips.

Don't do the whole 'friend telling him that you like him' thing. Like I said before, it's really immature.

Secondly, you do not love him. Love is a huge word. Love is so true, deep, & emotional. It means you care for the other person so much you would die for him, just so he could be able to live. It means that 1 minute after he walks away, you already miss him. It means you can just sit there with each other doing absolutely nothing & you'd be in total bliss. Love is a word with no meaning, but all the meaning in the world. I honestly don't think a 12 year old is capable of those feelings.

Now, what you need to do is befriend him. Become really good friends, and in a year or so, if you still like him, tell him so. That way you'll know what he's really like, because best friends tell each other everything. And it won't be so awkward when/if you do finally tell him.

Have patience, you're only 12, you have all the time in the world.

I agree that 12 is usually just a little too young for all the emotions that go with a real relationship. Any relationship starting before you're in your late teens is just looking to cause you heartache. Psh, I'm 20 and I hardly am capable of dealing with real relationship emotions.

Though, it seems you're wanting to pursue this boy, so just ask him. Say, "Hey, I think you're really cool and I think I like you." and just ask him if he feels the same.

Oh gosh, yes. I'm a total nutcase sometimes (okay, most the time. ) & I'm not sure if I'd be able to handle everything. Especially '*************' because I'm not sure what our relationship would mean to the other person, he could date other people, etc.

 

[HouseMD1120]

So if you insist on pursuing him, I have some tips.

Don't do the whole 'friend telling him that you like him' thing. Like I said before, it's really immature.

Secondly, you do not love him. Love is a huge word. Love is so true, deep, & emotional. It means you care for the other person so much you would die for him, just so he could be able to live. It means that 1 minute after he walks away, you already miss him. It means you can just sit there with each other doing absolutely nothing & you'd be in total bliss. Love is a word with no meaning, but all the meaning in the world. I honestly don't think a 12 year old is capable of those feelings.

Now, what you need to do is befriend him. Become really good friends, and in a year or so, if you still like him, tell him so. That way you'll know what he's really like, because best friends tell each other everything. And it won't be so awkward when/if you do finally tell him.

Have patience, you're only 12, you have all the time in the world.
Oh gosh, yes. I'm a total nutcase sometimes (okay, most the time. ) & I'm not sure if I'd be able to handle everything. Especially '*************' because I'm not sure what our relationship would mean to the other person, he could date other people, etc.