kaytieeldr: No, bad service does not warrant getting a manager before it comes to that point 90% of the time. That is the point of a bad tip, sending the message. It is much easier than all of that other. And have you ever heard the saying: Be nice to the person who handles your food? You still have to deal with that person. And while I strongly believe that most aren't going "get revenge" for your complaining, but they aren't going to go out of their way to do anything better. Even fantastic servers have a bad day, or a bad table. It is not unheard of in a busy situation to let one table go down in order to save the rest.
And while union negotations, not international travlers, are not the "reason" for the DDE auto-grat, what made union officials want an auto-grat from somewhere? It isn't "THE" reason, but it comes into play. And when people are using it as an arguement for auto-grat in general if not specifically this reason, it does come into play.
If there were plates on the table from a previous diner, that is a management and busser problem, not a server issue. Disney hires bussers, and, yes, servers pre-bus, but not in our experience at Disney Buffets. But then again, someone was saying something about 5 trips to the buffet. My family doesn't eat anywhere near that much, and we don't pile the plates high. I find buffets to be a very poor value because of it and would like to avoid them altogether. However, tell my 3 and 6 yo that we can't go to Chef Mickey's or 90% of the other character meals and see how well it goes over.
My DH has worked in both restaurants. He'll tell you loud and clear that buffets are way easier than table service to wait on. You also get double the tables in a buffet. Over half the amount of work isn't present in a buffet, including connecting with the table.
FDV: I've worked fine dining. And know many more people who have worked in a huge variety of restaurants. Fine dining does not equal more money in most cases. The average causal restaurant has a station of 3-4 tables. Fine dining is 1-2. Fine Dining requires a higher level of service, which means you need to be there more often. The trade off is that there are much higher checks. In the end though, it balances. Like I stated before, I knew people who left fine dining to go to IHOP because in the end, their paychecks were higher at IHop than the fine dining place and the expectations of the restaurant were much lower. And this wasn't a poor server; this was an excellent server.
I was in the industry for decades. So was DH--and we never worked together. We still have many good friends who work in the industry. We all laugh at the fee to be able to work there rumors. That isn't true. I live in one of the largest metro areas in the country and know no one who makes 6 figures waiting tables. Except for maybe where the cost of living is so out of the ballpark (ie, Hawaii) that it wouldn't matter anyhow. That is one of those little snoopes things.
Also, you're a little mistaken on how the taxes are configured. Each server pays 100% of their credit card/room charge tips and auto-grat tips. The restaurant is required to submit those earnings to the IRS or risk large fines. Then a server pays taxes on a minimum of 8% of every cash bill (or non-credit card tipped bill). The assumption is that if no tip is left on the credit card statement, a cash tip is left. So, servers pay for tips they were stiffed on. Then on top of that, servers generally have a tip out of 1-3% of what they sell that goes to bartenders, food runners, bussers and sometimes host staff. Tip out will vary from restaurant to restuarant. I once worked at a restaurant that had servers pay out 17% of what they earned, which must be at least 4% of what they sold.