I am really sorry the OP feels like she had a bad vacation. I do think when several small things go wrong early, it can be easy to start thinking you're having a bad trip, and then start to really focus on the negative. Once you get in that mindset, you really notice every slight and every issue. You can get into a downward spiral, where you remember what you hoped this vacation would be, and you note every moment where reality differed from expectation or hope.
We just got back from a great trip. We had a lot of little things go wrong, and we had a lot of things go right. I think that is normal for most trips (and for life.) We actually had an amazing and fantastic trip, that we felt had a lot of pixie dust, despite the several things that definitely went wrong. (I can truly say them that something seemed to go wrong every day for us, too, including a really condescending and rude cast member at one restaurant; a very important lost item that housekeeping said they had found, but then was no where to be found; a magic band that suddenly wouldn't let someone in our party charge when she was off by herself; a wait time posted for 30 minutes that turned out to be more than 75, so messed up our schedule for our final afternoon; our preordered meal at BOG not working right, with the strangest excuses I've ever heard from castmembers, and then having to spend almost 30 minutes waiting for the kiosk where we had to redo our orders because of the problems the family ahead of us was having, etc.) We had problems, too.
The truth is, most people are going to have problems on their vacations, because there are so many interactions with so many individuals, both Disney employees and other guests with their own individual agendas and foci. We had dozens, possibly even hundreds, of positive interactions with cast members and other guests. I remember the one negative interaction with the snippy, rude seater at the restaurant. But think about it, we dealt with one really unpleasant person in a week of vacation. Sure, we dealt with others that maybe weren't as warm and fuzzy as we might have liked, but the truth is, most of the castmembers do an amazing job being friendly and helpful, under what can sometimes be very stressful circumstances. Almost all of the cast members really are trying hard to make things go as well and smoothly as possible, while following the rules (as they understand them) and making sure everyone else is following those rules, too. Most really want to make your vacation go as well as possible, while not somehow lessening other people's vacation experiences by showing favoritism or making exceptions.
Anyway, all vacations will have problems. I could have focused on all the little things that went wrong, but instead, we chose to focus on all the things that went right, and be enthusiastic about all the positive moments. When something would go wrong, we'd remind our kids or my mother of something that had been great. Our kids think we had one of the best vacations ever. Hey, I think we did, too!
