I can understand paying for the costume, but I'm confused as to what I'm paying for since she isn't even getting a costume? Of course I'll pay it every time since the joy of seeing her dance is priceless!
So it goes towards the theater rental? DD's recital is being held at a high school. I didn't think it would cost a whole lot to rent a high school but maybe I'm wrong.

Thanks.
For the ballet concert that my school puts on each year, the total cost for rental is around $5000, with most of that being the staff that we are required by the school system to use. That is for about 25 hours worth of rental.
I actually get a cut-deal because the high school theater department uses our program to help train the incoming freshmen theater techs for the next year, and my husband does the sound. So far, every year, we've been able to break even. Some day it would be nice to pay myself for the time that I spend in the theater.
As far as a used costume, there is still cleaning and repairs to be done to them, even if the parent is taking care of alterations.
Recital fees go to a lot more than just costume and theater. Some of the costs include, but are not limited to, programs and posters, choreographers, teachers time during the theater week, and don't forget the amount of time that the directors spend on planning the whole thing.
Also, for many schools, they use the proceeds from recital programming to pay rent during summer months when attendance is often next to nothing.
I have never heard of any school that actually made money off of a recital program.