Betrayal

[tom31b]

Ultimate revenge? That was your original question. If you really want to be cruel, take the shot of him and hooker and have it made into a holiday card and send to all his family, friends and colleagues.

 

[LindyN]

ultimate revenge? That was your original question. If you really want to be cruel, take the shot of him and hooker and have it made into a holiday card and send to all his family, friends and colleagues.

perfect!

 

[Stevania]

I have to say I am amazed at those who think she can just turn off her emotions in a 24 hour period. Two days ago, she had no reason (that she knew of) not to love this guy; yesterday she did. You really think she can snap her fingers and all the feelings will just go away? Give her a break, please. She's dealing with an almost surreal set of circumstances here.

OP, luck and strength to you. Take care of yourself.

Aboslutely. No one can just turn "off" love and how dare someone say that there is something wrong with her for that. I also find it kinda humorous that the person telling her that, can not get over the death of a popsinger/pedophile that she never met.

 

[Miss Park Avenue]

I have to say I am amazed at those who think she can just turn off her emotions in a 24 hour period. Two days ago, she had no reason (that she knew of) not to love this guy; yesterday she did. You really think she can snap her fingers and all the feelings will just go away? Give her a break, please. She's dealing with an almost surreal set of circumstances here.

OP, luck and strength to you. Take care of yourself.

Maleficent said better than I could. I didn't see anything in the OP words that indicated that she was on the fence. She is hurting and going through many of the same confusing feelings I went through almost three years ago.

Pugdog, I'm so sorry for all the pain you are suffering right now.

 

[hornedfrog]

If you can still say you love him... you need some other kind of help than we can give here. You will need to find a clinic where you can get checked every 6 months for the rest of your life. You will need good insurance to pay for the treatments you will eventually end up needing. You will need a therapist who will take your calls at all hours. You will need good birth control so you never have to expalin to your daughter that she should not be treated this way. You will need friends who dont question it becasue you will be too ashamed to talk about it. You will need some kind of self defense abilites becaue sooner or later some strung out skank will come looking for you maybe with a few dirty faced children who need child support becasue mom is dying of a disease.

Lord help you if you take that path.
Please consider the kind of future you want.

I don't know if this was an attempt at a 'tough-love' sort of post, but I have rarely read something so cruel. She said that she loves him. She's had her world blown apart. This has nothing to do with decisions or future actions or her immenent suffering/demise. It's an emotion.

OP, I hope that you find peace.

 

[teacups]

I don't know if this was an attempt at a 'tough-love' sort of post, but I have rarely read something so cruel. She said that she loves him. She's had her world blown apart. This has nothing to do with decisions or future actions or her immenent suffering/demise. It's an emotion.

OP, I hope that you find peace.

Op I am sorry if I upset you . That was NOT my intention. I really tried to point out what life with someone who does this could be like,which is why I ended with asking you to think about your future. Again, I'm sorry if it was cruel. Not what I intended. Of course you should do what you want... but I really hope you consider the choices you have for your future in front of you right now. Good luck.

 

[marlynnp]

Aboslutely. No one can just turn "off" love and how dare someone say that there is something wrong with her for that. I also find it kinda humorous that the person telling her that, can not get over the death of a popsinger/pedophile that she never met.

Pugdog, I am so sorry you are being put through this. Take care of yourself.

 

[rie'smom]

It is hard to stop loving someone. My first husband was a dream until I married him. He transformed into an abusive, hateful man almost as soon as we retutrned from the honeymoon. It was so hard for me to reconcile the man he had become with the man who swept me off my feet. We separated and go back together a few times before I came to the sad realization that he was not going to change. I finally left him for good. He wanted me back and became the man of my dreams again but this time I knew better. It was very hard to let go because I loved him. After a few years, I met my present husband and have been with him happily for 30 years. They got to be friendly. I insisted they be cordial because I had a son with husband #1. After a bit, they called each other husband-in law. He wasn't a horrible, terrible person. He grew up in a home where both the husband and wife were abusive to each other and he couldn't/wouldn't overcome it.

True love cannot be turned off and on like a light switch.

 

[alexandria674]

I just wanted to say I am really sorry for what is going on right now and I wish you the best no matter what happens.

 

[*pixie*dust*]

1. Save the pics in a safe place.
2. Get tested.
3. Get the best attorney you can.
4. Get him out of the house.
5. Allow yourself to grieve.
6. Make you(and your children if you have them) your #1 priority

 

[java]

I would not waste time feeling for someone that clearly didn't give a rat's behind about your safety and health.
Thank goodness you found this out BEFORE you got married. I would move on immediately. Not wait for an explanation. He's a loser. Cut your losses and move on.

That is a deal breaker for me.