Bittersweet...I'm going to be an aunt!

[minniebeth]

Congratulations on becoming an aunt! It sounds like you have a loving and supportive family, so enjoy your special role and I will pray that it will happen for you too.

I will keep you in my thoughts!

 

[scootch]

Hugs to you. The infertility rollercoaster is something that noone can understand unless they experienced it. Will pray someday you have the miracle you are wishing for.

 

[mickeyboat]

I have felt your pain. Hugs.

When we were having trouble conceiving, no one in my family knew I had just lost a pregnancy as ectopic. I was absolutely devastated when my sister in law handed me an unused pregnancy test and told me I could have it because she wouldn't be needing them anymore. She was due the same week I would have been.

It took me a long time to get over that, and a long time to be a good aunt. I wish I had talked to her about it at the time. It is good OP that you can talk to your sister.

Wishing you many blessings, OP.

 

[cm8]

My sisters had GROWN children and I was still struggling to have a child, for years. I decided to make my nieces and nephews MY children. I doted on them, loved them to death... and when it was my time, God blessed me with my son.

My son is younger than my sister's GRANDCHILD!

Hang in there. Sometimes it seems so unfair. But when it's YOUR time you WILL be blessed.

AMEN

 

[postesf]

I understand. I have PCOS and was very fortunate that during my first round of meds I got pregnant. At the same time one of my best friends and cousin were both pregnant. One was 4 mo along, the other 5 mo along. Then, I had a miscarriage. I gave baby showers for both of them within weeks of having my D&E. I got through it and tried not to think too much about it, but it's tough.

It's so good you can talk to your sister about it and that she understands. I know you will love your neice or newphew and spoil them and in time things will work out for you. I hope for the best for you! I'm sure it will happen for you...in time. Just keep trying.

 

[hipporina]

Fpr those of you who, on every thread about someone not being able to have a baby, post "There's always adoption". Do you think that we don't know that? Perhaps we have reasons for not wanting "build" a family through adoption. We are also very aware of donor eggs, surrogacy, and sperm donation.

I don't post that thinking that the person is unaware of the adoption option. I have just been so blessed by adoption that I want to share that with others. We never really realized how easy it is to adopt children through the foster care system until my husband worked as a case manager for a foster care agency. I wish someone would have talked to us about it sooner.

I was always frustrated by the "your time will come" comments because I always thought "it might not..then what?" Sure enough, we still haven't had a baby, but adoption has allowed us to have a family.

I am sorry if I offended you. I did not intend to.

 

[Disney Doll]

I don't post that thinking that the person is unaware of the adoption option. I have just been so blessed by adoption that I want to share that with others. We never really realized how easy it is to adopt children through the foster care system until my husband worked as a case manager for a foster care agency. I wish someone would have talked to us about it sooner.

I was always frustrated by the "your time will come" comments because I always thought "it might not..then what?" Sure enough, we still haven't had a baby, but adoption has allowed us to have a family.

I am sorry if I offended you. I did not intend to.

You didn't offend me really. It's just one of those that infertile couples get sick of hearing. It's been a long time (10 years) since I was doing the infertility thing, so I've put it in its place in my life.

Now I hear "Why didn't you adopt?". Because DH & I had reservations about it that we could never resolve, so it didn't seem like the right thing to do for us.

Now I hear "Why didn't you do egg donation, surrogacy, sperm donation? All of those felt, to us, too much like pushing the hand of God.

Please note I make no judgements on other peoples' choices.

Plus, now all the people who got pregnant when DH & I were trying have teenagers, and I have to tell you, being childfree isn't so bad in comparison to raising teenagers.

 

[si-am]

You didn't offend me really. It's just one of those that infertile couples get sick of hearing. It's been a long time (10 years) since I was doing the infertility thing, so I've put it in its place in my life.

Now I hear "Why didn't you adopt?". Because DH & I had reservations about it that we could never resolve, so it didn't seem like the right thing to do for us.

Now I hear "Why didn't you do egg donation, surrogacy, sperm donation? All of those felt, to us, too much like pushing the hand of God.

Please note I make no judgements on other peoples' choices.

Plus, now all the people who got pregnant when DH & I were trying have teenagers, and I have to tell you, being childfree isn't so bad in comparison to raising teenagers.

I think some people just don't understand that couples who want so badly to have a baby might not want to do that through adoption. I'm in the same place. I have lots of reasons why adoption just isn't for us, but people still try to argue with me about the subject.